Bi men and aging

KD23:

After reading my post about the out-of-control hornbag I once worked with (and the serious health/marital consequences he later faced), it is easy to see just WHAT can happen IF you let your DICK override your common sense.................

 

Some guys, sad to say, are just plain stupid; they thumb their noses at the consequences and often believe that the bad shit that exists isn't going to happen to them which often gets Mr. Murphy's attention and, well, time to pay the piper, homey. You play stupid games, you win stupid prizes - and that's a fact. Sucks to have been him, huh? This guy's the poster child of not being able to fix stupid. Should all men cower in fear of listening to their little head? Really?

 

I could tell you so many horror stories about guys who got fucked up because of little head thinking and... what's the point other than instilling more fear into a group of men who are already afraid to do what they know the need to do? The lesson to be learned from your story is don't be that guy and act like nothing's gonna happen to you. I've slept with a lot of women and even using my little head to make the call and all I got was laid. Ah, but the difference between me and this dude? I had long since accepted that there are consequences to my actions and I'd better be ready to deal with them and, oh, yeah, the big head says, "Don't sleep with hookers without using condoms!"

And the little head agrees. Common sense says to never, ever, go to another country and fuck hookers. My point is that there's nothing wrong with thinking with your little head as long as you're not being stupid about what you do and who you do it with. Like I said, we can swap horror stories all night long and it sucks to say it but, yeah - that was them and what does that have to do with the rest of us? Shit, all you did with that story was make the risk-adverse guys be even more risk-adverse instead of trying to figure out how they can be the man they know they need to be...

 

KD23:

IMHO, better to have sex WEARING a CONDOM, instead of having sex WITHOUT a CONDOM, ans save yourself a LOT of GRIEF later on.

Oh, and, fucking without a condom, I guess the moron NOT so safely "attired" was not thinking of impregnating the female he was NOT married to.........talk about being a fucking idiot.

I'll never know the full story of this total asshole, but, then again, I have not the slightest interest into knowing what his eventual fate was...........

 

I know that I never worried about getting a woman pregnant... because I accepted the responsibility for my actions to have sex with them without a condom... because men accept responsibility for their actions. I had sex with men and rarely used condoms because I let the big head make the determinations in these things. Okay, this was me; this is a whole lot of guys who are doing their thing out in the world because their big head, in reality, is running the show... but when the little head says, "It'd be nice if this guy were to suck me off... twice..." then you let the big head assess the situation and if it's all good, you give the little head what it wants.

And keeping in mind that if your little head wants it, that means that you want it. You're a man and you have been designed to think with your little head but common sense says to be smart about what you do and that means being able to say no when the little head is wondering why you're hesitating. Your words imply that if you don't wear a condom, you will have a lot of grief later on and that's not the whole truth - but it's the truth our social and moral norms wants us to believe. Does that make me an idiot because I fucked women and could have knocked them up?

 

KD23:

Once again, it is apparent that you tackle ALL of life's issues (including those of a sexual nature) with both common sense and maturity.

Now, THAT is what constitutes a REAL man in MY book.......MATURITY and COMMON SENSE, as well as being man enough to take responsibility for your actions........

 

Isn't that what a man is supposed to? What we all strive to do? Trying to live up to a social standard that predates those of us who are alive? And now living in a world that's finally starting to understand that you do not have to be gay in order to have sex with a man and that, yes, make smart decisions and to the best of your ability and if you make a mistake, own up to it and without any bullshitting. Who among us hasn't fucked up somewhere along the line? I know that I have, and I never said I was perfect or tried to be, but I made mistakes and owned them, swallowed my pride and ate some crow and... keep moving forward while trying not to fuck up again. Shit, sometimes the mistake was not doing what I knew I should have done and, yeah, I should've listened to the little head. Oh, well, that's life and it goes on.

It's when you don't give a fuck if you screw the pooch doing stuff that it becomes a big head/little head problem. In all things, we must strive to be better and even if you're screwing the boss's wife or husband because the little head is saying yes to the sex, the big head is thinking about the possible repercussions if something were to go sideways but crosses its metaphorical fingers and gives the boss's wife a screwing she won't forget any time soon because it's not illegal unless you get caught so do your best to not get caught sucking cock with your boss's hubby - but know that if you were to get caught, you cannot escape the consequences of your actions.

