Bi men and aging

Most guys almost immediate learn that getting some dick is easier than getting some pussy and that chasing tail isn't worth the hassle and like it was when we were younger... and didn't know any better. We grow old with a woman and chances are her body has bailed out on sex and it started after she had your children (in a lot of cases) and trying to rekindle her fires winds up being an effort in futility. But a guy can go on an app or Doublelist and there is a slew of men who'd give their right arm to suck your dick or to bend over and spread them cheeks for a nice, creamy, reaming out. Or you now find that you can let your inner girl out to play and you want to be the one sucking cock and taking loads of cum in your ass.

No promises to be made; no one-sided set of conditions to be agreed with and held liable for; it's not going to cost you a new house or car and all it will cost you is time... and cum. You kinda/sorta almost don't give a fuck if she knows or finds out that you've been sleeping with men since, "usually," a woman makes the decision to cut her man off from all sex with her and without saying a word to him about this decision or why she made it and if you were to ask her why you're not having sex like you used to, I hope you have your fireproof underwear on and if she says that you wouldn't understand, um, fuck, you might want to leave it alone for the moment because few women are of a mind to admit that they're no longer the lusty woman they used to be and, as such, feel less than a woman...

And when you're getting some dick, you don't have to deal with stuff like this,

 

Again, it's all about BEING YOURSELF, and NOT allowing ANYONE to dictate ("dick-tate?) to you WHO you can have sex with.

It is YOUR life, after all.

And, from your own accounts (and from others here) I know that when a married guy FINALLY gives in to his m/m urges, and FEELS the intensity and lust of hot, sweaty, bonding m/m sex, it's like he's been reborn!

"Why the hell did I wait so fucking long?"

"Damn, what I've been missing. all these years!)

And so, life goes on.......................

 

Yep, for the guys I say are late to the party, getting some dick is one hell of a wakeup call for them and ditto for those guys who are only now returning to the party and trying to get caught up on all they've missed when they decided to give up sex with men and when they were probably more bisexual than they're willing to admit. Then you have the guys like me who joined the party early... and never left it so for me to get all hot and sweaty with a guy is... just another Wednesday. Now, to adopt the very thing you said in the beginning of your response, it calls for a guy to be willing and able to accept and face the consequences of his actions and then to never back away from this which means not paying any attention to the social stupidity we've been displaying about sex and sexuality since before I was born.

And then do so without any regrets or misgivings. See, you don't believe that YOLO until you look your mortality in the face and almost kiss your ass goodbye and I say... why wait until something like that happens before you realize that it is your life and it's always been your life?

 

Well......

Indeed, it is better to arrive LATE at a party than NOT to attend at all, especially when there is NO cover charge!

Those "latecomers", I am sure, would feel as though they were entering an entirely new world of sexual expression, where (pardon the pun!" NO HOLES ("holds") are barred!

Too, think of the married men sexually supressed by their wives for many years, FINALLY getting to experience the REAL thing, of being with another man!

Again, the stories are uncountable.........

 

The sense of freedom a guy can feel is incomparable; they say that you haven't had your dick sucked until you have a guy do it; it can be one eye-opening experience to find out what it's like to be screwed and creamed or to be the one doing the screwing and creaming and... why did I wait so long before doing this? What was I really afraid of?

 

KD23:

Another "A-plus" post that says it all!!!!!!!!!

Bet ANY "straight" (but bi-curious) married guy was most likely MIND-BLOWN when he felt a rock-hard cock spewing thick man-sperm up his no-longer-cherry ass!

And, JUST as awesome when he's really pounding away hot and heavy at another guy's butt!

Again:

"What the hell have I been missing"?

 

Bi guys:

If "age is but a number", let the number "69" be your guide (sorry, couldn't help myself, here!)

 

Hell, just having a guy's prick in your mouth for the first time is pretty mind-blowing and so is... acquiring the taste. A guy is sucking my cock after we've spent hours talking about this, from why I do it to why he should - and why he shouldn't - suck cock. I allow him to make the decision to do it or not but I promise that I am going to suck his cock until he spills into my mouth so I can swallow it. I remind him that he is under no obligation to suck my dick. I'm not two minutes into sucking him when he asks me to stop so he can get into a position to suck my cock as I suck his and I comply and he gets major props for making such a bold and daring move.

I give him more props because he does spill very nicely into my mouth and even when he's done, he's still sucking me and he's figured out how to do it and I have enjoyed watching him as he realizes that sucking a man's prick isn't the horrible thing he'd believed that it was and that's because this is what he was told right along with "gay men" being evil rapists and it had taken him a couple of hours to get past the fact that I'm not gay. I'm about to cum and, as promised, I tell him that I'm going to cum - and I even tell him that now is the time to stop and move away. Am I surprised that he doesn't move away and that he's now sucking and jerking on me furiously? No, I'm not but what does surprise me is that he stops sucking me and says, "I don't fucking believe I'm about to do this!" - then takes me to the edge and shoves me over it and I'm lost in the orgasmic bliss of my release but not so lost that I didn't hear him gag for a moment before I felt him swallowing my cum.

