Retirement brings more time to masturbate; how I use that time

I’m 64 and masturbate as much as I ever did, which is a lot. I don’t orgasm as frequently these days but spend more time masturbating than ever, now that I’m retired.

The older I get, the freer I feel to masturbate as much as I want, assuming circumstances allow, and I increasingly realize that there is no logical, physiological, or moral reason to reign it in. And that there’s a lot of good reasons to do it. Practical limitations like living in a household are what limit me. If I lived alone I would masturbate a lot more than I do now, probably a way, way lot more, but my great marriage helps me bring a little self-discipline to how much I masturbate, so marriage is a great thing for me.

Even so, luckily I still get sufficient alone time and masturbate practically every day, not always to orgasm. Usually I ejaculate about five time per week, sometimes more, sometimes less. Occasionally I have mini orgasms that involve little or no semen, which never happened when younger. I estimate I spend a a couple of hours masturbating each day and another couple hours reading about sex and masturbation, looking at porn and erotica, fantasizing and writing stories about masturbation, and so on. There are occasional days off.

I masturbate throughout the day, almost always when my wife goes out for a period of time, and especially when I’m alone after she goes to bed. She doesn’t mind in the least that I masturbate when I’m alone although she probably doesn’t realize how often I do it. I also masturbate along with her as one of the four or five ways we have sex. I need both sex and masturbation in my life. If I’m not getting sex for a period of time, masturbation satisfies all my sexual needs. But if I’m not getting time to masturbate — well, let me say that I don’t ever go without masturbation, so I will find a way.

My libido grows as I get older, and that is driven more by an erotic and intellectual interest in sex and masturbation, which retirement has enabled — so even as my body shows its age, my mind is picking up the slack, and so I enjoy it as much or more than ever. Indeed, I’ve made a commitment to benefit to my mental and physical health, and to my marriage , by actively seeking to maintain a strong interest in sex and masturbation.

 

Hello let me start by saying your post was a very interesting read. I am 74 and also love to masturbate however with my ED which started around 72 it becomes a little more frustrating with age. Your post is pretty much the way I was at 64. I would love to chat with you sometime ok PM. If you are interested.

 

I wonder should I suggest at this point that there's a difference between temporary ED and permanent ED. Obviously stress can be a cause of temp ED. So too can prolonged periods of masturbation-only sex.
The stimuli are different between sex and masturbation and so, after a prolonged period of wanking only, the more gentle stimulation from a female may not work until your nerves are re-educated/reminded of those gentler stimuli.

Happened to me in 2015 after 9 yrs without sex. A friend took up my suggestion to help each other and it took several months to fix me.
If a guy doesn't have such a friend, I do really believe that a sex worker is a viable option. Choose wisely but, in principle, I don't see what could be wrong with it.

Eventually ED can evolve such that we can't cum even from wanking. (My brother has reached that stage and blames it on his diabetes meds. Of course, he wouldn't have type 2 without having eaten a load of crud, for years, so it falls back on him anyway). And we need to cum to keep monitoring our prostate health, which means it's a medical necessity. We should be examining it after most cums, for spots of blood or black spots, discolouration (from a healthy white) etc. We should also smell and taste it. Mine smells slightly of bleach and tastes of nothing, which my Dr says means it's sweet.

Break down you own self-imposed taboos, boys and girls. Your prostate health or vaginal health can depend on it.
hth

 

I sent you a PM, Fisherman, but wanted to reply publicly to your comment. I’m about to relate my own personal experiences and realize this won’t apply to everyone.

Unfortunately I need anti depression medication. It’s a brain chemistry thing — psychologically I am reasonably healthy but my neurotransmitters need tweaking. Fortunately I am 100% responsive to the medicine. Stop taking it and I barely have the will to carry on; but take the pills and I’m eager to carry on. For years I took an SSRI class of drugs for the depression, first Lexapro then Paxil. Very effective treatment but dang if it didn’t completely dull both libido and sexual response. Even when I wanted sex I couldn’t feel sex like I normally do. I reported this to my doc and he suggested a change to Wellbutrin, which is similar to an SSRI but it affects a different neurotransmitter. (Yes, it’s scary to think about altering brain chemistry like this, but in some cases it’s necessary. ). For quite a while I was reluctant because the SSRIs were doing their job very well and it was scary to think about risking that.