I would sometimes catch myself, in the process of having sex with someone, thinking that, you know, I shouldn't have done this because - add a huge list of reasons why my big head said that I shouldn't be enjoying burying my bone in the woman who wanted me to bone her. I realized that I'm getting close to busting a nut in her (and she's practically yelling at me to cum in her) and also realizing that it's too late and... whatever happens, happens. I'm getting seriously close and I'm fairly pounding her pussy - and knowing that I should have said no because it's what I was supposed to do - and I almost start laughing because I'm thinking that if I can't do the time, I shouldn't do the crime and... I busted in her and with the sure knowledge that if she gets pregnant, I gotta accept the responsibility.

I'm sucking a guy's prick and I know that (a) I shouldn't be blowing him and on GP and (b) I let the little head make the call and that it could turn out to be a mistake but... fuck it, His mouth feels wonderful on me and I like the way his dick tastes and the only thing that's really on my mind is which one of us are going to bust first - and I'm not thinking about any worst case scenarios because if one comes up, I'm prepared to face the music and deal with the consequences of my actions. Why?

Because, truth be, I'd had a long day at work and I needed some stress relief that wasn't going to wait until I got home, and the little head decided that the guy sitting next to me at the bar - and who's trying not to look like he's about to proposition me - will suit the purpose rather nicely and I'm just waiting for him to pop the question. He does and we're deep throating the shit out of each other, bust our nuts, and I don't know where he went but I went home, sure that the only thing that happened was I got sucked off and all the bad shit that could have happened... didn't happen, did it?

Guys play the "what if" game and can manage to convince themselves that if they do what their body wants them to do, every worst-case scenario is going to land on them like the proverbial ton of bricks so... they do nothing and bitch about it. And exactly as they'd been programmed to do with that "don't let the little head make decisions for you" stuff that wants to put dampers on guys wanting to have sex even though we are biologically programmed to want sex...

 

Right back at ya!

 

My "message" to the bi guys who are getting older is to just be smart about what you do. Be knowledgeable about the real-deal facts and do not let someone else's fears become your fears. If you are truly bisexual, you've gotten rid of society's idea of what men are supposed to do and be. If you're still sitting on the bench and trying to decide if you really want to be bisexual - and how you're going to go about it - think first, then act if you must or if you can and do not let dumb shit sway you from your goals in this regard. There is, obviously, both good and bad in any of this and when you pay your money, you take your chances and that's always been a fact of life.

What price do you put on your sexual happiness? Whose responsibility is it to handle this happiness? g It's like I asked a friend a long time ago: "Are you willing to be on your deathbed and knowing that you should have done what you wanted with "Ronnie" and regretting that you didn't... or would you rather be there and knowing that you're not going to leave something undone?"

"What would you do?" he asked and making me start laughing.

"What I would do has no bearing on what you should do but since you asked, I would have taken Ronnie when he offered himself to be taken because it's just sex and life's too short to deprive yourself of certain pleasures," I said with a shrug.

I encountered him years later and he reminded me of our last conversation - and a conversation that I admitted to not remembering offhand but once he reminded me, I had one question for him: "What did you do about Ronnie?"

"We got busy," he said and with a smile that almost blinded me. "You were right; I didn't want to die and thinking about what I could have done but I was too scared to do it... so I did it."

Tomorrow isn't promised to anyone. You have heard about life being too short and I'm here this evening to tell you that it really is too short and if it's something that you really want to do, you will find a way to do it.

 

Excellent advice, for certain, for bi gius "getting up in years" who have still not "taken the plunge"!

Once again, the "PUB" continually spewed out by a narrow-minded society is responsible for so much denial and "fear of sailing into unchartered waters" among bi men, especially those in their senior years.

Screw what the bigoted naysayers preach and be your OWN man, and do with YOUR life what YOU want......hell, they don't pay your rent..............

 

There's a song by Earth, Wind & Fire that, at the very end, the lyric says, "If you don't understand me, it's your fault..." and I thought this was an excellent thing to adopt because if I tell you that I'm bisexual, um, how hard is that to understand? If I explain it to you and you still sit there looking at me like I got off the first alien spaceship then, yeah, it's your fault - and it's your fault because society has mindfucked you so badly that you can't understand it when I say, "I like men and women!"

