i found out this week that i'm pregnant, but i cant get up the nerve to tell my bf. Last year i was pregnant and i had a miscarriage not long after i found out, so i'm scared to tell him about it. plus i have no clue how to tell my mother. any one have any good advice?
oooooo shit. and only 18...wow do you want to keep it? or abort? do you go to school? live w/ parents? that's rough dude...i guess i'm not much help. lol. if it were me, i'd abort before anyone knew. but it sounds like you want to keep it...which i think is a disaster at your age. but...i guess you just gotta suck it up and tell em'. like sit them all down...give them all a valium, lol.
hey flower, dont be scared hunny, i guess you want to keep the baby, i kinda get that from your tone.... im so sorry you had to go through a misscarrige, i had a threatened one last year, but luckily for me my bub hung on, and is 4 months now, and just because you have had one does not mean the same will happen again. As for telling your bf, just sit him down at a time you wont be disturbed and tell him, dont build it up and dont panic, he may be a little shocked at first, or he may be overjoyed, just be prepared for either, and give him time if he seems upset, he will calm down and then you can talk it through, as for your mum, thats tough, i was 19 when i fell pregnant and my mum was a little hard to deal with at first, but then she went mad on buying baby stuff and has been such a great support to me, and i was TERRIFIED of telling her. just give her time to come to terms with being a grandma. As for reducing the risks of miscarrying again, (doing the opposite of these things is not guarenteed to cause miscarrige, so dont panic if you have been doing the opposite, i was doing all the wrong things b4 i knew i was pregnant, but i stopped and my bubs just fine)stay off the alchohol, get plenty of rest, eat enough (if your not feeling sick, lol) dont use any weed or anything like that, dont take NSAIDS like ibuprofen, and just treat yourself well, and your baby will do fine. As for your age, if you feel ready then dont let anyone tell you you are too young, it is so hard to be a mum when you are young, but it has its benifits and just cos we are young doesnt mean we cant be damn good at it, lol. goodluck hunny.xxx (pm me if you need a friend)
It is not a desaster if an 18 year old wants to keep a baby. Some are in this age machurer, as other others never get. In my opinion keeping a baby is a thousand times better then an abortion, and there usually is a lot of help available, even if it looks dark in the beginning. Mud Flower, I wish you all the best
I got preg at 18 and it wasnt fun at first letting the closest people know . but everyone gets over the shock of it after a few weeks and life moves on. YOu just have to show them you can do it even if they are dissapointed. Just stay very strong and know it will all be ok. if you eve need to chat you can pm me.
In my experience (i was 17 when i told my parents i was expecting, and they were horrible about it!), even if they're shocked/disappointed/etc, family, friends, and boyfriends eventually warm up to the idea of having a little one around. If they don't get used to it by the time the baby is due, most hard feelings are gone by the time they actually see the little one. Contrary to popular belief, having a kid as a teenager does not ruin anyone's life--assuming you take responsiblity, and do what you need to do to provide for your child, finish school, etc. Of course, your life isn't going to be the same, but few parents' lives are...at any age.
I agree with what everyone has said, that most people will be okay with it eventually, stay strong and take very good care of yourself. Although I don't think I'd want a baby at your age, I don't think it's a disaster. I would feel blessed and you shouldn't let anyone tell you otherwise.
Congradulations. *hugs* and just dont panic I get super broody even though im the same age as you and often imagine myself with a child. 100 years ago it would be normal for us to have had children by now, because it was normal for our lifes to end in the mid 20's to mid 30's. Naturally your body is ready for a child its down to your mental and finantial states really. Also a lot of 18 year olds are much maturer than others. I feel more maturer than my flat mates who all go out getting drunk and doing drugs where as i feel life should go at a slower pace, and less attacking of the body. Some people are ready for kids at a younger age than others and all the power to you for sticking with it if you choose to and power to you if you choose not to because that in itself is a dificult choice to make.
Yeah, you just have to tell them. I imagine it's not easy, I know I would be scared, but if you plan on keeping the baby, they're going to find out eventually. It would be much better on you and everyone else if you tell them as soon as possible.
I got preg when I was 15, thought it was a disaster, ended up being the best thing that could ever happen to me, it was my only motivation to finish high school and get myself on a better path than the one I was taking. I am not saying all the kids should go out and make babies but being young and having a chile will not END your life or RUIN it like many people say. It made me a very stron person and I love my children more than anything in the world.
well, congrats. It sounds like it wasn't planned, but there's not much you can do now. It can be scary and hard and frustrating. Telling people can be one of the hardest things. But they might not act that bad. How were they the last time you were pregnant? You have to tell someone soon. The stress of not telling anyone can really harm the baby. This is definately not hte end of the world. Girls your age have babies every day and frankly, I think that at age 18 we can take care of a child just fine. Be honest and open and try to be happy about it. You have a little soul growing everyday inside you and you'll have that sweet child to look foreward to. It can be fun and exciting if you make it that way. you can do it!
thanks for all the advice, i went to tell my bf and he ended up telling me he already knew because he found one my tests in the bathroom.. and he wasnt mad at me or upset, so i feel alot better.. thanks again, now i just have to tell my mom
Tell your boyfriend strait out, and if he doesn't run for the hills, take him with you when you tell your mom. He make a nice shield.
