Would you let your 16 old?

Would you let your 16 old son occasionally smoke weed if he was responsible with it, made straight A's, and sweared on the bible that he would never touch nicotine/alcohol/any other drug ??

 

please don't get mad at me guys but...



yes...if it was not affecting his life badly and he was under control I would. I can't stop my childern from doing things I do myself. I would keep on him about being responsible with it though so he doesn't get in trouble.

 

If it were legal, I would, because I have no issue with marijuana itself. But it's against the law, and I can't encourage someone to break the law. Especially if they were my own kid.

But if my kid visited, like, Holland, where I believe marijuana is legal, I don't see myself getting angry at them for saying they smoked a little pot on the trip. If they legalized marijuana here, I'd probably would let them smoke it as long as they were responsible about it. I guess that's one of those "You'd have to be there to know" things, but that's how I imagine I'd feel.

 

if your smoking weed you cant truely say your never going to anyother drug

specially if your only 16 sorry bro i would have to say never say never

 

as far as smoking i agree with mama if i do it and your and your not fucking anything up in your life cause of it rock on

 

I'm 17 now, and I can honestly say that 20 or 25 years down the road when I have a child my age or a bit younger, that no way in hell would I allow him and her to smoke ANYTHING. How are they supposed to scream at me over something with tar lungs?

There's no way I'd be able to control what he/she does with it or who does it with him, which causes even more problems. I know I won't do pot for those reasons, so why should I let my future child do the same?

 

I couldn't let them, I've done it in my time and have grown out of it. It's not something that interests me anymore although a lot of my friends still smoke a lot and they just walk around in a daze or also do harder substances like coke often

 

Ditto Jesi [feministhippy] on this one.

As for the swearing on the Bible about the other stuff. I'd laugh, seriously like I'd believe them. They've obviously got no issues about illegal drugs, so why should legal ones be diffrent.

Actually I've no problem with alcohol. Used as you say responsibly and such. My parents have always been open about, let my brother and I use it and basically setting a good example (can't remember them ever getting totally drunk). So yes I drink, but sensibly. Never felt it was rebellious or whatever so didn't do anything secretive or stupid.

 

Id not trust a 16yo not to not do anything I didn't want him to. Most kids will eventualy do something their parents don't want them doing~ That's that fun of being young and rebelious. And these things pass if you let them pass but fighting it just makes kids hide things and do them more. Im prety open minded and if my kid was smoking a bit ( not tons and selling it or anything) id not worry horribly much. Just pay attention to things he did outside of that and his friends etc...the whole picture really has a lot to do with the kind of drug use going on.

 

now, I'm young so my opinion may change, but yes. I would rather responsibly have my child smoke and get the facts from me and with me rather than going out and being stupid and risking getting caught. It would also depend on my kids attitude. If he would be stupid and tell his friends and risk getting in trouble then, no. But I plan on smoking then so I don't know how much I could hide it anyway.

 

Oh come on...All you who are saying you couldn't let your children do it...My mother trusted me to be honest with her, and I was...She was ok with my smoking weed and because i didn't want to damage that trust and lose my priveleges to have a good time, I didn't do anything else.

If you're not going to trust your children, how do you expect them to grow up?

 

I have to say no. I have NO problem with weed. But I have to set rules in my house.

• Because it is smoke. I want (but don't have) a smoke free house. My 18 year old smokes tobacco, but I don't allow her to in the house.
• It is illegal. Lame excuse, but still, I wouldn't want my kid to get busted while doing something with MY permission.
• Some people don't handle weed well. I would be afraid. What about their friends? People call the cops when they hear their kids are allowed to smoke weed in people's houses. I really don't need that.

My oldest has confided in me that she has tried weed. No big deal, she knows Bear and I smoked our share (or maybe a little more than our share LOL) back in the day, but she says she really isn't interested in smoking it regularly. She is also on meds, and has a neurological condition, so I can't condone it for her at all. My 16 year old has NO interest in it, and my 13 year old doesn't hang around kids who are smoking yet. (Neither is my 5 year old.)

 

I would absolutely let them. My parents did. If they're being responsible, why not? The only worry I would have is if they had it on them & got pulled over or something. So I would try to encourage them to smoke at home & if they wanna go out leave the shit at home!

 

Once they were old enough to understand, we have been open with our children about marijuana. My wife and I smoke and we treat the issue much as we do alcohol, when you're an adult you can make your own choices and weed is an acceptable substance when used in moderation.

Our oldest (17) son get good grades, has a job and a car, and is quite responsible... and he smokes weed. We have not given him free range to smoke at home, but do not ask what he and his buddy were doing in the shed.

At his level of maturity I trust him to make decisions and take responsibilty for his actions.

 

As long as they got good grades, dont get in trouble, and as soon as their old enough, get a job, then id say do whatever the fuck you want. Id be too much of a hypocrit to say otherwise.

 

I like your answer very much. That describes our attitude completely.

 

I see letting your child smoke as like allowing your child to cut him or herself. You're just allowing him or her to hurt himself and that's not being responsible.

This is coming from a 17 year old who gets straight A's, is active in clubs, and would have a job if I had time (no way am I risking my grades for a job). Though I am stressed 24/7, that doesn't mean I'm going to go to something stupid like pot to relax. Pot will get your child in trouble eventually, and in general is not a safe idea. I have friends who have crashed cars because their parents let them get high. I know a girl up the street whose mom lets her drink in the house who has gotten raped by another neighborhood boy because she was drunk. I have NO problem whatsoever calling the cops on these parents and I would when I have children as well.

 

Spoken like a wise wommon! You really made me smile with your post, but you're right.

 

living where i live, it would be stupid and futile for me to forbid my kid to smoke. i would, however make sure that he's well educated about the risks, how to smoke safely and all of that fun stuff. i'm pretty sure that by the time he's 16, it will have been decriminalized here for many years.

 

I'd be more concerned that he was swearing on the bible NOT to do those other things.

If a 16 year old is swearing not to do those things something is up lol

also - I don't consider straight A's as any kind of measure of intelligence, genius, or value to who a person is.

16 i'll be ok with him smokin pot - any sooner and i'll bust him and he'll get grounded - just like my mom did me. I think its a fine line. Its important not to get sucked into substance use at too early an age - but around 16 i think that a child is more than capable of making their own decisions about their own health and body and i will respect that