Were Humans Meant To Have Multiple Partners?

If you open this well known book called the Bible you will find story after story in it where people intentionally had multiple partners. Even children had the same fathers with different mothers and vice versa. This was readily accepted. So why is it looked down upon in todays society?

 

Then there came the New Testament.

 

Yes and beyond the Gospels, The Acts of the Apostles (all history books), and the crazy ass dream purported to be from a guy named John (Revelations) it's all opinions of how a society should behave, not how they are behaving. These opinions wouldn't be made had society been conforming to many straight laced suppositions including abstaining from multiple partner sex.

 

To answer the OP question… Yes. Societal brainwashing would have you believe otherwise. However, “I am not a believer” in the polygamous “cult” groups where the leadership is brainwashing the congregation.

 

My girlfriend and I, played with other couples and singles in open relationship. Later married. With the high divorce rate, maybe more couples should try this. Many couples we know married out of school, and ended up divorced.

 

Jimandjan, Much respect to y’all. I read and follow your post. That said, Once couples, that are in a solid committed relationship, realize that they can’t be everything, all the time to each other sexually, the idea of including others in their bed gets easier.
This lifestyle will not patch up a failing relationship. Only the strongest relationships are enhanced.
We play with others to enchance our relationship, not replace it.

 

The problem with cults is that power gets abused. As soon as sex becomes the currency of that abused power, it literally becomes transactional. I observed the abuse of power on a hippy commune during the 1970s. That commune crashed economically because power was too consolidated. Years later, the stories emerged about sexual abuse.

Today in the USA, we are observing cultish behavior at a national scale. It is not surprising that one of the resulting power scandals involves hush money to cover up transactional sex by a political cult leader.

Sex as an expression of freedom, respect, love, and joy does not involve a power differential.

 

Even with that, coercion, people were meant naturally to have multiple sex partners. Our DNA dictates this. In order to keep individual humans unique there had to be a mixture of mother/father combinations early on in our evolution. From that we continued to evolve as individuals and do so now. Never satisfied with remaining as we are. Thus we are prone to have multiple partners for sex. Only the cultish behavior of generations before now made the belief that having more than one is wrong or having the availability is abused. This was and still is used to control the masses. But as it is said, don't fool with mother nature. So even with all of the suppression and coercion humans mildly revolt and most of us have more than one sex partner in our lifetime. We just can't help it.

 

Well stated… As a teen of the 1970 hippie generation. I was suppressed into believing in one man/ one woman marriage. That was ok during my child rearing family days and work life. But I always longed for more. Once my wife realized she was free to have others in our bed too, it changed our life together. It totally enhanced and enriched our relationship. We absolutely look forward to each encounter. It brings us much joy. We are a consenual none monogamous couple and love it.

 

My DNA does not dictate consensual decisions I have thoughtfully made with others about whether and how to engage in sex. My hormones are no longer the deciding factor in those decisions, either. Free will exists.

Like right in this moment I could make a decision to say "matrix". Like right in the middle of a conversation with another person, we could see each other in a new way.

Sorry, but I don't believe that we just can't help ourselves and that everything is written in our DNA or in the stars.

 

I recall reading a paper about relationships and the author stated empathically that monogamy is abnormal for humans as well as how we lived and behaved before religion and its rules came along to, essentially, fuck everyone up in the head. Having multiple partners "insured" security - always safer in numbers, right? - and more chances to have children. In more modern times, we're told and taught to only have one relationship at a time, to only love one person at a time... but we don't really work like that, do we? How many of us have been with someone, we love them, but then we run into someone else who lights another fire within us... but we're forbidden to do anything about it unless you say, "Fuck the rules!" and do what apparently comes naturally for humans.

It's an interesting thing to study and it speaks to the many things we question and want answers to; pre-religion, we were one way and, welp, religion came along and squashed all of it with its promises of eternal damnation or if you want to go to heaven, do as I say, or you'll burn in hell after God strikes you down or commands us to put you to death.

 

Interesting that this was brought up. Before there appeared a "Savior" the only way to continue ones legacy within the Hebrew community was to have children, many children. The father of the Israel nation, Abraham, had a wife, Sarah, who was barren. So in order for him to have children she had him fuck her slave, Hagar. But one day Sarah fucked Abraham and bore him a son, Isaac. From there Israel started. Also many Hebrew men had sex with women not their wife or had many wives (Solomon). They determined eternal life through the number of children they fathered. Then Jesus comes along and says anyone who believes in him will have eternal life. Religion takes this and runs with it as proven in the writings of the New Testament. The trouble with this is the books included in the Bible were a selected few and not all of the writings of the times. Many were omitted which tell a different story. What I can't wrap around my head is where they say "God so loved the world he gave . . . " but yet if I fuck a different woman than my wife God will have me put to death. If he loves me so much why would he kill me? There isn't much of that religion shit that makes sense to me.

 

It's stuff like this that makes a lot of bisexuals stop believing in religion; the people whose job it is to study humans have written about how we were before religion came along and, nope, we were not monogamous.

 

I believe its in our nature to desire multiple partners but there are those who want to control society and condemn the practice of sharing ourselves. Funny thing is those people that say it's not proper and degenerate are the very ones getting in trouble doing what they are preaching against. It's the do as I say not as I do mentality that our social leaders are actively practicing. Women for years have been programmed to be subservient to society's notions of morality and denied the sexual freedom men have enjoyed for hundreds of years. But I believe that's changing, women's attitudes are welcoming the chance for having sex with multiple partners and society's opinions are becoming more relaxed for a women's promiscuity. Why shouldn't they have the same opportunities men have for social and sexual gratification. It's only fair. So ladies don't deny yourselves because of what others may think or say, pursue what pleases you and engage your desires for sexual satisfaction, explore your opportunities, answer to yourself only and disregard the false morality standards that some people preach seeking to deprive you of your sexual freedom. Be bold, expand your sexual experiences and enjoy your life to its fullest potential.Be who you want to be and do what you want to do.