Was my wish to reconnect with my former friend wrong after I insulted her years ago ?

Hello, I learnt a few weeks ago that a former friend has cancer. In our last encounter I insulted her because she told me that she had feelings for me. First I was insecure but despite it I have decided to do this and she agreed. But suddenly her mother phoned me and told me that they will move to Sweden and I should let leave her alone… I mean she is swedish, but before there that was an another explanation why she has no time in the near future…and she also could call me herself. So her mother might called me without her knowledge… I feel bad since I really tried hard to be human and feel like I did something wrong…I also missed her and I am also concerned because of her illness…how can I deal with this rejection, any advices? (I am turkish/bosniak I hope the text is understandable)

 

I'd honestly tell her exactly what you've said here. Explain it and how it affected you.

It meant enough to you to write all that. I think that's a good indication of what you oughta do.

I am sorry to hear about the cancer. Definitely hoping she can persevere and that the medical professionals work wonders.

Wishing you all the best!

 

Hello again, I met her and unfortunately it was not very satisfying. First she was nice and at least seemed not so weak. I was insecure how I would react if there was a „ girlfriend “ but we were alone and I didn’t ask about it . Later she I was more „ open“ and she seemed kind of annoyed of me…. Was I insensitive because I didn’t deny my views about homophobic behavior? And mentioned my fiancé ?

 

So should I really let it go now?