Are you looking for something that doesn't exist?

As in chasing a dream that can never be fulfilled? I've been chasing the dream of a 'happily ever after' relationship for the past thirty years. Only now do I think if it was going to happen it would have happened by now. It's not for me. My sister is still chasing the dream of being a successful actor in her forties, and I can't see it happening. It's about having a reality check, and coming to terms with who we are.

 

Yes...

 

What are you looking for Tyrson?

 

a free country would be nice.

there are lots of things that we are completely capable of creating that have yet to exist only because for a variety of reasons,
mostly cultural, which is also sometimes called traditional, we have yet to get around to.

i'm not chaising anything though, nor holding my breath and instead trying to avoid beating my head against walls.

 

My ex is the same in searching for the perfect relationship. Very slim chance if her ever being happy with anyone. Relationships are all give and take. To love someone and be happy you have to accept some of the things you don't particularly like in them as well as the things you love in them. You can change someone to a certain extent but never to your perfect person.

 

The other members of the band...

 

I'm not looking for anything any more. I just wish people would leave me the fuck alone, and that's one good thing about the pandemic: people don't bother me like they used to. I wish that aspect of the pandemic would last for the rest of my life.

 

Perfection is a myth, especially pertaining to relationships. There is no "happily ever after" there is just a string of moments, some happy, some sad, some infuriating but always together. The vows you take are to be together through it all but we all hope for more good times than bad. My problem is that I am very rarely happy but it's not because of my relationship. I am in a good, not perfect, but very good relationship with my husband of 20 years but I am still not happy. I am still looking for something that doesn't exist, at least not yet...self love. I know I have to fix the relationship that I have with myself if I ever want to find happiness but I am not sure if my marriage will be able to withstand it. I guess I'll find out when the time comes.

I hope you all find what you'er looking for.

 

Cheer down, my friend.
You really never know.

 

no one knows the limits of what's capable of existing. i keep all my eyes open on the off chance of seeing them.
reality is rocks and trees and galaxies and owes nothing to what we tell each other.

i don't look for what people say, because people can say anything. i look for what people don't say, because that's almost always more interesting.

 

Sort of reminds me of something a doctor once asked me.
"Do you ever see things that aren't there?"
Stupid question... If I SEE a thing, how am I to know it's not there?

 

really. its not that anything "can't" exist, its just that whatever does exist, owes nothing to what we tell each other.

i sort of think the only reason that isn't obvious, is people having for so long, since at least the beginning of settled agriculture, been trying to convince each other that it isn't.

 

I have fulfilled most of my dreams.
Now I must think of new ones.
I guess I have been lucky?

 

As far as personal aspirations go,
I did fine.
All I really wanted was to be a mom, which I am.
I have a boy and a girl.
So mission accomplished!

 

I have identical twin boys.
I blame my hubby, he is a Geminni.

 

I am an Aquarius and the dad was a Libra.
They both look like him.
Was it hard telling your boys apart?

 

Yes and it is their Birthday tomorrow.
12 minutes apart.

 

i'm "looking for" and finding all the time, reality, that does not even slightly relate to what people try to tell each other to pretend about it.
we live in a so much more wonderfully diverse universe then the fanatacism of anything demands we narrow our perceptions to.

 

You look hard enough you will find something.

 

Just not what you are looking for...