Married guy anal

Don't pass it by, give it a try. If it feels good, try it again and build on the experience.

 

thepapasmurph said, "Within our sexual orientation, I see sub-sections - with gay sex it comes down to a few - and the list seems to grow exponentially... are you a top, a bottom, a side, a verse? These terms are more commonly known in the gay world, and a bi man, or a man who is interested - curious, I suppose - may not understand it."

That winds up being one of the major decisions a newbie faces - what "kind" of bisexual man is he going to be and how is he going to be bisexual. I remember, lo so long ago, doing an IIRC chat with a guy and he asked me, "Are you a top or a bottom?" and... I had no idea what he was talking about. I felt so embarrassed to have been a very experienced bisexual man but I had to have someone explain this "top or bottom" thing to me. Once he did, oh, okay, I understood what he was saying but my answer to his question was, "Well, in that case, I'm both!" He didn't seem to want to keep chatting with me and I would find out that he was hoping that I was a bottom so he could top me but, as I got him to confess, he was very leery about me wanting to top him and, I guess, I was fucking with him because I said, "Well, why wouldn't I want to top you?"

That's because I wasn't supposed to and now, I had a good look at how... locked-in having sex with a guy could really be and the terms borrowed (or stolen) from BDSM to define, mainly, only two roles in M2M sex. In the here and now, I still haven't quite figured out what a top/verse or bottom/verse is other than it's... being nitpicky? Someone making up a term that probably isn't needed because if you're versatile, um, doesn't that explain what you're willing to do? Or does this term seek to describe and define what you prefer to do but what you might be willing to do with the right guy/right situation?

And if you're sitting on the side of the pool thinking about diving in, if you aren't up to speed on these terms and sexual roles, your experience may not be as fantastic as dreamt about. Know the terms; know the roles assigned to the terms. Then know that just because you, say, choose to be a top doesn't mean that you cannot change your mind...

 

@thepapasmurph, yeah, I know I'm verse and I've always been this way. I tried explaining to my protege that there are tops and bottoms and then there are guys who will top or bottom - but not be in the role all that much. Yeah, I remember early in my mentorship with my protege and him saying that he was a top and he was never gonna let a guy fuck him. I had laughed and said, "There's going to come a day when you're going to want a guy to fuck you, so I hope you don't think I'm bullshitting you." He continued to say that it'll never happen and, a week or so later, he's telling me about this guy topping him... and because he wanted to be screwed... and how did I know he was going to want to?

I told him, "Because I grew up being screwed." I came to understand that there were days and times when I had to have a guy fucking me and there was no sense in denying it - I tried to, of course, but yeah, you learn to never say never when it comes to these things..." I told him that it was perfectly okay to want to be fucked and that he didn't have to give up da booty to every guy who wanted it but, sure, if you feel like getting boned every so often, get boned and have fun.

Now, when I hook up with a guy, the logistics are important because if I tell you that I want to suck you off and it'd be nice if you did the same for me, do not try to sneak in an attempt to fuck me or even ask me to fuck you. Yeah, I know about being in the moment and changing your mind and I know it happens but if we're blowing each other and one of us shouts out, "Put it in me!" that's fine... but that's not the #1 item for this deal.

I learned the hard way about not being clear before the fact and, yes, bad sex is still sex and I've had to ask myself, "Well, before it turned bad, was it good?" and most of the time I had to say yes but there were those times that, from the moment the head of his dick went in me, I was asking myself why I thought this was a good thing to do and now I'm being fucked and... I would have to admit that before I felt it was bad, it was feeling kinda/sorta good and I did like it when he finally came in me.

I think that there are "a lot of guys" who have it in their minds that, yes, they wanna be a top or a bottom but when they get in bed with a guy, well, they learn some stuff. The roles have their specific meanings and behaviors but one of the things I learned is that if you can't adapt and be flexible, having sex with guys might not be as good for you as you may hope. Know what the roles are; know what is expected of you when you say you're a top or a bottom and, yes, understand what being verse really means.

 

My wife used to peg me before she passed.
I’m ready for a man to fuck me!
Want to find out if I can feel his cum in my ass!!

 

Yes, have definitely cum to really enjoy it over the years

 

I have enjoyed it on a number of occasions so yes, count me in.

 

Go for it! There is nothing stopping you!
But don't see a sexual health clinic or some online doctor options! Get on PrEP to prevent hiv before having sex, and get DoxyPEP to take 1 to 3 days after having sex to prevent most bacterial STI's! Let us know about your fun please!

 

I am happy that my wife convinced me to try it. It was well worth it.

 

Damn, I’m hard as a rock reading all of this. I enjoyed giving oral and being pegged for years but really want to experience giving and receiving anal. I love the way cum feels in my mouth and sliding down my throat. I need to feel it in my ass.