If only the wife participates, can an open marriage succeed long term?

My wife has had a fuck buddy for around 15 years. I’m totally cool with it and actually encourage it.
Sadly, she doesn’t seem to be as keen any more, so only sees him maybe a couple of times a year. However, she is always so horny when she comes home.
I can’t really explain why it turns me on so much, but I love it when she tells me what she has been up too and haw wet she is with another man’s cum inside her.
Can it succeed a long time….., yes of course. We have been happily married for nearly 20 years and love each other more today than ever.
Providing you are both comfortable with it, the key is always honesty…..

 

How do you explain it? Can you even explain it? How do you explain to a married buddy that I was just fine with my ex-wife having a FB, or how much me and my wife enjoyed our MFMs with our friend? I can count on one hand the folks that knew/know about my proclivity of sharing my wives. I cannot imagine what my friends would think if they knew. we always appear to be the conservative traditional couple.
Only one person knew about my ex-wife’s FB. a friend of hers (divorced) had us over to her house for dinner one night. After a little Vino, somehow the subject came up. The look on her friends face was priceless. at first she thought we had an open marriage, and I explained to her that it was only open on my wife’s side. “and you are OK with that?” I told her I was more than OK with it. She told my ex that she was a lucky woman. There is one other person that knew about it, but he will remain nameless.
The only people that know about our MFMs are the three of us that were involved…. at least as far as I know. I have not told anyone. I am sure my wife has not told anyone, even her closest friends. They are also traditional and conservative.
One thing that does get me in these situations,…… Why is it OK for the wife to have sex with another man (or woman in my wife’s case), but there is no way they would allow the husband to have sex with another woman? Whatever happened to what is good for the goose is good for the gander?

 

I found that you can't really explain it without first pointing out some major flaws in our notions of marriage and monogamy. You married her and you pretty much vowed, before God and company, that you were going to love and with her through in sickness and in health and for better or worse and, in this situation, "worse" is finding out that one or both of you need something that you can't provide for each other... as long as you're playing by the rules. People would ask me how the fuck I can let my wife have sex with other people and the short version was, "We changed the rules."

And, yes, she wanted to change the rules and exclude me from doing what she wanted to do, and I invoked the goose and gander thing and, okay, if you wanna do this, this is what it's going to cost you; otherwise, we're done and a lawyer will be contacting you with some papers. I know guys who are happy with being excluded from wifey's activities with other people, i.e., dude, you can have all the sex with men that you want but you cannot, will and better not have sex with another woman! And for some men, that's not going to fly, sweetheart. It can't fly. Which is why both people have to sit down and change the rules because the reality is this isn't just about you since this is going to affect the whole of your relationship and if you don't make this about us, well, Houston, we have a problem...