How important is sex in a relationship?

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Humans are mammals; we're intrinsically sexual beings. Sexuality is a physiological and psychological need, arising in the hypothalamus responsible for other biologic needs like hunger and thirst. Sex releases oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin, norepinephrine, and endorphins; neurochemicals that contribute to emotional bonding, well-being, and belongingness. These comprise a pleasure-based reward system that often outweighs the inescapable hurts, disappointments, and general irritations of relationships. Functionally, solitary masturbation is a damned poor substitute.

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While sexual preference is a very intimate detail about any person and a choice if someone wants to share even the slightest detail into their personal world. Sex is very important yet not the deciding factor of happiness. what would Steven hawking comment on sex ? What would an A-typical comment on connection with life ? While being able to produce every chemical of bonding releasing dopamine serotonin endorphins etc And every known chemical of bliss and happiness fulfilling every need with silence or even being still…
Is it everything intimate and important ..yes

 

To me sex is a very important integral part of a relationship and it's a physical and emotional way to bond the union. And if the sex is good it enhances the relationship, and if it's not so great the bond is still formed. If my partner became incapable of having sex at some point I would make adjustments and provisions to compensate for it to keep things together.After all it's not their fault and they already feel bad enough without their partner being distanced because of it.

 

Yes; it's very important and integral to the relationship. Not sure why anyone would think that it isn't important.

 

My husband and I have a very robust sex life but if for medical reasons he was unable I wouldn’t leave him. I have toys and he enjoys watching.

 

I feel the same way. When a couple has enjoyed a good sex life up until an unexpected event turns it otherwise, how shallow and thoughtless it would be to go looking for sex elsewhere. Shows total lack of character. That person would give anything to be able to enjoy sex with you again and you can't turn your back on them. There are ways to enjoy a modified sex life if both are willing to try. The worst ones are the ones who enter into the relationship full steam with sex guns blazing then a period of time later suddenly become disgruntled or bored and withhold sex from the other one without justification. You can't go get it somewhere else and you can't get it at home either .

 

My wife and I had a great sex life through 38 of our 48 years of marriage. When she started withdrawing sexually, it was on account of her newer
co workers influencing her with their beliefs. It caused some problems between us. After she retired things started going back to our normal for about two years until she started having various health issues. Now sex is non existent. That I can understand and it doesn't have the same backlash. I have found other means of enjoyment through my dressing up, toys and masturbating that she is aware of and accepts.

 

Key is communication…agree with you buddy!

 

Sex in our relationship is very important. But it is only one component of a complete package. Sexual intimacy re-enforces a closer bond.
That said, (Sex is personal and individual), We also have sex for the mental and physical health benefits it provides. We include it in our diet and exercise routine. Masturbation and self pleasure as well. We also include home nudity and others in our bed as it spices things up. Compersion plays a big role in our relationship and in our sex life.

 

Our marriage always had a healthy adventurous sex life. Intimate bonding, until age and medical issues got in the way. Almost 20 years of great lovemaking has helped us get through the last few years of a sexless marriage. We’re not going anywhere..

 

I have this very scenario. It's been literally decades. The downer is, she needs care in a way. She gave me permission to find a friend to play with. I have in the past, and I think I need to again.

 

I love her ....I'm in it for Life !!!! .... no matter what .

 

I think sex is important for a healthy relationship and bonding. I know people married twenty or more years and some dont have it while others have it every day.