It’s been 2 years

I’m new here and I haven’t jerked off in 2 years. I’m 40m divorced and stopped jerking in February 2023 to try and work on the marriage since I was jerking off to porn and chat room so there wasn’t much left for the relationship at times. Long story short, the married ended 7 months ago and I still haven’t jerked off.

There’s a part of me that doesn’t want to “open the door” to jerking off and I don’t have a desire to be relationship. On the other hand sexuality is a part of who we are and sometimes (like now) I do want to get naked and lay on my back with legs spread and stroke my meat with my ball sack bouncing and clapping until I spay cum… not sure what to do. If you got this far, thanks for reading!

 

It’s a tough call, I understand not wanting to go down the rabbit hole again, jerking off to porn and being addicted to porn is a real thing.
So the question becomes are you secure enough with yourself now to not go down that rabbit hole again, even though you are single you don’t want to go back down it because it’s not a nice place to be.
So if you are happy where you are and your confident you can keep it in check then get naked and blow your load.
But if you are not in a secure place and you are fearful it would lead you back down a path you don’t want to go then you may not want to.
At the end of the day the decision is yours.

 

I can relate, been addicted since I was 11 and trying to quit is hard, but you’ve made the right decision

 

May I take you to another mastubation level? Tell me what you want to see hun

 

Yeah I don’t have a desire to look at porn, and don’t have a desire to go back to that. I just think about jerking off sometimes. I’ve only been intimate once in the past 7 months which was with a neighbor, but she has a bf now. Since I’m not jerking off I typically wake up to a nocturnal emission once a week. I guess in some ways it seems unrealistic to not be sexual you know?

 

Well since you slept with your neighbor in the last 7 months you’re still being sexual so I don’t see a reason why not rub one out.

 

This sounds to me like her torturing yourself . Do whatever makes you feel good.

for me I go through dry spells with no sex with a woman and then I go through pure as where I’m getting it every week or more. So for me masturbation is absolutely wonderful.

 

Masturbation is a natural activity that can have several physical, psychological, and sexual health benefits when done in moderation. Here are some of the potential benefits:

Physical Benefits

1. Stress Relief: Masturbation triggers the release of endorphins, which can help reduce stress and promote relaxation.
2. Improved Sleep: The release of hormones like oxytocin and prolactin post-orgasm may improve sleep quality.
3. Prostate Health: Regular ejaculation has been associated with a reduced risk of prostate cancer in some studies.
4. Pain Relief: Orgasm can temporarily relieve certain types of pain, such as headaches and muscle tension, due to the release of endorphins.
5. Pelvic Floor Muscle Exercise: Regular ejaculation engages the pelvic floor muscles, which may help maintain their tone and function.

Psychological Benefits

1. Mood Enhancement: Masturbation can help improve mood by releasing dopamine and serotonin, which are linked to feelings of pleasure and well-being.
2. Reduction in Anxiety: It can provide a sense of relaxation and calmness that may alleviate anxiety.
3. Body Awareness: Masturbation can help men understand their own sexual preferences and responses, fostering better body awareness.

Sexual Health Benefits

1. Improved Sexual Function: Regular masturbation may reduce the risk of erectile dysfunction by promoting healthy blood flow and maintaining the responsiveness of penile tissue.
2. Ejaculatory Control: Masturbation can help men learn to control ejaculation, potentially improving sexual performance and reducing issues like premature ejaculation.
3. Enhanced Libido: For some, it can help maintain or enhance sexual desire by keeping sexual energy and curiosity active.
4. Safe Sexual Outlet: Masturbation provides a safe way to experience sexual pleasure without the risks of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) or unplanned pregnancies.

General Considerations

• Frequency and Moderation: While masturbation is generally healthy, excessive frequency might lead to physical irritation, emotional distress, or interference with daily life and relationships. Balance is key.
• Cultural and Personal Beliefs: It's essential to consider individual comfort levels and cultural or personal beliefs regarding masturbation.

I am by no means an expert, but this is information I have gleaned over the years. If you have specific concerns or questions about masturbation and its effects, consulting a healthcare professional or therapist can provide specific advice.

 

Welcome!

 

Go ahead and open that door. Get past your masturbation inhibitions. A good regimen of masturbation leads to better health including mentally. So go ahead and lay back, totally nude, and stroke yourself to a pleasurable outcome. It's one of the best self care practices around. Besides, your former masturbation activities did not cause your wife to leave you. Marriages just don't fail because the husband jacks off regularly. Especially if he corrects the ways he was doing it. There was more to it than that. Masturbate to your hearts content and go out and find some pussy to fuck too.

 

there is nothing wrong with masturbation,, we are sexual beings, we need this. The post above spelled out all the great things masturbation does for us. I would probably go crazy and go on a rampage without it. Masturbation keeps me sane in between sex episodes with a woman. That is weekly, but sometimes it can be months and months without that..

 

It sounds like you are blaming porn and masturbation on your divorce. You probably feel ashamed or guilty.

Your relationship issues go much deeper than your masturbation habits. Masturbation is just an easy excuse for the disintegration of your marriage.

Feeling ashamed or guilty about masturbation isn't healthy. Most of us grew up having to hide our masturbation because our puritanical parents told us it was wrong.

As we mature, most of us realized how screwed up that thinking is and we have embraced the ability to control our bodies freely for the purpose of pleasure.

I would caution you to not go back down that road of shame and guilt. As you seek out new partners, be open with them about your desire for masturbation. It is part of who you are.

 

Well written I feel exactly the same as you it’s his choice.

 

Let me make you more healthy then. Tell me what you want to see inside?