there is this guy. I have had sex with him about 5 times but we werent dating yet and I decided afterwards that I didnt want to have sex with anyone I wasnt dating so I havent had sex with him since... although I still talk to him everyday and everything and now we are dating and I still havent had sex with him again cuz I told him that I would like to wait a while... like i was thinking to kinda start over... do you think this is wrong.. like, does it make me seem like a tease?
have you explianed to himn your trying to start over, or are you just expecting him to know? if its the latter, you'd come off as a definite tease
Don't do it until you're ready. Don't do it out of guilt for making him wait. But you do have to be honest with him. Tell him flat out that you just aren't ready for the next step, because it's important to you. You're not going to make him wait forever so just let him know when you're ready. If you act like you know what you want, and aren't afraid to get it, he'll respect you more. And if he doesn't he's a horny bastard and you deserve better, but to each her own.
you had sex with him before dating now that you are dating you dont want to have sex... seems a little bit contradictory to me. greg
BUT, you don't have to continue to have sex with somone just because you've already had sex with them. you have the right to say no every time. I tell my man no about once a day!
I think you just need to actually talk to him about it. Tell him you really like him and now that you're dating you want the "first time" to be REALLY SPECIAL...because he's really special to you. And give him a time - so he knows he's not waiting forever.
If you don't want to have sex, there is nothing saying that you have to, sex has to be between willing partners... My only advice is that you talk with him and let him know what you're thinking, etc..
if you dont want sex with him... dont have sex with him... whether you are married with him or he is just a fuck buddy it's the same thing... but if you were fuck buddy and then you start dating I dont see why stopping having sex is going to make a difference at all... greg
Mistakes happen you sleep with somone because you're hurt or lonely and then you're like damn what the fuck did I do when you find out that there's a possibility for a relationship. If he likes you he'll want to start over and take things slow adn it will be hard to abstain from it but just don't purposefully be a tease and things will work out. good luck!!!
no it doesn't not at all. Shit happens she realized she made a mistake and likes him more then she thought she did and doesn't want to mess it up by continuing to have sex too soon.
Do what you need to do...If this is what you want/need then do it.. But i recommend explaining to him why... Or he might get confused and scared (hey some guys have feelings.. Hell most do especially when there arnt other guys around ) But if he doesnt like to bad... let him go...
no we both decided that we should have waited a little longer to have sex. I just dont want it to be based only on sex. Its not like I plan to wait forever. I just dont want to do it RIGHT away. He understands. he has respected my decision. but he did say something about me being a tease and thats not what I'm trying to do
