Okay ladies - I want to know what would be the most successful approach a guy could take in getting your number. Be honest: of course you'd love it if every cute guy on the street walked up to you and said something nice (it costs you nothing and gives you the option to tell him to fuck off if you so choose) , but let's be realistic: if an average guy wanted to chat you up what would be the best way he could do it? In in different places too - not just nightclubs but on the street or waiting for the train...
It depends a lot on the gal, and her mood. Probably the best method for most girls is to just try and make a little chitchat first, and make sure you two aren't hating each other off the bat, and then just ask if you could have her number and maybe grab a coffee later and continue the conversation. However, I'm not very talkative most times when I'm out on the street. I'm either walking quickly somewhere, waiting for the bus in the morning where I'm groggy and cold, or waiting for it after school where I'm exhausted and cold. At the bar, just being friendly and open would be good, but don't chase a girl all over the bar. That's just creepy. If a girl says no, accept it at face value. Give 'em space, but let 'em know you're definately interested. Purchasing a drink for a gal may also work.
just try talking to her....nicely, but not like overly friendly because that can be kinda weird...and dont be to pushy
haha, this girl I knew from last semester just called me out of the blue tonight...so I didn't have to do any work..Weird how things work. I dunno, its never been tough for me to get numbers or screen names.
Good for you Carlfloydfan - do you also go out of your way to visit the hospital and tell people in the cancer ward how great and healthy you're feeling? Guess I'm trying to find out whether the old adage is true - that it is not what you say but who is saying it: an approach from one man is assault but from another is sauve yet the only thing different is how they guy looks.
I think that guys and girls should stop being down on themselves because someone they liked didn't give their number It may very well have nothing to do with you at all I think that a lot of women will not give their number away to someone they don't know, even if they just had a nice conversation with them and they actually like him, maybe after a few more conversations they would, so what I'm saying is there's nothing you could say, just slowly get to know that person and don't jump to conclusions until things are appropriate and she has a reason to actually believe you're not psycho and worth giving her number too. If you are desperate to start something immediately invite her to come on her own to a party or something. That's my opinion.
Thanks Honeyhannah - but what about those guys who don't get the chance to see the same women regularly? You have a job that takes up a lot of time and don't get out that much and when you do it's always with new people. I prefer the whole 'get to know them first' approach - something I'm more comfortable with - but this isn't always an option...
If you dont' have time to get to know them, how do you have time to maintain a relationship? sorry, I have huge time issues too, which is one of the biggest reasons I'm not dating right now. It just wouldn't be fair to my partner.
You misunderstand. I'm talking about having time to actually meet people - you know, all those hours waiting in a dark alleyway for someone to come along. All those hours of useless chit-chat you need to put in for every minute of real conversation you want.
Huh? I either just say can I have your number, pretty much right away, or they offer it, or we just get together first, and worry about numbers later. My last successful pickup line was, "Wanna go hang out?" Witty, huh?
i'm usually the one who approaches the fella i'm interested in... i have no qualms about going up to the hottest dude in the joint. i'm a hopeless flirt
