but, well you see, he is somewhat of a trouble maker...he was expelled from school, has been arrested more than once, and doesnt really get along with many people, including most of my friends(sometimes his). Hes nice to me though, and treats me good and makes me very happy but I sometimes wonder if he should calm down a little and try to get along with ppl more, ya know, but I dont want to do it in a way that would make him upset with me...what to do?
Sorry to tell you, but from what you've said he doesn't sound like that stellar of a guy. Try to talk to him calmly and ask him why he does the things he does. There usually is some kind of reason because not many people just act up like that. Also, if he ever does anything even slightly abusive towards you (hits you, threatens you, anything) then get out IMMEDIATLY. He might be a great boyfriend to you, but he probably has some anger management problems if he's been arrested (although since I don't know what he was arrested for, I could be totally wrong) so you really shouldn't put yourself in a position where you could get hurt.
I know what your saying but he has never done anything abusive at all to me and its not like its a new relationship. hes never done anything to hurt me at all.
But you're kinda scared of him -- you said so. You need to communicate with him about something important and valid -- but you think that he might flip out. (This situation is bad.) He (or you two as a couple) needs some counseling. He has to make some changes. You deserve a guy who is a good, decent, fair, considerate person towards everyone, not just to you. You deserve a guy you can have confidence in, and about whom you can be proud. Right now, this ain't your guy. It doesn't sound as though right now he's willing to be honest enough with himself to face the fact that he needs to do some growing up. He needs some help.
If he has hurt other people, its only a matter of time before he hurts you. I mean, if he has hurt his friends whats to say he won't do the same to you? I see that as a bad sign that he doesn't get along with many people. You don't want your friends to start avoiding you because your bf and your friends don't get along. Why has he been arested? If you don't know the reasons he may have some deep issues, issues he may be hiding. But if its a part of his personality there is only so long you can keep them in before he hurts you. I don't know if his kindness is an act, but talk to him and tell him to be honest about the arests. Being his gf, you deserve to know, for your safety especially. It's also a bad sign that you are even afraid to speak up. In a healtly relationship you should never fear the response of the signifigant other after speaking up. I hope that helped. I'm just being honest and going on what you said.
I don't have a high tolerance for the kind of guy you are talking about. He sounds like a problem, and not the kind of guy who deserves a decent girlfriend. If a guy can't keep himself out of trouble with the law, what good will he be to you if the next time, he's asking you for money to bail him out? What if he goes away for three years for some stupid-ass burglary? What if he gets killed because of the trouble he causes himself? Your description of him is unflattering. You sound like you are trying to make the case for breaking up with him -- and that is exactly what I think you should do. Do you really think you will be unable to find a guy who is NOT a troublemaker, who's also nice to you and doesn't do anything to hurt you? Give yourself some credit, have some self-esteem, and find a better boyfriend, before this one causes you unforeseen trouble. -Jeffrey
I never said anything about being scared of him at all and I'm not.... I was just saying that I am sick of hearing about him getting into arguments and would like to see him make more friends than enemies.
OK I never said anything about physical abuse. The arrest never had anything to do with assult....and he doesnt steal either... he is pretty much a good guy. he is just the argumentive type and gets offended kind of easily. The problem that he has with my friends(other guy friends that are jealous of him to be honest) isnt even something that he started but I just think that he should be the bigger man and drop it. The reason that I havent said anything is because I dont want him to feel like I am not behind him in the whole thing.. I just dont want him to get in trouble over something so dumb...and no I wasnt thinking at all about breaking up with him
And they're hot-headed. She describes him as "quick to get offended." Says he easily makes "enemies" and does not make friends. Argues with the friends he does have. This sounds like a guy who doesn't do much good for anyone around him. He may do some of the things that a boyfriend is good for, but in the long run sounds like more trouble than benefit. I would NOT stay around him, as a girlfriend particularly. Doing so is asking for trouble. -Jeffrey
you guys are just a buch of whiney ass hippies anyways, just because your a bad mother fucker doesn't mean your insecure.
shit, guys. my husband was exactly this sort once upon a time. he was angry, immature and just a little crazy. drugs didn't help. anyway, dave's a totally different guy, but he had to change for himself. i wouldn't indict this guy outta hand, he may just be ... energetic? passionate? but definitely immature. if he's still a teenager, he's got a chance. i don't think there's a single man in my life, both family and exlovers who wasn't out of his mind at some point in time. just passionate and a little wounded, in need of healing. however, that being said, you may be doing him a favor to get away from him. you may have become a crutch for him. as long as he doesn't drive you off, he may not need to improve himself. he may be thinking "hell, she's still here, i can't be THAT bad." which is kind of the situation i got in with my ex. i had to leave, or he would never improve himself. it was really sad, but sometimes we're just not meant to be the life mate of someone we love.
Alright, I dunno about everyone else, but I'm just going on what I have heard, I know it isn't even close to the whole story, so maybe I did go overboard, maybe everyone did...But just chill man. No need for childish name calling.
I know what your saying about me leaving him. actually there have been things that he has done in the past that made me mad and I threatened to leave him for them and after that, he has improved alot
