To go along with my earlier post about cheating, could it be that some people do it because it’s considered naughty or bad as it doesn’t conform to standards of most cultures? Does it make it more exciting? All year I have seen people on this forum compliment me for being open minded and that I shouldn’t refer to myself as a slut or whore and that I am not a bad or evil person. I certainly appreciate that you accept me, but likely the rest of the world would certainly call me things like a tramp, a cheap slut, deranged, reckless, perverted, etc…including my parents and family. But I think I really like seeing myself that way, when thinking about my second question above. Yes, it is more exciting for me to be bad and break most rules…it is thrilling in fact! I’ve been naughty at virtually every stage of my life! What do you all think…Does naughty add spice? By the way, a friend made some holiday cartoons with me as a naughty elf…if you want one, just PM me! Happy naughty New Year coming up!
Yes, it is quite possible that some people cheat for the thrill of it. We all grow up knowing what the rules are but rules, as they say, are made to be broken - except the ones regarding sex should never be broken or let the slut shaming begin (and as you've probably heard a lot of). As a bisexual man, I know for a fact that having sex with a guy is amazingly thrilling because it breaks one of major rules about having sex and the possibility of getting caught in the act - and as strange as it might sound - added to the thrill of sucking some guy's prick or there's some fucking going on. Some of us "push the envelope" to see what other thrills we can engage in and get away with and where women are concern, I'm sure that some of things you do for the fun and thrill of it, Jenna, would make a lot of other women have strokes and heart attacks as you revel in your sluttiness and taking the measure of anyone who dares to get naked with you. So, yeah: Naughty adds spice as long as you're not being stupid about things!
Only if you believe that bullshit that blonds are ditzy airheads; I happen to know quite a few blonds who are anything but a ditzy airhead. Okay, I've done some "stupid" things in the pursuit of sex and, all after the fact, yeah, maybe I shouldn't have done that but at this point, it's too late to kick my own ass about it - I should have thought about it before I did it, but I didn't and... that's that. Is there an excuse for doing something you realize was stupid... and after you did it? Nah, not really, but that when we chalk it up to experience. Sometimes, we know that we shouldn't do a thing... and we do it anyway because it's sex and who knows - it might even turn out to be fun, huh? And, sometimes, we confirm that what we shouldn't have done was inherently stupid and we're lucky to have gotten out of it without something horribly bad happening and... hair color has nothing to do with it. What this did teach me is that we - humans - can justify anything that we might do and as long as we can justify why we did a stupid thing, then no harm, no foul... kind of and as long as no one really got hurt other than the aches and pains that are normal when having sex. Sometimes, Jenna, it's not that we might do some stupid things; it's whether we learned something from having done something stupid and have learned to not do that again or, if you do it again, you do it in a way that's not all that stupid. PS: The last woman I did a very stupid thing with - falling in love with her and both of us were married and then having some of the best sex I've ever had - was also one of the smartest people I've ever met, and she was also very blond from head to toe. One of the first things she said to me was, "Don't let the blond hair fool you..." and they were wise words. So, while you could use "I'm blond!" as an excuse, I think that diminishes you as a person and more so if you don't behave like the stereotype.
Well spoken, but I do think she was just being funny about the blonde thing. She has a good sense of humor, but English is not her first language
So in my opinion the reaction to people who would call you a tramp or whore, etc., is often based on feeling threatened. If someones partner found you, your body or what you do to be attractive, then you become a threat to that relationship. Thus, puttinig you down is an attempt to level the field for them. You...yourself...might even wear those badges proudly. My second FWB was a former sugar babe. He paid for trips all over the world...she lived on a yacht...she got a fabulous boob job and she strutted herself proudly until she aged and she got replaced. Now, she's proud that she does for men what their partners won't do. Or stopped doing and she loves being called a slut or just slutty. I love her for that experience but I'm not about to pull up stakes and move in. In fact, she's quite happy living alone and seeing whoever she wants for whatever she wants to do. Yes, there's a LOT of people quite willing to put her down and not for any good reason. The first time we met she kissed me on the way out and whispered "If you can't be naughty at home, stop over and be naughty with me. I'm good at it". She had minutes before proved her point with a wonderful blowjob. That's all part of the thrill!
Thank you for being YOU Jenna! Those that made decisions as to cheating are there’s not yours. We are grown adults!! Would love to see the the naughty elf(s)! (((HUGS)))
I think the naughty elf is going to PM you…she can’t get to everyone in one night, but she’ll try her best!
However for what I see, the naughty elf makes up for it by seeing a few people at the same time Christmas every day with Jenna
When Santa asks me if I've been naughty or nice, I always say, "Both." And then I feel something twitch a little bit in his lap.
The name calling and stereotypes generally stem from "heritage", as in what have they grown up to understand? What does their religion tell them? What was it like in their family? Their friends? School?? Many of us have encountered these stereotypes tossed around by either others towards others for their suspected actions, or directed at ourselves by others. These people are more restricted in how they view sex in general. Unless it's with one other person, in a committed relationship, and doing the text book sex things, then it's dirty, wrong, someone is a slut, etc. These people also either lack any experience outside of this limited framing of sex, or are afraid of anything outside of the norm due to risks or morality..... Or perhaps these people were hurt by partners in the past who did things behind their back and hold trust issues, thus will criticise anyone different from themselves. In any case, it's all subjective, depending on who you ask, and you'll never please everyone. So F em all. Their opinions are irrelevant. You do you. As for the excitement of this type of sex and breaking from norms, I believe the excitement stems from the idea of letting every inhibition go, let everything happen in the moment, going to the control panel where the "Limitations" button is and flicking it off, then flicking on the "Pleasure" switch and breaking it off, leaving yourself fully open to every sensation and experience. We all have that thing in the back of the head telling us where lines should be drawn. What our limitations should be. In everything in life and what we do..... .... But then you put yourself into a situation with one or more partners in a situation you know is safe (to you anyway) and you know what to expect - and then some - and you have a few hours of your life free to do whatever you want. In this environment, the excitement is about turning all restrictions off and letting what will happen happen. This increases excitement during the moment, but there's also the above stereotypes playing in the back of the mind..... What "you're" doing is slutty, a whore, and you know what? Good! So what? That's their problem and because it's their problem, you're going to enjoy it even more just out of spite. And there's nothing wrong with that. There might be something wrong with that for others, but again, their opinion doesn't matter and that's their problem, not yours.
