I've known this great girl for a very long time and were just friends but I still like her a lot as a friend and on monday were gonna see eachother maybe for the last time. It is because I live in a different place and she is gonna move to another place soon so in the future im not going to see her when I come over to this place because she has moved and i cant see her now because i live in a another place so its all very confusing and complicated. So on monday im gonna see her and its just gonna be sad because i really like her and Buddhism says that everything changes so I was wondering if there is some Buddhist advice or something for this kind of situation?.....
Well.. that's a sad situation. I know buddhism teaching about suffering and (de)attachment a lot.. but in practice leaving somebody just sucks. Plus it's not like buddhist don't mourn their dead or their loved ones or whatever.. they do.. but they also accept sad things as a part of life.. hey, plus think of it this way.. if you don't reach enlightement and stuff in this life you're probably going to see her again when you both reincarnate *grin*.. Here are some Japanese proverbs on the matter: Au wa wakaré no hajimé. Meeting is only the beginning of separation (Regret and desire are equally vain in this world of impermanency; for all joy is the beginning of an experience that must have its pain. This proverb refers directly to the sutra-text,--Shôja hitsumetsu é-sha-jori,--"All that live must surely die; and all that meet will surely part."]) Kokoro no oni ga mi wo séméru. The body is tortured only by the demon of the heart. Mujô no kazé wa, toki erabazu. The Wind of Impermanency does not choose a time ( Death and Change do not conform their ways to human expectation) Sodé no furi-awasé mo tashô no en. Even the touching of sleeves in passing is caused by some relation in a former life. Anyways.. here you can read more Good luck with everything.. hang in there!
