A question for older women

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by jeeves, May 26, 2025.

  1. jeeves

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    Ladies .. this may seem something of a bizarre question, but it's a genuine enquiry & not intended to offend.

    I'm a fit mid 'seventies man who, as a result of surgery, is unable to achieve an erection but can still cum, either dry or precum, through masturbation & I have often fantasized about sharing orgasms with someone else.
    I have an old friend of similar age who no longer enjoys a physical relationship with her husband due to his lack of interest in sex, but I doubt she would want to ruin their marriage any more than I would. I'm in a similar situation in that my own partner has been totally disinterested in sex for several years.

    So (finally) getting to the question itself .. might a woman in her position feel less guilt enjoying discreet non-penetrative sex acts with another man, as opposed to having a full blown affair ?
     
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  2. Bazz888

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    All women are different. In my experience of women in their 60s, they might be interested. Those who got naughty with me loved receiving oral. I love giving!! I can't feel good if the lady isn't satisfied before me.
    However, whilst we did have sex, it was after she was sorted out and they usually told me to do it for me. Sometimes I didn't fuck but just went down again. They were happy. So don't let your issue worry you and chat with her.

    If you say stuff yourself, about what your thinking, keeping it hypothetical so she won't feel pressured, she might surprise you.

    To clarify; don't jump in with both feet and say you want sex but perhaps, explain your predicament (no sex) and your ED and you wish you could find someone for non-penetrative sex. If she is shocked or startled, just apologise and say that you didn't mean to suggest you wanted sex with her but you thought she might know someone else who'd be up for it.

    Ive been there a few times but my question was along the lines of, "do you know anyone who might.....". It's her choice to say she would do it or that she does/doesn't know anyone.

    Hth
     
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  3. jeeves

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    Your reply is much appreciated, thank you.
     
  4. straightma1e

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    Early 70's myself but do not have any erection problems. I had a fuck buddy a few years back in a similar position as your old friend who wanted sex but her husband didn't. We hooked up and had all forms of sex from oral to bareback PIV. We even had a few threesomes with a friend of hers. My FB had no guilt feelings at all. Neither did I. I still have sex with other women and do not feel bad for it. But the reason why is my spouse knows and accepts I do. As for the other women, that's up to them to be ethical with their mate. I feel that is the key to how one feels about non monogamy. So that's what I suggest. Talk it over with your spouse and let her know where you stand and what you want. Don't ask for permission, just acceptance. Then talk with your old friend by inquiring if she might know someone who would help you. That allows her to offer herself up if she is interested. if not she might know and connect you with someone who is.
     
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  5. topper

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    My wife and I , both in our 70s , agree that Sex is just a physical need and desire. Love is something that we share with each other. That allows us to explore other avenues of pleasure without any guilt trips
     
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  6. Jumper58

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    That’s great!!
     
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  7. jeeves

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    Whilst I appreciate all of the replies I am a little disappointed at the lack of response from ladies (married or otherwise) from the same generation as myself who may share the same thoughts, as it's their view on the subject that I really wanted to explore.

    Thank you for indulging me.
     
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  8. Panama Jack

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    Jeeves,
    Respectfully, Yes there is a lack of females responses here and that’s too bad.

    That said, My wife and I have a widower friend that has severe ED. So far, nothing he has tried works. Even my wife has tried to get him erect. Still nothing. He claims he still cums from masturbation, but it remains soft. He is going to try taking a prescripted injection into the penis next.
     
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  9. jeeves

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    Christ that sounds scary, but if the procedure helps the ED it may well prove to be worth it.
    nb. with equal respect how did you react to your wife's attempts to stimulate the guy, if her efforts were successful & he managed to get an erection .. ?
     
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  10. Panama Jack

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    He’s a long time friend, over 25 years. She understands what her body is for. It’s just friends helping a friend. He has seen her naked many times.
    He has even tried penetrating her. He still can’t get it up. He has watched me have sex with my wife as well.
     
  11. straightma1e

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    The friend is probably going to try TriMix, an injectable erection solution. A TriMix injection can keep the cock hard up to two hours. Hope she has the stamina for that.:)
     
  12. topper

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    Not too many women here
    , mostly feedback from horny husbands
     
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  13. jeeves

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    If it works the ability to achieve an erection needs to be matched by his dick remaining sensitive, I wonder if the drug can do both?
     

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