How do I/should I (m26) tell my partner (f44) about my m*mmy kink?

So, context. We've been causally dating for two months and we met by happenstance. I was not intentionally perusing this age gap. When I met her, she was just a cool punky chick at the same gig as me and we got chatting in the smoking area. We were both surprised to learn one another's ages. I mention that because I want to be clear that it was not because of my m*mmy kink that I entered into our casual relationship (which with every day I wish was more serious).

Sexually we are very explorative/kinky and we encourage one another to be honest and explore our fantasies; our bedroom is a safe space for both of us. I'd love to share my fantasy, but I'm scared it could ruin us.

She can at times feel quite self conscious about our gap; I occasionally need to reassure her it doesn't bother me and isn't regularly on my mind. On top of this she is also a mother, so I think may have a much different relationship with the word "m*mmy" than I do.

Everytime she invites me to share I am tempted, but I am scared I will offend/upset her. I don't want her thinking we are together because I fetishise her and her age, because I don't, and I don't want to make her uncomfortable by telling her it's a sexual dynamic I am very into the idea of. How do I move forward/do I move forward at all?

 

Casually dating for two months?

Give it some more time, Grasshopper.

 

I'm thinking you need to be into her for the woman that she is and not letting her age - and being a mom - get in the way of you appreciating her as a woman. Yeah, I'm also thinking that at some point, you're going to have to share when she invites you to but if you give her the impression that you're only into her because she sets off your mommy kink, yeah, she might get upset and/or offended. I've been fetishized - that BBC crap - and I know how much it suck's donkey dick for someone to not be all that interested in me as a person but only as something that sets their kink/fetish off. Personally, I really do try not to be offended by this and try to understand kinks and fetishes but some people aren't so understanding and, again, if you tell her or give her the impression that you're only with her because of your kink/fetish, well, good luck with that since there's no telling how she's going to react to that... but it might not be good.

 

She already knows the age gap.

I'm sure she suspects your kink, by now.

 

Yeah, she knows.

 

She may know, but bring your fantasy out in the open may be hard for her to hear. Although, she may not have a problem with it. It is a risk but that's in every relationship concerning a variety of issues. Mommy fantasies has been a major "go to" sex fantasy for me. It was several decades of marriage until I brought it up. It took several months for my wife to accept it and somewhat "participate" in my mommy fantasies but it has all worked out. A few major points to think about: make sure she understands it's just a fantasy, I NEVER think of my real mom, and we make fantasies she's good with (I know this sounds weird but their are some story lines she can't do). This is apart of intimacy which is key to a loving happy sexual relationship. It was only 2 years ago my wife finally confessed to wanting to be spanked (lightly no bdsm). So, start slow and eluding to it. Take your time. If this is a relationship both want to last, then you have plenty of time. If not, then the he'll with it, bring out your fantasy, what do you have to lose. Good luck. Intimacy can b scary but most of the time it deepens the relationship