Well, I personally don't use dating sites. Plentyoffish is absolutely pointless. There may be dating sites that work, sure, but only if you're a hunk. They charge you to send a little image of a teddy bear or a champagne or wine bottle. It just feels gimmicky. Even if you upgrade your user status, it's still going to be an uphill battle. One that will likely get you nowhere anytime soon. I bet a lot of people just register on it to see what lonely hearts will contact them, then you will regret even bothering to sign up. They're probably not remotely serious. But it's often impossible to tell who's what due to there being little of a connection as a whole. Online is, well, online. It all feels like make believe.
I gave up on finding that connection. Several friends had them since HS and I envied them. At 19 and free I met and dated lots of ladies, I just never got that huge spark. Then at about 21 I met her, she used me for about a year and a half. She graduated nursing school and dumped me the same week. I was a mess, she was drop dead gorgeous with the finest set of legs and an incredible ass. Im pretty sure my lust for her was much greater than my love. I warm all who date nurses, doctors are why they become nurses. I'm talking about young ones, just beginning or about to start. She had one right away but he was still married. I know and she must know if he hadn't divorced her already it's a money situation. She married once for a year and had couple of lovers I imagine but she's alone with cats. No kids, I can't imagine not having grandkids now. She's probably perfectly happy.
Yes, there are people seeking a genuine connection. I've loved my best male friend since we met the first day of 7th grade a long time ago and my best female friend since we started dating 20 years ago.