So I had sex with a good friend a couple weeks ago. We were both pretty drunk, and we fell asleep in her bed after a party on Friday night. The next morning we started messing around, she gave me head, and I knew that I was not going to last very long. Sure enough, I only lasted maybe a minute or more once we started actually fucking. I guess this could be called premature ejactulation? But it doesn't happen all the time, it was just because I was super horny. so what could I have done in this situation? There wasn't really a chance to masturbate beforehand, since I slept in her bed for the night. Should I have tried to hold off on the orgasm, and make it last longer? Or should I have just tried to go for it again, once I cummed? Either way, it was not nearly long enough, and I know that she was not even close to satisfied. Opinions?
Sex doesn't have to end once you've had an orgasm. You say she wasn't even close to being satisfied... well, there's a million things you can do to satisfy her and none of them require you to be hard. You've got your hands and your mouth, right? Use them.
true true, I guess I didn't have to stop there...she didn't actually say that she wasn't satisfied, but I know that was the case because it took such a short time for me. edit: But it was beautiful nonetheless, because there had been so much sexual tension between us for a long time, and it was finally like a release of all that tension. I just think that the sexual experience should be equally enjoyable and rewarding for both people, you know? Also, it had been a while since I had made love before that, so I guess I'm a bit off my game
Check out my thread on 10 techniques to stop Premature Ejaculation in the Sexual Health Forum. That should help next time.
I agree so much that sex sex not over because a nan had his orgasm. It sucks to cum quickly, no guy wants to have it that way but we can’t control it. One suggestion: let the premature ejaculation happen, and do whatever it takes to satisfy your partner. Chances are, you will get hard again. Your girl will learn to accept your short moments and relax; knowing there is more coming from you after. Your libido dropped after you came? Don’t let that ruin hers and in return ruin things overall. Give, please, impress her. As suggested above there are techniques to delay your ejaculation. Thinking about something else may work or ruin your erection, you be your judge on that. Stopping to give your penis a chance to perform longer, I tried it. It worked with my regular fwb when I had steady sex, but with occasional sex, it didn’t. I always like using my experiences as examples. I met a married woman years ago. She knew men. She was horny and wanted her sex but she gave me a blowjob first thing. She relieved me on my short first round expecting a better second round after good fun in between. One last word, show your girl her pleasure matters to you. That will leave a better impression than a big cock in the long run and things WILL improve naturally. You are adults. If you tell her straight out you were so crazy horny about her that you couldn’t last you will both laugh about it and she will be pleased to have this effect on you.
I guess you should have spent a little time giving her head. That way she could of had at least one orgasm before you.
I would say, just let it cum, get it done, continue doing something else with her - tongue, fingers- and then soon it will get hard again and last longer
First off let me commend you for actually recognizing that you got yours, but you finished too soon and she didn’t get hers. Even tho you didn’t do anything about it at that particular instance, you did recognize there’s something going on, (I would argue most men don’t). anyway, advice is going to depend on how long it takes you to recover to be able to get an erection and have regular PIV sex (assuming that’s what you wanted to continue). You can either stimulate her with your hands or mouth, or any number of things, until you’re ready to go. most girls are used to guys who don’t last very long, unless we really like them for other reasons, we often don’t keep them around for any length of while. So you want to make sure, if you want this to continue, that she knows you’re not like this.
With my FWB, Kelli sucks me off first. Long or short, it doesn't matter. She's nude, gets played with, gets wet but never takes my cock out of her mouth until I unload. BUT, she knows the minute I'm done spurting in her mouth, I'm rolling her off my dick and onto her back and her legs are opening as she settles into place. She cums on my tongue and then most of the time cums and squirts with my thick fingers deep in her pussy. And then it's shower time where she takes a dildo up her ass, bends over to suck my cock for another shot and masturbates herself over the edge for a third time. If I came quickly in her mouth for my first cum, she knows that only means she gets my tongue on her clit sooner than later. It's all good.
