pot and parents.... (serious discussion)

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I havent gotten drunk with my parents either..... my dad used to be a drunk, and I swore I would never drink because of him.

 

oh yeah... one of my good friends would smoke up with her parents from time to time. She's currently attending Harvard, works, protests for social causes, and is an all-around AMAZING girl. hmmmm... somehow I don't think that it had a detrimental impact on her life.

 

well helloooo mister spiceguy.....how are you doing these days?

 

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there is always exceptions to the rule, but for the most part, it isnt good for parents to buddy buddy with their kids with no rules and regulations.

 

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My parents smoked pot back in the day, and if they did now and wanted to share, sure why not. I see no problem with it. :H

 

a parent can be friends with their kids and still have rules and regulations, just because they are friends with their kids does not stop them from still being their parents...

again.....it's just not right to generalize people......

what works for some may not work for others.....it's all about finding what works.....

 

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you are 14 years old. I dont see anything right about your parents smoking pot with you.

 

no matter what you do, your kids are going to rebel against you. Ive seen one person who was a really close friend to her child. she would allow her to smoke pot with her, and had really no curfew. the kid still stole from her. and she wondered why her child would do that to her. its because they are your kid, they will rebel and do anything you dont believe in. if you dont establish any rules, they will find something that you particularly dont like..... like steal from you, or something worse. so why not establish a few rules, if they break those rules and they do smoke pot...... its no big deal. you should still establish the fact that you dont want them to smoke it. when they get older, they will respect you more that you tried to push them not to do it when they were younger.

 

neither of my parents smoke and they used to be against weed because of the media. Now that ive shown them facts and figures my mom doesnt care if i get high, i just can say im smoking weed i have to refer to it as "herbal smoke" my dad is still making up his mind about it but i do it anyway cuz hes overseas!

 

Madcrappie is right. To be a friend to your kid is a huge mistake when they are in their pre-pubescent and adolescent years. We all know kids that get an inch will take a mile...think of how many inches these "friend" parents are giving.

There's no way in hell I would have smoked with my mom or dad, or drank with them or anything when I was under 21. I still don't feel comfortable drinking in front of my dad, and I'm 22 years old.

There is also no way in hell I would smoke with my children. We are role models for our children and what are we teaching them by smoking pot with them and drinking underage with them? That it's OK to break the law. Yes, breaking the law is Ok sometimes, but I wouldn't tell my kids that when they are young. Shouldn't they figure that out for themselves?

I will let my kids do what I did. Learn the hard way.

 

i dont' smoke with my parents. but both of them do smoke. i couldn't do it. i do drink with them, but thats because drinking has been very open in our family, including my aunts, uncles, cousins and so on. but back to smoking. i dont' see anything wrong with it. but i feel wierd doing it in front of my parents. i know my sister smokes with them, but i just dont' feel comfortable doing that, maybe i will in the future. though, there is a certain point where the parental figure changes from being a parent to being a guide. i'm past the point where they are parenting me. i'm an adult, i dont' need them telling me whats right from wrong, what my curfew is, who i can hang out with or other "parenting" things. right now, they are guiding me into being an adult. i own up to all my wrong doings, though i still go to them for help when in trouble. i was caught under-age drinking - i could have easily asked them for money, but i didn't. i paid for my diversion class. and i still told them the truth. but i do see a problem when parents are smoking with there kids when they are still adolescent. thats when the parent should be "parenting", so the parent should not be smoking nor drinking with there kid. but for someone like me, at my age and where i am in life, i don't see a problem with it.

 

I think that it is perfectly fine for parents to smoke pot and drink with their teenage child. I smoked, drank, etc with father and drank with my mother . I am now 19 quit all drugs and alcohol and engaged and am having a child. When my child is old enough I would much rather him drink and experiment with some drugs when he is around me instead of going out on the streets or to some dealers house to buy whatever and end up getting shot or thrown in jail. It would be better for the child and the parent they would develope more trust for eachother. So really parents who smoke with their kids are protecting their child and giving them the choice of doing drugs in a safe place or on the streets.

 

you are a teenager, and you are pregnant, do you think that is normal?? not really. you arent even married yet, you are knocked up, and you had smoked with your parents, yet you are a role model?

 

i totally agree with what fallen fairy is saying here. i've seen what drug related crime can do to families and it's not pretty.

ps, madcrappie, dont be so freaking judgemental. some people are ready for parenthood at a younger age than other people.

 

IM sorry but any parent that thinks its okay to smoke and drink with their kids (especially teenagers) should seek counselling.

 

chill out , i got the baby on a morphine drip ....hell he loves the stuff ...im gonna make him pay for it when he gets to be 4 or 5