Afterward, we're lying there and talking about what just happened or, factually, he's talking and I'm listening with a knowing smile on my face because he just experienced something that so many other men are deathly afraid of and if you've never given a guy his first experience with this, you can't know how special a moment it is for him... and for me to listen to him talk about why he never did this before now, that he didn't know what he was missing - but he knows now and other such utterings along this line and, importantly, he now knows that I wasn't lying when I told him that if he does this, it's going to change his life... forever. He is both tickled and proud of himself to have been able to make me cum and admits that he didn't think he could make me cum and... I laugh ad say that just because I'm more experienced doesn't mean that it's hard to make me cum.

And I'm not surprised in the least bit when he asks if we can do this again and he means now, not later. I can feel his joy and sense of wonderment and I recognize it because I remember when I was him and I'd sucked my first cock and swallowed my first load of cum and realized that the moment had not only changed me but changed my life... forever.

Or to be a guy my age and introducing a guy who is also my age to this... and that same sense of freedom is upon him and he, too, is wondering why he never did this before now and, almost tearful, saying that he had no idea that it could be this good. Or listening to him moaning and moving under me as I fucked him because he wanted to know what it felt like. Finally getting all of myself into him and he quips, "How 'bout that? Something big can go in there, huh?" I cum inside him and he just gasps beg ni that moment; I withdraw and move to take him into my mouth so I can suck him off and as he cums - and pretty hard if the pulses in my mouth are any indication, this grown-assed man who survived the Guif War is damned near in tears because, again, he didn't know it could be this good and expressed regret over having taken this long for him to find out - and it took being dissed by his wife to push him into eventually having sex with me.

I emphasized with both of these men; I had felt their fear and uncertainty, saw the moment when they decided to trust me and we can do this; felt their joy when they "got it" and like I unknowingly had so many decades ago.

And if, by chance, you don't know what this is like and, perhaps, you need to know what this is like, my question to you is what are you waiting for? Tomorrow isn't promised to anyone...

 

EXCELLENT commentary; indeed always refreshing (and enlightening) to read your honest, candid, and totally "Hey, what you're hearing from me is the truth!"

I recall reading awhile back where someone mentioned a line from the Bible:

"Tomorrow's not promised".

Sad, too, when you go past a cemetery and say to yourself:

"What does it REALLY matter what we DO or DON'T do in our lifetime? We're all going to end up in the SAME place, anyway."

IMHO, once a bi/bi-curious "straight" guy "crosses that line", there is NO turning back; it's done, it's happened, it's over with, but, hell, let's do it again!

I always felt that, if what sexual feelings you have are pleasurable and turn you on, WHY should you be ASHAMED?

Hell, NO REASON at all!

As long as it's all consensual and involves participants of legal age, just "follow your urges" and GO for it!

Don't let ANY ill-informed asshole dictate to you how YOU should live your life.

You like it?

You enjoy it?

You LOVE it?

Hell, just "keep on keepin' on!"

 

To set the record straight, once you take the plunge, you can decide not to do it again and, as such, you can go back to the way you were and only have sex with women or not having sex at all. Having said that, most guys find that (a) that craving never really goes anywhere and (b) it's very damned hard to resist.

At the end, nothing matters, does it? It's everything prior to this that does matter one way or the other. Now, why should you be ashamed? Because you were told to; you were raised to be ashamed to even think about such things. And, really, that's nothing to be ashamed of because damned near all of us were raised to be ashamed of having same-sex sexual thoughts and feelings. But either experience or your intelligence should tell you that there's nothing to be ashamed of because at the very least, it's. Just. Sex. Could be more than that if you're feeling it but a gentle reminder you do not have to be in a relationship in order to have sex - that's another lie we were told and believed. Just a damned shame for a guy to get to those last moments and only then realize the truth.

 

A+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

 

damn these are beautiful stories. goes to show how life changing guy on guy sex can be

 

i agree. i'd rather let a man's asshole dictate what i should fuck

 

RIGHT ON, FRIEND!!!!!!!!!

 

Thought for today:

"NO man is an ISLAND".............

 

True... but we are expected to be.

 

i'm thinking i'd like to be on an island with a bunch of other men

 

Ain't NOTHING wrong with THAT, my friend!!

 

KD23:

You said it!

Again, my friend, it's decade after decade after decade of narrow-minded, ultra-conservative "PUB" ("Pure Unadulterated Bullshit") that continues to perpetuate this crap.............TOO MANY male minds have been brainwashed, thanks to this "Johnny Macho" nonsense..........

 

I think that we've been seeing less "macho bullshit" coming from men who believe that they can make it in this world alone. Again, when you examine the social conditioning we receive when we're young and malleable, it's pretty invasive and persistent until something happens to break the conditioning or, okay, son - this is what you were taught, and this is what you should believe... and here's being male in the real-world and... surprise! We're not supposed to need help in anything, and we're not supposed to ask for it and I've seen this macho bullshit destroy quite a few guys. Yes, we should be self-reliant, be able to do stuff and we shouldn't sit on our asses and expect a woman or someone else to do stuff for us; it's amazing how many people do not know how to cook and how valuable someone who does know how to cook can be.

So, you can follow the social conditioning and it's outdated and outmoded idea of what a man's supposed to be - isolated on an island of his own making - or you can find out what kind of man you can be and then strive to be the best version of yourself that's possible. I think that a lot of macho guys get older and realize that, yeah, they screwed the pooch when they were younger and their macho attitude had them burning many bridges behind them and isolating themselves and now, in their old age, they find that being on that island alone is something that should have never happened - and that has to suck and not in a good way.

If you're bored and need something to do, go look up the definition of "machismo" and do some reading - you might find it interesting.