My wife has no interest in me now she has a boyfriend so I figure it gives me freedom to do as i please.
My wife can't. Hasn't for years. Not her fault as sometimes life deals a rotten hand. At least I can find relaxation elsewhere without her being upset. We just have a don't ask policy. So I don't miss getting a good BJ. I don't cum from one but that's okay as the BJ usually leads to more.
I can't emphasize enough how you have to ask people and not hint at what you want, especially oral. Just last night I stopped into a restaurant to grab a drink and something to eat. A friend was working the bar and she was all excited to see me since she had just gotten engaged. She knew I loved getting sucked and asked if it was alright if her GF contacted me. Of course I said yes. Woke up this morning to a text from this girl. We'll see where it goes but if you're quiet about what you'd like, things won't happen.