Bi men more commen?

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  1. timjohnsondoc

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    It was shocking to me that many men's first masturbation session involved other men showing and or being involved.

    I have not had a bi. Experience but, may have considered it if there were not the stigma associated with it.

    I mean same gender sex predates history, it was present in many cultures and there is a whole subculture of men that have sex with men but swear they are straight..???

    I worked with a bi. Guy and it seemed like for many men in their 30s this seems to be common. I recently became suspicious of 2 guys I know that I believe are hooking up. Both regular guys, great dads and husbands on the surface yet seemed to like to get off with each other. Also if you look at porn the penis is the star of the show. Straight porn is almost incomplete with the jizz shot. Which is a personal favorite of mine.

    Thoughts?
     
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  2. Rocket73

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    My first masturbating experience was when I was 11 with a couple of school mates, the one lad was a year older , he suggested playing with ourselfs but I didn't know why, he stroked my cock and I started to get an amazing feeling and after a few minutes I ejaculated, , we aren't gay or bisexual just kids playing around, and I never masturbated with a male or had sexual encounter a male ever since
     
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    Is it considered a Bi experience if you have masturbated with other males? I have masturbated with a few of my nudist friends. I never considered it Bi.
     
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  4. timjohnsondoc

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    So this is my point...so your buddy jacked u off when you were figuring out your sexuality..big deal. It seems more natural than NOT. If it were not for the label and stigma wouldn't more men do it.

    I am not attracked to a man romantically but the sight of a cock is cool to look at especially if it is in the mouth of a pretty girl. So I. That case I can watch it, jerk to it and not feel funny. The ubiquity of Male penis and money shot closups in mainstream (for men) porn seems to more or less prove this. IF men were noy aroused why make is so common and why then would most scenes END with this. Because men climax to this.
     
  5. timjohnsondoc

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    Me too Craig. I jerked with my buddy watching porn though we never touched on another. I probably would have just to see what it might be like but the stigma of "gay".

    Again my point is this is more common than we think. The generally more accepting society becomes of alternative lifestyle will only make this more common. I am on "talk about marriage" site and there seems to be a wave of wives finding out their husbands like cock and are getting it in the side.

    I wonder how many of those guys would be m a married if their wives knew before getting married. I knew my wife had been with women in college but that is ok..right?
     
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  6. Just for fun

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    I think it's very common but most are too in the closet to admit it
     
  7. timjohnsondoc

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    I guess I am just struggling with the double standard. So my wife and other women can chalk up having some sort of sex with a women and chalk it up to the proverbial "experimenting in college" without any stigma, label etc... My wife shamelessly admitted it like if I had asked her if she ever ate pizza. She expected no judgement and I did not.

    I would guess her, along with many other females would not view a male same sex experience with the same cavalier attitude. Society seems more accepting of females having sex with women than they me. Having sex with men.
     
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  8. Just for fun

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    Yes, the culture is the culprit.
     
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  9. Bicaptain My Captain

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    Tom, have you asked your wife how she would feel if you had sucked cocks in college? Maybe you are the one suffering from the "stigma"
     
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  10. timjohnsondoc

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    Bicaptain,

    Perhaps I may be projecting my stigma on others. The world is becoming more accepting for sure but for older generations stigmas and double standards persist.

    I would not say that I did that in colleflge because it is not true and it is conceivable that she had asked my prior to marrying me and I would have told her the truth then.

    Until recently I had not really thought about living my life as anything more than a BICURIOUS man (I am not yelling but chrome tries to autocorrect that word otherwise).

    However, couple of years ago I discovered with relative certainty, that a close friend has been with another guy (who I also know) on the down low. It has heightened my interest and has made it more acceptable for me to process. I am concerned if I should tell my wife about my fantasy I fear she could judge me and should I bother if I am not serious about it.
     
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  11. Bicaptain My Captain

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    Bringing up the subject now would be difficult but if it does come up, you could ask her hypothetically how she would feel if you sucked cocks in college. As long as it is a fantasy, you probably want to keep it to yourself. If you never follow through, no damage done. Wives and girl friends tend to be possessive of their men and consider some fantasies a threat to their relationship.

