Is it possible I only like sex with men because of porn? How can you tell? I tend to have a tough time being comfortable being bi/bottoming.
If you like sex with men you like sex with men. Porn might help you discover your feelings or make sense of them but those feelings already have to be there. Otherwise you would probably be avoiding any porn with men on men. Porn is not going to convince you you're something you're not naturally. Maybe you're uncomfortable with the idea because of internalized homophobia. It's a strong force to contend with. I should know. Years of destructive, unnatural indoctrination of the notion that sex between two men is not only wrong but taboo. It is no more wrong or taboo than mixed gender sex. We all have a right to enjoy sex, intimacy, whatever no matter what the sex of the other person is.. I always believed this but it took years to accept this right for myself personally.
I needed a few years to accept that I like sucking cocks. I have analyzed that for over 30 years and still cannot say what I like about running my tongue around a cockhead and sucking it into my mouth. His cock and balls are the extent of my desire for men. I prefer intimacy with kissing, caressing and cuddling with women. I don't have those desires with men.
I wonder the same, I will say the internet and porn most definitely made me see different things and of course one was gay porn. It really got my curiosity and from then on a explored more and more with men. The part I always wonder is why do I like sex with men so much? The. On the other side I had incredible sex with my wife last night. So bottom line yes I wonder!!
This is pretty much where I’m at too. Intimacy and love-making for me are with women. Fun with men is about the pursuit of physical release and the enjoyment of a penis - that only another guy with a penis can understand.
I caught myself looking at other guys in middle school all up to now. I got turned on when I saw another guy undress during gym class. Seeing that bulge. That's when I knew I was bi. I didn't accept it until well after high school when I had my 1st hook up with another guy. Ever since then I've been sleeping with my friend whom my wife knows about. It's nice to have options. It's also not for everyone. Some people can't and won't accept the fact that their either gay or bi.
sexual attractions and levels of that attraction take on a lot of different forms and limits... bisexuality is an interesting thing because for some it is very close to gay and for others it is very close to straight. Some guys say, all I want to do is play with a guy - but as soon as I cum I am straight again and I don't want to see, touch or know anything about the guy. Other guys can cuddle, kiss, lay in each other's arms for hours - and enjoy one another physically and emotionally. I would say - it does take time to let go of the inhibitions and the fears - things we have been told or picked up subliminally - the idea of taking a man's penis in your butt takes time to get to that place of really wanting it - not everyone wants that or likes it. That's OK. Take your time and explore and let yourself enjoy.
It must be my anxiety that kicks in. I've never had sex with the same guy more than once. I usually feel awkward and leave. After a threesome with two other guys, they asked if I did other things, but I felt too awkward to stay.
It must be my anxiety that kicks in. I've never had sex with the same guy more than once. I usually feel awkward and leave. After a threesome with two other guys, they asked if I did other things, but I felt too awkward to stay.
It must be my anxiety that kicks in. I've never had sex with the same guy more than once. I usually feel awkward and leave. After a threesome with two other guys, they asked if I did other things, but I felt too awkward to stay.
It could be... don't be too hard on yourself. Never press yourself to do anything you aren't comfortable with - and if a situation comes up that freaks you out afterward - just pull away afterward and allow yourself to think it through. I don't know enough about you from what you've posted to know what your anxiety is about, but I do know a lot of factors come into how we respond to new situations - and understanding who we are - accepting who we are - especially when we have been told that might not be OK - it takes time. Give yourself some time
I wish you peace of mind, in general of course, but especially in your adventures with other guys. You go into the situation knowing what you want and intending to get it. You deserve to go for it and enjoy it, and not feel bad afterwards. And how the hell did you wind up in a situation with two other guys? I haven't even slept with one yet! Lol.
Some guys have all the luck. I must have some massive invisible cockblocking cloud around me or something.
I’m not alone in that for me its about a mans penis. I have no desire to be romantic with a man. Those feelings for me are for women. If its sucking a guys dick or bottoming, it’s about the sexual release for me. I enjoy both ends of a blow job. Making a man cum is gratifying in it’s self. I think most of us can agree a man instinctually knows how to suck one because they own one.
I have to agree, I would love to feel and suck another mans cock and balls, but be romantic with is with my girl. I love pussy. I can’t wait to suck a cock
