Is this a good reason to break up with someone?

whoa now, I must disagree big time..
I dont think she was "a mess" as you rudely put it.. So, what you're saying is just because she had that horrible stuff happen to her when she was younger, she should never be in a relationship and she is a waste of time? That was wrong and I wont go into it, but what you said was really wrong, and I dont agree with it from my own personal reasons that I wont go into. And I dont think she was walking all over him, I really dont.

 

and I agree with all of what MS said, she wasn't a mess. Did she go through more than most people? Yes. But she wasn't a mess. I mean, she had things to deal with, bi-polar, ADD, being raped, but considering that, she was doing a fine job...Thats a lot for one person to deal with.

 

That is a lot for one person to deal with. How many people in her life has she been able to sit down and talk to about some of these issues? Would you guess probably not many?

Did you say you did break up?

If you did not break up I would ask yourself if you would be willing to help and support your Lady through some of her difficulties. Maybe you see something beautiful in her that would be worth sticking it out. Since you did talk to her about her dependability maybe now she will be more considerate of your feelings.

I wish you well with your situation.

 

Everyone who has disagreed with me has brought up some very good points. I wish this woman the very very best. However, some people have so many problems that cannot be resolved even by the most caring and understanding and patient of friends. If the woman is the type of person who drags people down and ruins other people's lives, no matter how much people try to help her, then it's probably wisest, after a while, to stop beating your head against the wall in trying to help her. If the woman is not getting any better, and is making you very unhappy, no matter how much guidance and support you provide, there reaches a point where you have to let her learn about life in possibly the only way that will work for her (the hard way). But all my critics might be right. This woman might not be such a messed-up case. I certainly don't know all about the situation. And I wish everyone involved in this situation the very very best.

 

if you're looking for a reason to break up with her, you will find one

 

Like I said, we got to the point of mutual break up. Granted I knew it was going to happen before she did. But instead of dumping her I told her I needed to think which made her realize she needed to think as well. And after thinking for some of the day, she came to the conclusion that she wasn't quite what I was looking for in a girl and the breakup was..I will call it mutual. I could handle some of her problems. Its just the constant lack of being punctual, not sticking to her word/promises and not respecting me after standing me up with at least a phone call. Overall she was great. But yeah, I am a single man.

 

I hope you find what your looking for.

In the meantime enjoy your Journey.