Tell my wife or not that I am closeted bi

You should have been upfront with her from the start. I experimented with sex with men before I found my girlfriend and I told her just to make sure there was never any surprises later on. Its only my girlfriend and two close friends who know Im bisexual. But this means that we understand each other more. She will peg me to help with my anal fantasies, i have also sucked off a dildo infront of her while she encourages me. I love her more than anything, but I do have that part of me that loves a full asshole. Because I told her about it, from the start she knows its just part of the way i am. She also trusts me more because I am honest with her. Sometimes telling her things that she might not want to hear. We have both been cheated on by previous partners and that makes us stronger because we know how it feels and wont do it to each other.

 

Before my wife and I got married I told her I had one experience with a guy. She asked if I'd like to have more and at that point I told honestly, I wasn't sure (I love my wife a LOT). Not long after those discussions we started fantasizing about mmf, mmff, etc. These fantasies have only grown more and detailed since that first time and some day we may actually make some of them real.

In the meantime, I'm happy to have her peg me and fuck my mouth with our toys.

Do I want to really make some of these things real? Yup, with the person/couple and with my wife right there with me.

I'm in no rush. My wife is an amazing woman and if I never get to experience another cock again, so be it, we have an amazing sex life and we are very connected. If we do find someone to join us some day, all the better.

 

Hi. I’m in the same boat except that our kids are grown and gone. My wife has got to at least suspect that I’m bi as I’ve given her clues and told her of my playing with a guy before I met her. She knows I’m into pegging and solo dildo play and is ok with it. She just may not know that I’m still interested in men. Honestly I don’t think she’d freak out if she found out. Maybe a little initial shock but afterwards she may actually be accepting. Regardless I’m not taking any chances. I don’t need her blabbing all over town if we fought or separated.

 

My wife is Latina and was raised with the stereotypical “machismo” attitudes about men so prevalent in that culture. She’d never accept it. I’ve been told I’m intimidating (not intentional, I guess I just have that look) and can be confrontational and direct (that part is true). That turns her on. When my daughter went in for surgery the male nurse told my wife he was afraid of me when I left the room. I don’t know why, it’s not what I’m trying to project, but I guess I put that attitude out there. Plus I was really stressed out. I’m actually pretty laid back.

She doesn’t have a problem with gay people at all. She’s considers herself an ally. But I don’t think she’d ever look at me the same again if she knew.

 

I tend to think honesty is the best policy cheating never sat well with me. I can’t judge what others do when I came out to my wife she was very supportive hopefully the same happens with you good luck