Now, if you understand this egregious flaw in our social mindset and you are, at the least, aware of the continuing bullshit against sexuality, um, why are you paying attention to it? You should be old enough to be able to keep your own council on anything that you may do and unless someone is speaking from personal experience, it's just noise that you don't have to listen to... but it still pays to be aware that it still exists.

If you're worried about what someone else is going to think or say about your sexuality, that's really a secondary concern because your primary concern is making sure that you're okay with your dual thoughts and feelings and, yeah, wouldn't it be nice to suck a guy off? Too many guys say that they don't want friends or family to find out and that's understandable but the question I ask - and they can't seem to answer - is, "How are they going to find out unless you tell them?" Common sense, right? Paying attention to the dumb shit never allows a guy to get comfortable with the fact that he's not really all that straight - would it really be one hell of a rush to be fucked in the ass by a guy (with a huge cock)? Instead of falling into paranoia over who's gonna find out what's going on in your head, your time would be better spent thinking about how you might be able to get that cock in your ass and the things you have to do to be able to safely facilitate that.

At what point are you going to stop giving a fuck about what the Negative Nancy's have to say about something that, in reality, they don't know shit about since they're going to think that you're gay? I mean, unless you really are gay (waving at GG57) but if you're bi, you know the truth of yourself and... if you don't understand me, it's your fault.

 

KD23:

Another excellent and most insightful reponse.

I've never made any apologies to "society at large" for being gay; I've long accepted the fact that I wasn't what society deemed "normal", and, although I've had to weather quite a few rough spells over the years, I was NEVER ashamed of the kind of man I was, and, felt that, if other's didn't accept that I was gay, it was THEIR problem, NOT mine.

Society does not pay my bills, nor does it put food on my table....so why the hell should I care WHAT society thinks of my sexuality?

If they accept me, fine and dandy.

If not, well, again, it's THEIR issue, NOT mine............

 

What it all boils down to:

You ARE what you ARE.

Be PROUD of WHAT you ARE.

STAND TALL, STAND STEADFAST, and, if anyone has an issue with WHO and WHAT you ARE, well, then, it's THEIR issue, and NOT yours.

Screw the bigots, naysayers, and narrow-minded morons who know little else except spewing "PUB" like venom...........

 

I’m almost 65 and after a long conversation with my inner self I excepted the fact I enjoy being nude with a man sucking his cock and having him return the pleasures. I feel relieved to realize it’s very normal for older married men to have a buddy so we can still have sex because we crave it. And if our wife doesn’t want to please us sexually anymore it’s a natural step for us to seek out. I have a gay friend and for four years he has been so supportive and understanding of me. He has turned me on to all aspects of man on man sex and just recently I was able to slide my cock up his warm love hole and I can tell you I had never had so much cum released from my cock . I remember just staying inside him as I slowly got soft and wow what a new pleasure for me.anyway I don’t have any more guilt about my bi life and you shouldn’t it’s normal!

 

i've heard that fucking a man in his ass feels incredible

 

It can be quite incredible, both physically and even emotionally because there's just... something about fucking another man that can do something to one's brain that is inexplicable - or, at the very least, I've never been able to explain what it feels like without sounding like an idiot. It's always amused me that a lot of guys want to fuck a woman in the ass but ask them if they'd fuck a guy in the ass and... they lose their shit because, sheesh, it's gay and all that rot and you can't even reveal a truth that says that all men who get fucked in the ass aren't gay. Go ask a woman if you can fuck her in the ass and you might have to duck and cover; a guy who wants to be fucked will let you know - in no uncertain terms - that you need to hurry up and get it in him and don't spare the horsepower!

Then there's the whole taboo of it that can add to the rush of excitement. Hell, I've had first timers fuck me and I've heard them say that they can't believe that they're doing this, how good it feels, and oh, shit - I'm gonna cum and being on the receiving end on what must be one hell of a busted nut for him and for me, it's "just another fucking" but for him? What an incredible experience!

I can and never will forget the older man I encountered online who said that even though he couldn't get hard or bust nuts anymore, his mouth and ass still worked and how much he enjoyed giving a man his first shot at fucking someone in the ass - and making it memorable for him.

 

Yes it’s so warm and tight makes you cum hard

 

i like to think that a big part of it is all that masculine energy you can only get from two men fucking

 

There is that!