Who’s in the “Lifestyle”?

Bocci, That is certainly “Hot”…. No doubt!
That said, My wife loves to get up close when I’m about to penetrate the other woman. Sometimes, She will hold my dick and guide it in.

 

The ladies often interacted and at times licked another clit while a cock was sliding in and out.

 

I am a middle aged male, long time married and have been influenced by porn and curious about letting other men, perhaps my friends, enjoy what I have had in bed for so many years. Wife is younger and very attractive and I have developed fantasies about allowing risky behavior for both of our pleasure. Wife would require some convincing as she had adhered to our vows. If anyone would kindly strike up a conversation with me on private email, I would appreciate it. jpeepers340@protonmail.com.

 

I wonder how the Lifestyle had changed over the years. When we started it the more like the Free Love hippie movement.

 

The lifestyle is exploding in popularity across all age demographics. One doesn’t have to look far to find a group. There are lifestyle organizers booking entire hotel takeovers. Travel companies offer nude travel.
Social sites and lifestyle group are everywhere.
The lifestyle is no longer hidden or clandestine. We find lifestyle couples in our age group to be very respectful. It’s refreshing to “not” talk about politics, the world on fire, or your personal status.

 

In order to keep this topic active. What is your preferred swap? Example: couples only, strangers, one night stands, friends with benefits, threesomes, straight or bi? My wife and I only swap with couples.

 

To keep it going: nowadays, and for quite some time, we only play with other couples. Very early in our relationship, it was occasionally couples but more frequently, we’d have one of her girlfriends over and it take turns with both of them for the whole night and sometimes the next morning.

 

We liked couple on couple. We had hard time finding couples we both agreed on. And we liked switching back having sex with each other sometime during the night. Some were offended by this; we said swinging this way was more like something we were doing together. They took it like we didn't enjoy them.
Yes, keep it going. I will add a few more adventures later.

 

No way my wife would try it. Too many factors to even consider it. Self-conscious about her body. Believes she'd be betraying her commitment to me. And menopause has sucked the life out of her sex drive.

I'm curious about it, but doubt I'd be able to do it. Too jealous. And there's this voice in my head that keeps screaming "Be careful what you wish for!"

 

Know what you mean there. Several couples we’ve considered, didn’t care at all for swapping back and forth. Whether they were open to same room or not, for some reason they think we should just swap partners for the night and that’s that. Almost seems as though they don’t want to have anything to do with their own spouse for the whole experience. We just can’t understand that.

 

Dang. So much in there it does seem as if neither of you are ready for it. I know this will sound cliche and maybe even dismissive, but it’s not meant to be; you two should just let go of those issues. They’re in your head and they’re preventing you from just having I nice experience and enjoying it together. Yes, I know how that may sound but it’s true. There really is nothing but to do it. Focus on enjoying the experience together and those issues will not affect you any longer.

 

I was 18 years old in 1969, and that was a very good year. More free love, but swapped partners one night on a double date at drive-in. Bubby and I went for refreshments, went we got back to car we traded places. The girls asked what we were doing, but never objected.

 

Back in the late 70s-early 80s, don't remember it being called the Lifestyle, but...I got to meet and play with a group of like-minded souls and enjoyed it to no end! The hotwife of the couple who was always throwing the parties, was being serviced by me and a bunch of buddies. However, it wasn't until I encountered a wild bi woman, that I felt I had the necessary " ante" to get into the poker/pokee game (pun intended)! She and I made our grand appearance, and being new "meat"...or guests, I should say...commenced to get to know everyone else. Oh, what a night.

After her and I went our separate ways, I still had a standing invitation and was almost, expected to be at any and all shenanigans at the host couples' house.

He and I became friends and even after he parted ways with his "hotwife", I was always welcome to play with his new wife! We remained friends for a long time...until his passing. RIP Col. Beale!

 

How many couples had serious conversation before sex with others? Pillow talk is one thing, always sounded good having sex with others in the heat of the moment. But wife and I talked it over when we were not excited, by our own feeling at the time.
So, to keep it going what prompted you to try the lifestyle?

 

Know what you mean about pillow talk vs serious conversation. Early on in our relationship, our play with others tended to be driven by the heat of the moment and the imbibed substances. When we go back into playing many years later, I’d say there was maybe a couple years of occasional pillow talk then serious discussion for 6 or 8 months to hammer out the ifs, whys, and hows. Then we just did it.

 

For us, We knew nothing about the lifestyle pre Covid. But we always have had an adventurous spirit. I always have enjoyed nude life and bringing my wife into it was easy. As luck would have it we booked an adult only campground/resort. We took our time to learn from the members and educate ourselves. Fast to now..It’s one of the best things we have done for our relationship and social life. We really enjoy full swap. “It’s just fun sex” that all.

 

I read discussions of how a couple has to be secure and in a good place in their relationship before they get into swinging. We certainly were in a good place and would tend to agree with that. But I wonder, for those whose relationships are just stale or they might be growing apart, might swinging TOGETHER also help them as well? Maybe to just scratch that itch or to even give them a new interest to enjoy together? It certainly has done those things for us and we were in a very good place in our relationship. Could it not help others who might not be feeling really satisfied with the current state of their relationship?

 

Bocci,
Trust and Jealousy are huge factors to consider in the lifestyle. If a couple is have those issues in their present relationship, then I would steer clear of the lifestyle.
That said, I can possibly see where a couple might want to explore lifestyle even they don’t actually do a swap. It is something they can learn “together” and that’s a good thing.

 

Yeah, bringing trust and jealousy issues to swinging does sound like a bad scene. I guess I’m just wondering about marriages in “malaise”, for lack of a better word. Rather than drifting further apart or progressing toward indifference or resentment or divorce, maybe swinging could bring them closer or even revive their relationship?