Would You Get Married Just Because You Were Pregnant??

I was wondering, how many of you, got married, because you were pregnant or do you think that you should wait and get married, because you want to??

 

NO! If I got pregnant this second, I'd place the baby in an open adoption. Whether or not Da' agreed would be his decision.

 

Why an open adoption?

 

I want my birthchild to know that her or his parents made the decision to adopt. I also don't want any degree of mystery about who I am or if the parents are treating her or him properly.

 

nope, wouldn't get hitched. Don't really believe in it for myself (my mom has been through three divorces, I've got family history dating back to the 30's of divorce, back when it was a big bad deal)

 

i was three months pregnant when i had an abortion. i was eighteen, im 24 now. i was with an abusive man and didnt know i was pregie at first and drank and did drugs.. i had no where to go (my mom wouldnt let me back even when i told her the truth and that's what i wanted).. i was basically home less and my ex *the abusive guy

said "marry me or abort it

i knew i already did harm to it and didnt wanna marry him and have him kill me and the baby... i had no one else to go. i aborted.

i regret it. but that was where i was at then. now i am waiting. for two or three more years. i really want a baby though/.

 

i was with a guy for two years. i didn't love him as much as i loved just havin someone around, so i didn't see a long-term future for us. then i got pregnant. we stayed together for my entire pregnancy. then ivy came along. we fought all the time because i was staying at home taking care of her and he was out doing, well..whatever. he wanted us to get married. i moved back home to wv with my parents. it was the best decision i ever made. sure, i want a dad for ivy. but what's the use of giving her a dad if it costs us a peaceful home environment. marry for love, not for necessity or because people tell you you should. that's what i think.

 

always for love. but you shouldn't sleep with someone you don't love.

 

Interesting...

 

No, I would not get married just because I got pregnant. Honestly, if I got pregnant right now, tho, my boyfriend & I would problably go ahead & get married, which sounds like a contradiction. But, we plan to get married anyway, so the pregnancy would just affect the timing, not the decision... Especially since, well, we're waiting now because I'm going to be going off to grad school next year & we'll have to do the long distance thing, which puts strain on a lot of relationships... If I got prego now, I would have to defer enrollment in grad school for a few years, until he is able to move with me & support me through grad school, so there would be no long-distance crap, so no longer any reason to wait... Which is way more detail than you really need, but I'm procrastinating!

But, if I were not with someone that I already wanted to marry, I most certainly would not get married just because I got pregnant.

 

Interval, I am sorry you had to go through such an awful thing. Hugs. Ivysmama, I am glad you were able to work out something.

Bear and I got married when I was pregnant, but not JUST because I was pregnant. We were already planning on getting married, we had both just finished our BS degrees, (I was working on my first MS) we had just bought a house together (I hadn't even moved in yet, we were living together on the weekends in his apartment) we had a wedding kinda planned, and Sunshine made her presence known. We moved up the date. Planned the entire thing in 6 weeks, his parents were appauled, though we should have gotten married in one of those secret ceremonies where the family can lie about the wedding date, and then claim the baby was "early" (LOTS of 10 lb "premies" in his family LOL.)

I made it clear we were expecting and then we had the party of the century. (Obviously I did no actual chemical or liquid partying, Bear wouldn't even let me toast with champagne ) It was a fun wedding but. We were in total love. We had been together 7 years, we were already planning to get married.

I have never had a one night stand and actually never slept with a guy I didn't totally trust, so I was really lucky.

I don't think people who aren't in love should get married just because she is pregnant. It can't end well.

 

When I got pregnant, the thought of marraige to my boyfriend didn't even enter my mind.....I wouldn't marry for any other reason then wanting to spend my life with that person.

 

id get an abortion. but if i was older and out of school, id give up the baby.

 

I wouldn't get married just because I was pregnant. I wouldn't do that because you don't have to these days and I wouldn't marry just someone unless I was in love with them prior. Plus, I'm not into having a bellyful walking down the aisle.

 

~* I never have and never would.They are just as legally responsible either way.I also would never deny visitation unless there was a phyically threatening situation. I lived with the father of my 2 children for 7yrs. I also knew he probably would never get his shit together and told him to stop asking me to marry him until he did. He drank and had a hard time figuring out he needed to work on a regular basis (mommy fixed his fuck ups) When the fighting got to be too much for too long, I decided my kids deserved better than to listen to that crap and I didn't need to support his lame ass. He always got to see his kids and owes me $74,000.00 in back child support. At least I got to stop paying for him under my roof too, hehe.*~

 

nope. not just because I was pregnant. I can take care of myself and whoever else comes along!

 

I wouldn't have a child with someone I wasn't planning to marry, or was already married to.

I am married now, so if I became pregnant we would happily raise our child to the best of both our abilities. If I was with someone with whom I had no future I would not have the child. I have no intrest bringing a child into the world without giving it the best I can possibly give it. Two loving caring parents who are willing to sacrifice for the best intrest of the child is the only place to start in my book.

So I guess my answer is no, I wouldn't ever marry a person just because I was pregnant.

 

Two loving caring parents....married...unmarried...married to other people...loving caring people not married living together....loving caring partners...loving parental figures...man...there are so many potentially positive situations you could have a child being bought up in that to limit it to those that are married is I think something that limits our potential as human beings to love and to do good by each other.

 

No I was with my guy for 3 and a half years and we got pregnant. I didn't think that we should get married just for the baby...he was 17 just 18 years old and I was 18 getting married just for the baby isnt what marrieage is abaout.. Now our son is 3 and we are now getting married because were ready. Having lived with him and experienceing growing up with him and parenting with him etc...I know him now so well I can honestly say Im ready to spend my life with him. Never get married jsut for a child.

 

I wouldn't Thats a horrible reason to get married...