    If you do decide to test the bi waters, you may want to keep the test run until yourself to determine if it is for you. I have let several bicurious men satisfy their cock sucking desires. Most have enjoyed the experience and continued to have sex with men. Most kept their new activity secret from their wives. A few thanked me and said it was not for them. However, they were happy to receive a blowjob and came back for more.

    Personally, I never mixed my bi modes. That is, I did not have sex with men while in a relationship with a woman and vice versa. So I never had to deal with sharing my sexual desires with a significant other.
     
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  12. Dulci Daily

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    My first masturbation session might have involved that, if only I hadn't been too shy. A friend told me he had "rubbed wieners" with another boy. I wished I dared to ask him if he'd like to rub wieners with me too, but I didn't. In my actual first (and subsequent) masturbation sessions, I secretly pretended I was a girl having sex with a boy--and I would have been terrified to let other boys find out about that! But now . . . well, here I am, wearing a bikini in my profile picture and showing myself off as a shemale to any men who wish to see me!

    Three question marks are not enough! If they have sex with men who aren't shemales, I guess the idea (an extremely dubious one!) is that only the man who gives the blow jobs or receives the butt-plunges is gay, while the man who receives the blow jobs or gives the butt-plunges is straight, because he's only doing the same thing with a man that he could just as well do with a woman. It seems to have something to do with the idea that a dominant man is a manly man, while a submissive man is a gay, womanly wimp.

    But if they have sex with shemales . . . well, I think I can understand that a bit better. A man who's attracted to women may still be attracted to a beautiful woman (or woman-like being) even if she happens to have an unusually large clitoris that can ejaculate like a man's penis!
     
  13. Just for fun

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    I am only bi when I am horny, but the hornier I get the bi-er I get. After about the 4th day I will suck anything even if it won't fit in a boot. On the 5th day I want a dick in every hole. On the 6th day my girl gives me a blow job and I just about blow the back of her head off. Seconds later the thought of a dick in my mouth grosses me out. As the hours go by that same day it's not such a bad idea and so the circle of my sex life goes.
     
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    I couldn't have sex with a man ,but fantasies of sex with a beautiful woman wearing stockings and panties with a weiner sounds so erotic , i can masturbation easily with a beautiful shemale in a womens form, but never with a man, SHE has to look like a girl,
     
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  15. Dulci Daily

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    I understand completely! Sex between two men who look like men sounds so blah and boring! But between a man and a woman who happens to have an extra-large clitoris . . . it's quite different!
     
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    During my school days a couple of friends and I had circle jerks and occasionally touched one another but we never thought it as gay or bisexual. Just experimenting with our youthful sexuality. Throughout my 40 plus years of marriage I've thought about those days back then but never acted on anything as such again. Still don't think it was much more than experimenting.
    Now in the last couple years in my 60s I've found myself more drawn to bisexual porn. I've got a male friend fwb. Oddly, we enjoy each other. We are both surprised of what changed our thinking about same gender sex. Yet neither of us feel attracted to anyone else. So are we truly bisexual? I'd guess so. In regards to stigma, he is most definitely more uneasy doing what we do on account of he feels it socially unacceptable where as I am over that.
     
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    464981_33f4401c-7bfa-4bdd-8527-61c3f5c8a5b0_prod.jpg Like her?
     
  18. Dulci Daily

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    I love it! But fortunately my own shemale way of life, being a fantasy, isn't nearly so expensive:
    Makeup $0
    Clothes $0
    Boob job $0 (I admit mine aren't as big as this exotic beauty's, but mine are all natural. Even in reality, when I was a teen, bad boys used to tease me about needing to wear a bra, and mine are bigger now than they were then).
    Failing to conceal evidence of my she-maleness: Oh, dear, why would I want to conceal it?
     
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  19. timjohnsondoc

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    So is it fair to say that there are men that would be MORE interested in the tranny because she is feminine yet has a toy to play with?
     
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    Yes i think that exactly, i couldn't imagine for one moment of easing a mans boxers down and getting his penis out, but easing a beautiful womens sheer panties down and lifting her penis out would be absolutely amazing,
     

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