Pushed into a Bi Life?

1st ever post and I’m not a good writer, so please bear with me…
Now 61, married, and like others the sex life is barely and rarely there. So at this point, if there’s has ever been any curiosity in a man’s life, does it feel like your wife is almost pushing or forcing you into bisexuality to get some basic intimacy back into your life, let alone some sexual thrill? (If you understand my intent with the question…)

 

Yes completely I went to the bi route because I was starved for affection and contact. Always been bi curious but took the plunge last year due to no sex at all for a year it’s now been 2 1/2 years at home . Being with a guy fulfills needs and makes you wanted and desired. I found that I really enjoy being with a guy and guys are more open to try things.i feel much sexier too now

 

i think a lot of times, guys simply getting tired of all the hoops we have to jump through and drama and nonsense we are subjected do with women.. more and more men are turning to guys.. simply cause sex is easier to get. most men just want to get off.. so its easier to get. women like to think they rule the roost with a pussy.. but guys learn as they old older.. its simply not worth the cost.

 

I would hazard a guess that some wives, when they cut sex off, hope their husband finds someone else to scratch their sexual itch with and if it's with a man, at the least, they "feel better" about him not seeing a woman. If nothing else, it probably feels like she's pushing you in that direction but I'm also guessing that if you were to ask her if that's what she's doing, she'd look at you like you've lost your mind and categorically deny it. So... is bisexuality something you're really interested in?

 

I don't think it is easier to have a bi relationship. I have a dead bedroom at home and though I have had a few invites from some men on another site there is no one yet I would want to suck my cock let alone suck theirs.

 

I'm thinking that maybe you've picked up the complicated torch - isn't that interesting?

 

You did ask, my friend!

 

This is a good place to be. Just know you're not alone.

 

Men can be just as complicated as women when it comes to sex and intimacy and romance, and vice versa.

 

It is and has been more so the past 8-10 years as I’ve encountered more husbands and actual friends who came out to me that they enjoy oral bi action; sad is both of them are a 1000+ miles away or…
Anyway, yes, it wouldn’t and hasn’t taken that much of a push other than my wife losing interest, giving me pity sex when we do it, and the bedroom just drying up

 

I hate pity sex just gave up on asking because it isn’t fun at all you know she isn’t into it. Might as well hump the pillow.

 

So

So, whatcha gonna do, brotha? Are you gonna go for it or...?

 

Definitely not alone,

 

I have a few times already; a few times. I’ve had the good fortune of one husband who we both sucked each other and he fucked me .
I was on vacation, got a massage from a guy, and lucky me he also fucked me - but few moments far between

 

Similar to your story, I have enjoyed wondering how it would be, But have decided to enjoy the experiences, I wish I had not waited so long.

 

Your situation is epidemic. It is very common for a woman to loose interest in sex after menopause. I don’t think most women intentionally push their men toward sex with other men, I just don’t think they fully understand how powerful the sex drive is in a man. I put it this way to my wife, let’s say I loose my taste for chocolate and because I have no desire for chocolate anymore I believe it is reasonable that you don’t have chocolate anymore either.
So no more chocolate. Ever! How long before you start eating chocolate behind my back?
She said “ I don’t care how you solve the no sex dilemma, I just don’t want to know about it”.

 

I will give it a try.
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