I used to be a really bad teenager.. i used to steal alot of things from my family, stay out all night without calling, go through other people's personal belongings, it gotten so bad that my mum & step-dad had to put a lock on thier bedroom door and lock it when they went out.. they didnt' trust me to be alone.. and sometimes stay in my room all day if i felt like it.. and i used to be bulimic.. no one in my family trusted me, and i was constently kicked out with no bread ( i didn't have a job) and i'd feel like shit alot, sit around and be lazy, my room a mess, and i had no one to talk to besides my bad-ass "friends".. it wasn't until i started smoking pot (almost a year ago) that i really changed my life around.. i was sitting with some friends after smoking some joints when i really started thinking about my life, why am i like this? why am i hurting the ones that i love, the one's that truly give a dam about me in the whole world? why can't i do simple things such as cleaning up my room without being told, or cleaning up the kitchen while my parents are away and even more so, respect other people's things / privacy!.. things to show that i care? My mum knows i smoke, she's caught me twice and i thought she was cool with it, but recently she made me promise i wouldn't smoke anymore but of course i have been.. i still live with her and my step-dad under their roof, so i respect their rules of not bringing it into the house.. i can't quit smokin my ganja, i've got this incredible connection with it and like i've said before, it's super changed my life around for the much much better. i've become a tottaly diffrent person then what i used to be, it's opened up my eyes and made me much more motivated when stoned, and trained myself to be motivated and a truly honest person even when i don't smoke.. i recently made a promise to her that i'll do what she asks me to do, listen to her & step-dad, etc and she asked me what made me opened my eyes and i was so close to telling her that it was pot that made me realize what i was doing was wrong.. but then i didnt want her to respond "you shouldnt have to smoke pot to realize what you're doing is wrong" i wouldnt know how to respond to that.. coz it's somewhat true.. when i smoke alone at home, i dont get lazy, i get hyper and turn the music up and start cleaning up the house, my room, do positive things i wouldnt usually do when sober.. and i want to tell her that! pot help makes me a better person (and i do want to be!!) and i'm training myself to be a better person all the time, not just when i smoke.. how should i approch her to say that it's opened up my eyes and helped me in so many ways?? because i want her to accept the fact that i do smoke, and i won't quit..!!! so long post ehehe Thanks and Jah Blessings
I say tell her, she already knows that you have smoked before. And if you tell her how wonderful pot has made your life, maybe she will be more understanding. and if she tells you that "you shouldnt smoke pot to make your life better" bullshit, you could tell her something along the lines of "would you rather me go out, steal things, and cause havoc? or would you rather me smoke pot and keep my life on track?" hope that helped a little.
Well, it may not be important that she knows this is the reason behind your change, but if you want to tell her, do it. Let it be part of a more open positive relationship with your parents, part of your changed life. Just a tip though. Try to find a way to bring this positivity into your everyday, sober life. You can't be stoned all the time, so it would be good that way. I'm glad you were able to find this new you with weed. I did the same thing, somewhat, but not to the extent you changed. Mostly it was a spiritual change, and a mood lift; I was a very depressive person before I started smoking. Weed helped me open up to the world in a spiritual way (I'd been an atheist before), and I think it's definitely helped my outlook. Marijuana has changed my life for the better too *atheism isn't bad in itself, but a totally materialist type of atheism, coupled with depression, is not a good mix, not for me anyways. At least with spirituality I have an exit from depression that I couldn't find before.
dont fuckin tell her you smoke, thats stupid as hell, no matter how good youve been she'll blame the pot for eveything bad youve done, it would be stupid and id bet shed kick your ass out again too
thx guys for the advice jointman uh, no she won't, she knows how long i've been smokin and made some kind of comment about how i've changed in the past year for the better.. and she never threatened to kick my ass out the first time or the second, thrid.. i talked to her.. i told her.. and she accepts it, i've convinced her that pot is not as bad as she thought, it makes it's miracles and now's she's praising it, all for the legalization.. and she admitted that she used to smoke it back in Hi skool.. she's just worried about the whole lung damage thing and how "health is the number one thing you have".. you're wrong, i win, so put that in your pipe and smoke it, man
well actually, you can respond to that by simply making it clear that the realisation has been made. it doesnt matter if you shouldnt need weed to make those realisations, the fact remains that weed DID make you realise, and clean you life up. these are the sorts of stories that need to come out, not just stories of dumb kids smokin weed and failing school
Profound...... Hmmm... thinking about it, I also had a lifestyle change (for the better) after I started smoking pot, I became alot more friendly and open minded, I don't insult people every time I get a chance (a skill I sometimes miss ), people have said I have become alot more talkative and charming at parties and other group functions, oh and I lost 70 fucking pounds ( former fat kids up in the hizzy?) from just hanging out with my friends more and not sitting by myself in my room playing computer games. If pot has truely changed your life for the better, then continue tokeing. If your truely a nice person and a respectful daughter in all other aspects of your moms wishs, then at some point she will have to realize that a "good" person with one "downfall " is better than a bad person with a bad life.
okay this may sound stupid to you, but I think it would work. Print of this thread and show it to her. thats my advice.
I'm glad that she is cool with it. my mom was too as long as I didn't smoke in the house. I did occasionally when I knew NO ONE was home, but I rarely disrepected her like that. YOu should take it outside too if she asks you to. It is her house.
I thought a few posts back he said he talked to her and she WAS ok with it. maybe I'm seeing things that aren't there...
oh man if your gonna print this out let me get some more in! FUCK SHIT FUCK BOOBIES WEED CRACK HEROIN get together with her nad set rules/guidelines, thats what i did with my mom.
When I used to come home stoned to a messy room I'd always have to clean it. Parents really don't understand how pot can do good. There is nothing really that bad about pot so, if your mom was fine with you smoking before then you should tell her how it has changed you and don't just let her hanging go ahead and prove it. Make something of yourself and make your mom proud!
