im just lookin for some advice, ive been in this situation alot and somehow ive always done the wrong thing and made the person end up hateing me in the end but anyway the problem is i spend alot of time at one of my good friends house and her brother has recently moved in with her. ive known him for awhile but never really started talking to him untill a couple months ago, im an outgoing and friendly person most of the time so i would talk to him sometimes just out of pure friendlyness. i can definitly tell hes got a real big thing for me and it kind of scares me, hes a real nice guy and everything, but it would never work out. i think i may of accidently led him on. i really wanted him to get him into the show seen so i bought him a ticket to a concert and he said he would pay me back and has, since he was sitting with me at the show and i was able to get good tickets i dont know, one day i was making some necklaces and i decided to make him one, so i guess that might make him think i like him even more, but the thing is i dont; not at all. now i get the creeps from him, and i shoulddent but i dont know i do, i cant sleep in the same room with him unless someone else is in the room with me, and i just get the creeps when im around him alone. i hate being around him, im starting to hate him for no reason, this is very unnatural for me, especially when im not being myself which towards him would be a bitter bitch. now i dont know how i go about this but in every other situation somehowi fuck things up, but i try to be as nice as possible about it and usually would have an excuse like "im with someone right now". i dont think he would ask me out soon but i know hes planning on it i just dont want it to happen, i dont want him to like me but he does and it bugs the hell out of me. another thing is he is calling me constantly, basically talks about nothing. i wish i had the heart to tell him i dont like him in that way at all, and I would NEVER go past being friends for many various reasons. another thing is he hasent actually told me, he likes me so i guess i could not say "ok i know your concealing your feelings for me buddy, but i know you got some for me". i dont know i just hate the vibes i get from him, its hard for me to even go over my freinds house now, because of him. this probley makes me sound like a mean and bitter person, but it is only the truth. if i confront him how should i go about doing it? should i even confront him, should i wait? how do i go about doing this without making him hate me? every other time i have turned a guy down or a similar situation, i end up making them hate me. please help me out here
From my point of view, it seems like you did lead him on. I mean the tickets and the little necklace? I dunno, but ...I don't know exactly what you should do. I guess ignore him some and don't try to be so generous...giving him things and stuff isn't going to help. If he asks you out..just say you wanna be friends or that you aren't interested in a relationship. Hopefully he'll leave you alone.
Be honest and bring up how you are just friends, or that that is all you want out of the relationship. There is almost going to be no way to not hurt someone once they decide they like a person. However there is a way to control how much they get hurt, and that's by telling the truth. The more you hide the worse you make it. -Litos
Dont say anything until he brings it up with you. Youll make him hate you if u say "i know you have feelings for me" when he hasnt even said anything. Leave it awhile and he'll eventually come clean to ya. All you can do is wait.... Dont answer his calls and ignore him as much, he might get the hint and leave ya alone. J.J
yea, i have too many times in fact, so i figure guys often take it for granted that i like them. im too nice i guess, or i just have an accidental problem which is leading guys on, but i swear it is never intentional. their was even a lezbein that told me i led her on? i was like ok? wtf? i had no clue this girl had feelings for me btw i dont know....its just a very shitty situation especially since he lives with, and is the brother of my best friend
If it's happened so many times maybe you should consider the fact that you ARE leading them on - that you need them to boost your ego or something? Even a monkey learns after a few trials - and yet you made necklaces, and bought concert tickets - and then act surprised that he thinks you like him - even after the same thing has happened so many times before? Maybe I'm being harsh - maybe you're just too damn wonderful and guys can't resist. And I'm sure these guys falling for you just makes you feel awful...
