I've become overwhelmingly afraid of having pap smears. And it's not like i can avoid them, because i am pregnant and they need to make sure im healthy and all that...today i went to get one, and i guess through the way i was so tense and kept moving, the nurse said she thought i might have been sexually abused. what the hell?? i don't recall ever being so, but i was adopted and haven't retained much memory of my childhood memory. what do you guys think i should do? im kinda freaked out. ~hnuggin
i don't think that necessarily means you were abused. it sounds like the doc is opening up a can of worms for you. i mean, you have no memory of it and you have no way of knowing... so don't put yourself through all the stress and pain and confusion and worry. aside from one person saying that you act like you might have been abused, you have no reason to believe that you were. do you squirm and tense up with your s.o.? i'd chalk it up to just a fear of the gyno. i tense up during a pap smear, even though i try not to.. i think it's just natural for some of us (especially those of us who just hate having them) and abuse has nothing to do with it. maybe for some people, it does... but feeling tense does not automatically mean you were abused. maybe you just had a rude nurse in your childhood that gave you a fear of doctors, or maybe you had a sexist doc in the past... it could be anything, and it's wrong for your doc to make you think you've been abused. putting something like that in someones mind can be really dangerous. there are people that go into therapy and somehow 'make up' memories. or you might convince yourself that you were abused, when you might not have been. or you might start to look at your life and blame things on abuse that never occured, like, "oh thats why i dated a lot of jerks.. i was abused!" and then you ignore the real issues, for example. anyway, that aside, good luck with your pregnancy! how far along are you? and good job getting some prenatal care even though you're scared of the doc. i hope you and your baby are healthy and you have an easy delivery!
I wouldn't worry about that... millions of people are afraid of the dentist, I doubt they're all abused with oral sex It's not too unnatural or worrysome to be scared of an unpleasant, pretty invasive, medical procedure.
I hate getting them to.. I get all freaked and sweaty before.. and my blood pressure sky rockets.. in i get figity and scared... I wasnt abused... I just dont like them.. But i dont like any doctors.. dentists... anythings.. But they are not fun nor pleasent... I think you could just not like it..
One of my friends on another forum has serious panic attacks when she has to get them...she's had horrible experiences with past docs though, and is all messed up down there to where she can't have kids easily...as in, if she gets pregnant, either it miscarries, she gets an abortion, or she dies...just because of things that have messed her up down there. When she goes, she usually takes a valium to calm her down, so that she can make it through the exam. I don't know if your fear is that strong though, but if it is, you may want to see if they could give you something to calm you down before the exams...of course, something that wouldn't harm the baby...I don't know anything about that though :/ Good luck with the pregnancy , and all your future doctor visits!
I am terrified of going to the gyno! I haven't been in quite some time and I should really just bite the bullet and go, but I keep putting it off. Infact, my very first time I went to planned parenthood when I was 16 and the women doc was going to give me a breast exam...she was very old and when she started to feel my breasts I bursted out laughing....I was so embarresed. I'm definatley going to need a few xannies when I go.
yer guy's input really eased my troubled mind. abyle, your totally right, and elle, that's fucking hilarious, and lawngirl, i am four an a half months along, and i felt lil' junior kick for the first time last night. thanks for the advice. it helps to know (even from strangers) that im not totally insane---->
