This is a good overview. A friend of mine is a shared wife of many years. We have discussed what she likes and what her husband likes about her being shared. To see and talk to her, one would never guess her secret sex life. She is well put together with a pretty girl next door face and she is soft spoken. Her meek exterior hides a woman with a big sex drive and a novel way of indulging in it. Both she and her husband like the fact that sharing is taboo and the naughtiness of it. They both like the exhibitionism aspect of her having sex with more than one partner while the other(s) watch. My friend likes having a variety of partners–sexual fulfillment. She told me she would never be married to a man who wouldn't let her have other men. Her husband likes the trophy wife aspect. He has an attractive wife that all the men want to have sex with, and she indulges them in their fantasy. But what surprised me was the misogynistic part of it. Her husband likes to degrade her by having her take part in gang bangs; being taken by every man there. He bends her over a chair or a picnic table with her rear facing the line of men. Then they have their way with her while the participants, as well as the non participants watch. The humiliation of being degraded in public makes her cum over and over again. She said it surprised her too when she got so aroused by being used that way. The first time she did that was at Hedonism, an adult resort in Jamaica. She said she was humiliated all over again at breakfast the next morning when she was talking to the participants in her debauchery of the night before. She realized that humiliation played a big part in her arousal. They now make one trip a year to Hedo so she can engage in her favorite activity.
I guess if she liked it, good for her. I seen a few gangbangs at swinger parties. The women were treated with respect. Now going back to school days, and parties the men treated the girls like a piece of meat, very degrading. Very proud to say, I never took part in that.
I feel both. Jealous and aroused at the same time when I se my wife with her lover or when she is alone with her lover. I do not think you can not be jealous to watch your partner or knowing she’s with another man, not if you love her. Even today, 3 years after my wife had a lover I feel jealous. And very horny. So both.. if you want to try this you have to talk about it, set up boundaries and be ready to stop it. Not just let it happen. Both most be aware and know and respect the “rules”, or else don’t do it!
That may be difficult to do if it has gone far enough. You are dealing with two other people who at some point are fully amped up desiring each other. To step in at that time might, and probably would not be acceptable. That's when you just have to suck it up and let it happen without saying a word. Timing is everything and there comes a time when you have to stand back and accept the consequences of what is happening.
Yeah, I have shared 3 of my girlfriends. Definitely got me aroused thinking of them fucking my best friend. For whatever reason I sometimes would get jealous if I blew my load first and her and my buddy were still fucking. The arousal outweighed the jealousy though. We’d both be fucking her a day or two later.
In the MMF situations with my wife I always felt a pang of jealousy, but it was easily outweighed by the arousal. I never felt like I might lose her but still watching her with another guy made me a bit crazy. In order to stir up more jealous feeling in me there were times when she wanted me to just watch for 30-40 minutes before joining in that was not easy.
I can't say I felt jealous, I did wonder if I'd ever be able to satisfy her after he got done with her.
Oh I know! Like my wife once said, getting undressed and ready for the man undressing on the other side of a hotel bed: "You have too stop me now, coz I'm not sure you can stop me later!". I did not stop her and watched her before I joined them later. I'm always ready to accept the consequences when it happens. I just wanted too state that is important to really think it thru BEFORE it is too late too stop anything... All of us that have tried this know that it is a big difference from having fantasies and talking about your wife having sex with other guy too actually let you wife fuck another man... The real thing is A LOT stronger, it makes you a hell of a lot more jealous (and aroused...) coz there is no way back after it's done... You have too think what's your reaction when your wife lay there with her mouth/ass/puzzy dripping of another mans thick and sticky cum... it is that brutal sometimes...
I know what you mean, I find I am hardly breathing when she lies back and open her legs to him. The jealousy,,sexual tension and lust are off the scale. She always asks before she leaves that I'm ok with it and makes me kiss her panty clad pussy (I'm not allowed to lick her) and says something like "you know his spunk is going to be in there later" or "you know I'm going to let him cum in there". I'm always massively hard at this time but also jealous the lust is off the scale. Once I know he's fucking her I'm ok and if I'm watching once he is going I want him to cum in her so so bad. Those moments as he approaches orgasm and you know nothing is going to stop him ejaculating I'm her are amazing. As he groans and I know he's cumming I get a wave of calm and pride and it's like I've given him to her. Then as he moves off I want to enter her more than anything in the world.
No jealousy, but my present wife of 33 years did tell me a friend at her work had given it to her a few times. She even sucked him off because his wife wouldn't. Everyone has a past. Big deal I thought. he is still a friend to us both. As we are childless due to my vasectomy at the tender age of 30, I suggested to her, she have him get her pregnant for me. I was just being practical but I found out for sure, women and certainly she doesn't think like that. I was just being practical, but also teasing and probing for a reaction. The practicalities of such a scenario would be messy long term.