i feel horrible... i really hope we can still be friends.. she's totally awesome to the max, but i wouldn't have been able to be in a relationship with her... it just didnt feel right.. gah.....
OK the friends thing never works... especially when it wasnt a mutual breakup. There is only a slight chance of the friendship thing... and thats when you guys both realize together at the same time that yall are not compatible for dating and would be better off as friends. How long did you guys date? - Ashleigh
You'll be fine... I'm not so sure I'm following *why* you had to break it off, since she is so awesome. I hope everything works out the way you want it.
I know how you feel. I broke up with my girlfriend on Friday. Well, its an odd situation, I thought she was breaking up with me, so I just kind of let it be that way. She expressed an interest in still trying to work at it, but there was just too much pain involved and I just don't think trying to work things out in a long distance relationship would be good for either of our mental health right now. She's the most wonderful woman in the world and I want her to be happy, but I know I'm not capable of providing the affection and attention she deserves right now. I still love her, always will, but we were going through some very hard times, especially living 2000 miles apart. It started out beautifully and we shared some very tender, pasionate moments when we were together. Never have I been so comfortable with anyone in my arms before, but like I said, at a distance, it just got too painful. I feel pretty empty right now over it all, like a part of me is missing, I'd love to have that part of me back, but it just can't be right now. Break ups are never an easy thing - I've had far too many of them. So I know how you feel jack straw.
I disagree with the friend thing not working. I was with my ex for 3 years, too young for a serious relationship and I finished it when I was 19. He is my best friend, we didn't speak for 18 months after we split up and I just happened to bump into him and it went from there. I completely trust him and he will tell me things honestly, if I want to hear it or not and that I appreciate 100%. He's met the man I'm with now, they say hello in passing and my man now has no problem with me speaking to my ex etc, I guess i'm very lucky. Jack, give it some time, i'm sure it will be ok
i know how you feel, the same thing happened to me a couple of months ago... I knew he really loved me, and at first I thought I loved him back but, then I realized that we werent right for eachother. So I had to break up with him...actually, at first, I cried more than he did cuz I felt so bad... and we decided that we would always be friends.... that didnt happen... he hates me now.. and the feeling is starting to be mutual seeing as he is trying to ruin my new relationship...
Kevin (jackstraw), your such a dumbass. dont go to this site looking for sympathy when you just crushed jills heart because to quote YOU "i felt kinda funny". If anything, jill should start a post called "My dumbass boyfriend just broke up with me for no reason"
You did the right thing if you didn't feel right about it. You can definately be friends if she's as cool as you say!
....ummm.... I've been friends with everyone I've broken up with. I've always tried to base relationships on something deeper than sex to start with though. Sometimes it takes awhile to be able to be friends though if theres still emotional pain to deal with.
you know what matt, theres more to it. of course im not going to tell you the whole story, i had to dumb it down a little because i didnt feel like telling you ALL the shit about whats going on. you really dont have to attack me, especially over the internet. you have a problem about it, you talk to me one on one.
it could work that you are still friends.. then again it might not. It may even take a while.. but im sure it will be ok