When my wife was physically done with sex for herself, she is the one who initiated my bi exploration . She would not be cool about me messing around with other women, but trying it with our friend was not only acceptable as an alternative, it was strongly encouraged for several reasons. Doing it the first time was like jumping off the High Diving board. She was also present when I sucked his cock and has watched, commented and made suggestions that turn her on too. It makes every experience an adventure. If your lady knows, would she like to watch or participate?
My wife used to say that she would love to watch a guy suck my cock and I'm pretty sure she would have joined the fun, but these days with her health issues and the resulting drop in sex drive....IDK
The answer to that question is no... so I am not sure I can call it bi-play. It's gay play for me - I haven't experienced hetero sex in many years. I am why I consider myself bi - and am not sure I do anymore. If you have a female partner and you want to experience your desire for both, I hope you readers will understand that is who you are, and you should seriously consider accepting that as your natural self. Where you go from there is up to you, though. If you have a female partner who can accept this in you, then you have a very special lady. Or, I suppose, if you have a man who also accepts that, very good, too. Some of us (me) spent too much of my life refusing to accept this as a normal expression of who I am. I think it can partially be "blamed" on the times I grew up, and the circumstances. I'd like to replay my life - roll it back a few 20-40 years now, but - on the other hand, I had to go through it to get where I am today.
Until she told me to my face, I never thought she would like to see me getting my cock sucked by guy or sucking his. Health issues brought us to the same situation. She made me promise to try it and when I finally did, she watched very intently, sitting on the edge of her seat. She not only liked watching our friend suck my cock,she could hardly wait to see Me sucking his.
There are things that we all would probably change, but it is what it is and all we can do is Grow on our Life Experiences. Live and Learn
My wife and I still have sex on a fairly regular basis. Not nearly as much as when we were younger but still get it on. She introduced me to the use of a dildo over a period of months. I enjoyed it very much. She said that I should try a real cock as it would feel a lot better. I did and enjoy it tremendously. We talk about it but she has no desire to me and my friend having sex.
My wife is involved with the hookups and honestly the first time was probably the most difficult for me. Matter of fact I couldn't even get hard while he was blowing me because for me (which we discussed later) my wife has always seen me as a very "alpha" man which in my every day life I am; so I felt that if I was enjoying it or getting turned on that she would see me differently. Needless to say we didn't do anything that night with him. After our conversations she told me that in her eyes that she never would see me any other way than her husband and protector. That enjoying sex with another man didn't make me any less. She was happy that we could have an openness to our marriage. The next time we got on Grindr and looked for someone to meet at a hotel and that night was the first of several more. Now we are involved in the lifestyle, which has opened our eyes to other adventures
My current wife chooses not to be involved, says she’s just not ready but is ok with me playing as long as I’m safe. My ex wife is bi and encouraged me to play and was involved. I did a 69 with her while my friend fucked her. When he came and pulled out I got a face and mouth full of her juices and his cum. It was incredible. My first pussy and cock cum cocktail.