But the side effects were such that finally I decided to switch medication. And it was life changing. Not only did the sexual side effects go away immediately, the Wellbutrin seemed to enhance the sexual experience, ramping the libido and improving the sensation. Of course this could have simply been the joyous reaction to the side effects going away, but there’s plenty of anecdotal evidence that Wellbutrin has this effect. One poster in this or a similar forum said his doc prescribed Wellbutrin off label for this very purpose. Either way, I was back in business.

By this time I was in my late 50s and over the next few years age related sexual slowdown occurred. Luckily again, I am highly responsive to ED drugs, both sildenifil (viagra) and tadalafil (Cialis). In fact I’ve recently started taking a combination of the two drugs (as seen on TV!) which is formulated to take sublingually, and I love the results. It acts quickly and lasts more than 36 hours. It is a big part of my masturbation and sex life now. And recent medical reports indicate a strong association between taking these medications and dramatic decreases in the risk for dementia. Indeed I don’t miss more than one day taking it for this very reason. So it has multiple benefits.

This isn’t my first time trying these ED drugs. I had used it before, when the SSRIs were having the negative effects. I had even tried them when much younger and in no real need for them, well just because I could. Here’s the skinny. When I first tried viagra I did not like it. Made me feel funny, and the erections felt, well, artificial. Hard to describe but I stopped taking. A year or so later I tried again, and discovered that if I was patient then after a short wile the funny feelings went away. And within a reasonable time the erections started feeling normal. It wasn’t a panacea so long as I was on the SSRI, but now I swear by them. They give me rock hard erections, and as my previous post indicated, I make good use of my time.

I also have other sex aids. A medical grade vaccum erection device — a penis pump in realspeak — is a great device. I actually use it sometimes just to get the intense feeling from the device itself. And when used in conjunction with the ED meditation it is marvelous. I don’t need it to get an erection (because of the ED drugs ) but it feels good. Note that if you need and are using a penis pump exclusively to get erections then one step is that as you remove the pump you must use a very snug elastic cockring to keep the erection, and it is not very comfortable. I don’t know about the penis pumps you buy from Adam and Eve and the like, but the one I have comes with the cock rings, and the design allows you to place it properly as you remove the pump.

 

Thank you for whatever reason I did not get your PM please try again.

 

I just completed reading your post. My Dr. tells me my blood pressure med is what limits my erection. So yes I purchased a penis pump the is a high grade than normal one. It is rechargeable with a USB cord. I also purchased some silicone cock rings which work very well. The big issue for me and my new wife is I get no cum now. I remarried 4 years ago. My first wife passed and absolutely hated sex. I was lucky to get any 3 or 4 times a year. So that meant that I masturbated at least 5 times a week. Sorry to cut this short more later.

 

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Nothing you said is weird.

 

Nothing you said is weird.

 

Remember the Old Mans Golden Rule. Never trust a fart and never waste a hard on.

 

Can I help?

 

I would love to play with you and see if we can fix that ED.

 

And if you did play with me just what would you do to me

 

I fucking love to jerk off! If anyone wants to exchange PMs, I'd be more than aroused to participate!

 

I think you’ll have to guess or dm

 

How come you’ve never dmed me?!

 

wanna have a wank? My cock is oozing precum

 

Excited to masturbate again boys?

 

I retired 3 years ago and spend a lot of time masturbating when I don't have a project.
But then again, I've always spent a lot of time masturbating whether I was in a relationship, or working, or etc.
At home, in the car, in other peoples homes, or outdoors.
Basically, when something hits me that I need to masturbate, I've always figured out a way to do it.
I seem to have wandered a bit, but yes, I probably spend more time masturbating now.
But not by much!

 

Do I trigger you to masturbate?