(I spent a lot of time of transit today so I've got a few topics tonight lol.) How does your man or woman have to be in bed? What do you consider lazy or unacceptable? The gang was talking about guys that lie in the bed while the woman does everything. (I told them that maybe someone should have checked his pulse.) I'd love to hear your thoughts.
lazy or unacceptable? Ignoring my erogenous zones when I have explicity laid them out (I don't mean genitalia, I mean all those other amazingly sensitive spots... for me, the back of my neck and my spine are just... mmm, I'm shivery thinking about it) Unacceptable? Whining for me to titillate his erogenous zones while mine are ignored. Going at a pace/force I have already established is not even close to pleasureable for me. Not being complimentary (I dont mean showering in compliments, but something nice, spoken or shown, when you see each other naked, even if it's the thirtieth time or whatever). Not caring about your partners orgasm/pleasure (orgasms aren't always necessary, but IMHO should happen 50% of the time or more) *grumble grumble* my last partner was not the best towards the end of our relationship, which is why I'm so bitchy about this stuff
heh, I like my partner to be in control though. Not that I won't be an active participant, I just don't to be directing the entire... episode. Certainly not move-by-move having to spell out to a partner what to do.
i have may lazy moments, so i would have to expect my partner to be lazy sometimes too . . . but if thier always lazy, then that is no good. if they are lazy for a day, week, month, a coupla months . . . all that can be understandable, but lazy every time . . . no good.
What about mercenary? What if you just feel like that soldier of fortune sex and he wants the aerobic workout kind?
I'm sorry I meant missionary. Everyone likes pictures 'cause they are easier to understand. (Don't they look happy?)
I've never found a satisfactory partner. I'm at my peak of physical activity when I'm in bed. I can't do a cartwheel to save my life, but put me in a bedroom and I'm attempting moves that the Kama Sutra doesn't even think of! I love slow, gentle sex sometimes. When you've just had a wonderful romantic talk, slow loving sex is wonderful. Sometimes though, I absolutely love the rough and tumble play. It's completely unacceptable for my partner to ignore MY needs. I pay close attention to his, I expect the same respect. If he doesn't even bother to find out how to tease me outside the bedroom, he's not going inside my haven. And any man who doesn't think "You need to pre-heat the oven before you stick in the turkey" can keep his sorry ass away from me. Sex is more than just thrusting. it's the ultimate connection and it's something to be revered, honoured, and done right...not disrespected by selfishness.
if youre lookin for a hired gun, im a high-priced ho!! but then you know youll be gettin just what you want.
ive never really had "lazy" experiences. if sex is what we want, we're both enthusiastic about it. there was a time when i was really tired, but i was still willing to experiment with positions and make sure he had a good time. sure, it wont be explosive every time, but if you're gonna just lie there, whats the point in getting undressed?
