Do you refer to yourself as gay?

I consider my self as bisexul there are times I want to be with a guy although I'm married to a wonderful woman who goes along with my desire to suck a guy! It wasn't until we met this couple that she had her first experience with a woman and she loved it so now foursomes are not unusual with this couple!

 

I have regular sex with my wife but apart from that we both consider me gay. Not interested in sex with other women. I have to masturbate for a while to gay porn to get myself nice and hard for my wife.

 

I've always considered myself bisexual. My wife, who's also bisexual sometimes tells me she thinks I'm "just gay." Other times, she seems really turned on by my bisexuality. In reality though, I think it's hard for her to imagine the guy she married to suck dick and bottom for guys

 

Nowadays (late 2023):

1) “Gay” used for Males: Identifying as “Exclusively homosexual”, and consequently “Not sexually interested in females”

Bisexual men usually fly under the radar and find it very convenient to be seen as straight in a heterosexual environment and gay in a homosexual environment. Don’t ask, don’t tell. This explains why so many gays claim that bisexuals don’t exist – they haven't met anyone who calls himself bisexual. These same people then complain that LGBT organisations where they have never shown up don’t care about bisexuals.

It is now common practice among people who are reasonably knowledgeable in the field of sexuality not to equate homosexual with gay, because homosexual and heterosexual are not mutually exclusive.

I have never labelled myself as gay, even in dating profiles, because I have always thought that was misleading. I have never believed that bisexual is more than a certain fluency in two areas that are conventionally seen as opposites, and never filled in that input box.

On the other hand, I have never tried to prevent someone from mistakenly labelling me as gay simply because I have the habit of talking about girlfriends, and women in general, in a way that does not easily give away that I am sexually interested in women. Exclusive heterosexuality, every philistine knows that! On such occasions I liked to let it be known that I didn't think much of marriage and considered sexual exclusivity to be an imposition. And that was usually the end of the matter.

2) “Gay” used for Females: Homosexual = sapphic = “Sexually interested in females”

Here gay and sapphic are umbrella terms for bisexual, queer, lesbian etc. highlighting the homosexual common ground.

For bisexual females, the use of these terms has the advantage that they can avoid having to refer to themselves as bisexual on this occasion, which does not necessarily arouse enthusiasm among lesbians and also avoids the irritating dichotomy of male and female that the prefix bi indicates.

 

I'm bisexual. Always have been, always will be. If gay men say they never met a bisexual who said he was bisexual, that's because they didn't meet me. If they believe that bisexuals don't exist, they need a reality check and need to stop believing their own propaganda. And... to hell with LGBTQ+ organizations; I was doing well before they existed - didn't need them then, don't need them now.

And why is it now common practice? In what version of the world does homosexual not equal gay? Last I heard, homosexual and heterosexual were two different things - except where bisexuals were concerned. I have gone out of my way to correct anyone who mislabeled me as being gay; really, what part of I like boys and girls don't you understand? I take a dim view of anyone who only pays attention to the homosexual things I do and ignores the heterosexual things and then accuse me of enjoying straight privilege when, um, I am straight, too. And, in one sentence, you appear to devalue what it means to be bisexual and because of what you believe. In h context of women, I have never heard "gay" describe a bisexual woman and, really, how could it? What "irritating dichotomy" are you referring to?

I'd never say that I'm gay... because I'm not. Wouldn't want to be. You don't have to be gay to enjoy the sex and as many a bisexual has proven.

 

I don’t refer to myself I simply pursue what I like without labels.

 

Some people are just sexual. I like the feel of my bare skin on some else's, taking and giving pleasure, bringing another to climax and getting my own rocks off with them. My only requirement is I must be attracted to them, there has to be a quality that excites me. It's about the pleasure after all and thing else is hardly material.

 

You make a good point, but this isn't about the labels so much as it is about people having incorrect information stuck in their head even when you give them the correct information. If you're not gay, why would you refer to yourself as gay? Just because I sleep with men doesn't mean I'm gay but I get it: Gay is "easier" to make sense of than bisexual is and it continues to amaze me that in 2024, there are a lot of people who just don't get it and they'd rather keep believing some shit that, by the way, wasn't true when I was growing up as a bisexual. The label isn't and never was the problem: It's the continued ignorance some people display because they don't want to accept that everything they think they know about sexuality is wrong.

 

I identify as Bisexual, although I have had others have the hubris to explain to me how I'm incorrect; I'm actually Gay. It's like someone correcting you for mispronouncing your own name.

 

I refer to myself as bisexual in private or with men I am sexual with. Because of my situation being married to a woman that would never except my bisexuality. I live publicly as a heterosexual male, privately I’m bisexual. I am very attracted to women and given the opportunity love sex with them. I also enjoy sex with men and am attracted to them as well. For me it’s not just an attraction to genitalia, I enjoy physical contact including kissing and exploring with my hands with both. Having said that, I don’t spend a lot of time figuring out how to label myself. It’s merely a mechanism to communicate what interests me to others.

 

I have been chatting with the same man for a long time now and love to refer to myself as a gay man. Really turns me on to think of myself as a homosexual man.

 

I refer to myself as a bisexual man. I do things that I refer to as gay but since my first sex with a guy and my first sex with a girl I've always enjoyed both and never looked back. Too much to miss out on if you limit yourself to one pool.
I do appreciate some terms that others might find offensive.
When I put on stockings and panties for a man that likes that, I don't mind if he calls me a sissy faggot. I enjoy it. It puts me in a servitude mood and that's what he wants so nobody is being hurt. If he calls me gay then at that moment I'm gay to him, but I'm still a bisexual man.

 

No, I do not refer to myself as gay,never have.

I refer to myself as heteroflexible, mostly straight, and sometimes bi just because of the simplicity of it. I've mostly given up on bi-curious because I'm past the curious stage, and know the interest is not ever going away.
If I had a female partner who was attracted to me and affectionate, along with frequent sex - I could easily live never having any bi experiences with a guy again, or at least satisfy the urges with porn?

I'm only hetero-romantic, though, as I've never had a desire to date, be a couple, or live/marry a guy.
In a weird way, I wish I was bi-romantic, so I could have equal possibilities with anyone? But I'm just not wired that way, and I'm ok with that.
Even though I'm not, I do strongly prefer to have a friendship connection of at least some sort with a guy before considering sex. I'm not a personal fan of anonymous encounters with the risks associated. If there was no such thing as STI's, that might be a different story! LoL!

 

I still don't know why someone would refer to themselves as gay when they know they aren't gay; that makes no sense to me...

 

I'm bi, but don't mind being called gay. I mean, I crossdress and love sucking cock so I am not far off. I referred to my suck buddy as a boyfriend and didn't mind, and he certainly got off on it. I told him I'd go gay for him to keep him around when he moves back, and he told me he was going to hold me to it.

 

Well after a incredibly hot gay encounter yes, but than I realize I want a woman as well..

 

Am I gay if I desire tranny dick?

 

I usually say gayish it may be wrong but when people say gay I think guy attracted only to guys. I like cock and pussy so gayish I know it’s dumb lol

 

Nah

 

I love and couldn’t live without women but can definitely appreciate a good looking penis and man ass. I just consider myself very open minded and sexually adventurous.