Defining Masculinity

This is a dumb definition of masculinity. You're just saying that being masculine is being NOT feminine. But they're not opposites. They're compliments. They're not mutually exclusive either.

We're trying to define masculinity here, not define what is not masculine.

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I think that being masculine has to do with not giving a fuck. And there is a masculine way of thinking. Like I know that when I see girl students do their work and boys they do it completely differently. Girls have extremely neat and tidy notes and work with attrition, while boys seem to either have neat (in an engineer-ish way -- very different from the way girl's notes are neat) or scribbly notes and they seem to work in a more deductive (rather than inductive way). boys seem to work more in bursts of curiosity rather than through a continuous, studious desire to please.

just my thoughts... I don't know how to define masculinity, so I'm just making some observations...

 

Masculinity is society telling men how they want them to behave the problem is what society wants is not clear it gets distorted. An example is men should be strong gets turned into only the superficial of big muscles not the strength to stand up for injustice or against bullying. We should be asking what do we want masculinity to be or what do we want men to aspire to

 

Who cares? I'm comfortable being myself. I like to read about ancient history, sociology and religion and listen to classical music. Given a choice between watching the Superbowl game and watching paint dry, I'd take the paint. I'm happily married with four kids, don't drink, smoke, do drugs, have extra-marital sex, and my idea of a good time is going to bible study. And I eat quiche. Other than that, I'm just a regular, fun guy!

 

Being masculine, is being empathetic, self correcting by reality, truth, facts with accountability.

 

Pretty much the only time I even think about being masculine is when I make sure I'm entering a public bathroom that says "Men".

The rest of the time, I exist without obsessing about gender roles

 

It did me too--I always thought that the mess Weiner made of his career was hilarious, or maybe I'm just mean.

 

Besides time having a bath, a shower or shaving if a guy spends more than 15 minutes preening he certainly isnt masculine in my generation.