My wife came out to me as lesbian today. Which I kinda figured anyway. She and I actually have a great sex life but she is not interested in men otherwise. She wondered whether she was actually lesbian because we have sex. I asked her if I wasn't in the picture would she have sex with men. She said no. She hasn't been with a woman yet but wants to. So, regarding lesbian porn, that is all she has watched for years. She tried a video with a penis a few years ago but couldn't watch it for long. She is not disgusted by men, they just don't turn her on. Obviously, watching lesbian porn doesn't make you a lesbian but are there any women on here who consider themselves straight or bi who ONLY watches lesbian porn? Can you really consider yourself straight if you only watch lesbian porn? No haters please. I am genuinely curious. I consider myself mostly gay myself. Obviously still have sex with my aforementioned lesbian wife. I watch mostly, but not only, gay porn.
OK, its a lesbian forum but because you are the guy asking I'll give my thoughts. Whatever a person does with their private time, has no bearing, influence or meaning, relative to a label of gay or bi. The straightness or gayness of an individual comes from within them. the type of activity they do or watch is from the other direction. I'm straight. I watch bi and lesbian porn and other types too. Doesn't mean I am bi or gay. I just enjoy seeing the way other guys cum, both when they cum and making it happen. It can add to my list of methods too. I also would like to play with a guy but that too doesn't mean I am gay or bi. I am learning about the male body and I can't learn as much just wanking my own. Keep letting your wife be who she is (let her be herself) without issue or question. Never mind about labels or pigeon holes - they're the type of thing people who don't understand will do in a futile effort to reach an understanding. my 2c.
Thinking it's ok to do so, I might be inclined to view it if it were not insulting to my ego, or some other intellectual conflict. Attraction is important, and if the person in a video, movie, or play is not theoretically attracted to me, that plays a role. What happens if they are though? Maybe that stirs up something unfortunate for some people, or even a dilemma: Now it looks like the hot chick is open for business! But she may have a high standard and a functional process for deciding in real life. For frequency, never works really well for me! But not for everyone. Also, I am not Lesbian, Bi, Gay, or Trans.
I moved this thread to the Bi Forum because (a) the OP's description makes it sound like his wife might be bi, and (b) most of the responders so far are men, making it problematic in the Lesbian Forum. My opinion on the question is that the OP's wife is whatever she decides she is. Watching lesbian porn doesn't mean she is lesbian. (If it did, there would be a ton of lesbian dudes!) Having sex with a guy doesn't mean she is straight. Doing both doesn't mean she is bi. If she doesn't know yet, she'll likely figure it out eventually.
