Kinsey Scale, & your desires. Gay or Bi?

Kinsey scale quizzes say I'm a 3 (bi) or a 4 (mostly gay with incidental heterosexual tendencies. I'd say I'm today I'm 4 or 4.5. I've sucked cock, used toys & have strong desire to have cock (bareback) in my ass. All my sexual fantasies have been all gay for a couple decades. Now to find a guy to top me regularly. I used to think I was vers..but lately I'm having strong desires to bottom & no longer get rock hard, have trouble staying hard, difficulty cumming, which I now find as a turn on (along w/ denied & ruined orgasms & chastity cages). Love the feeling of toys in me & sucking cock. So answering another post, yes you can & do. change your sexual desires over time.

WHAT ARE YOUR EXPERIENCES & THOUGHTS?

 

I waver between 2 and 3 on the scale; I suck cock, I'm versatile but I'd rather do oral than anal; been there, done that, got bored with it. You'd have to be... special to me for us to fuck although, rarely these days, I get this urge to be boned. Yeah, I'm just weird like that. I don't have any kinks or fetishes and when I say that you have to be special to me, I don't necessarily mean being romantically inclined with a guy. I loved a guy once, it was an eye-opening experience for me, and I've not met a guy I could fall in love with ever since.

I can't say that my desires have changed over all this time. I've always said that I love women and pussy too much to give it up just to be with a man.

 

The older I've gotten the higher my number has been on the Kinsey scale, starting out as a 1 from 14-31, increasing from 2 to 4 during the period of 32-59, and now, at 62, via the two IDR Labs tests, I'm 5 out of 6 gay, or 96.4% homosexual. Since 2020 when I broke up with my last girlfriend I've self identified as gay, and from 8 years of age to the present the vast majority of the sex I've had has been with guys (hundreds compared to only 3 girls). All my fantasies since 30 years of age have been gay. But I've only started developing romantic crushes on guys since 59, with no romantic relationship yet. It's the special intimacy of inserting my cock into another guy's asshole and fucking him that began really turning the tide for me (at 51), along with terrible relationships with girls my whole life (nothing but rejection, and my only 2 relationships, which were with women, were both filled with many breakups).

I still find women attractive, and in porn even sexually attractive (except for pussy (labia specifically) which repulses me the last two years). This attraction to women, but with no desire to have sex with them anymore, continues to confuse me. And the last 4 times I've been with guys I've had erectile problems (keeping my erection), preventing penetration, and difficulties orgasming. This now adds to my confusion: am I losing my desire for guys, or is it my being out of shape the last few years and with possible medication effects contributing to my erectile dysfunction? Or have I just overused my cock in countless hours of masturbating and edging to gay porn since 30, now catching up with me? And certainly the following has not helped: after more than 30 years of being a practising Buddhist, I just learned, only a few months ago, from my Buddhist teacher in a teaching he gave, that Buddha taught that gay sex is considered sexual misconduct and a non-virtue, something that I originally was told was fine. Honestly, I just don't know what the heck is going on with me.

 

There should be another clasification,Desperation

 

If only. I know that I've turned guys to "the bi side" because of desperation. I've had guys who have sworn on everything they can think of that they'd never "do some shit like that" - and they've either flooded my mouth or my ass with a lot of cum and many, in turn, got the same thing from me. Still, I would think that "desperation" is more of a reason why a guy could go from K0 - 100% straight - to K2 or K3 because trying to have sex with women has always been a hit or miss - and usually more miss - proposition. A friend gets all turned on by a girl who, at the worst possible moment, tells him that, nope, they're not going to have sex and I see him walking in a way that I'd learned meant that, yep, another guy got riled up and left hanging and his balls have got to be killing him. I learned that if he could even jerk off, that could provide some relief but, ahem, getting a blowjob is better and being able to fuck even more so.

So perfect to "take advantage of." Unashamed that I've taken a guy's misery and turned it into my idea of fun - and knowing what "helping him out" could do to him. A guy would say, after the fact, that this wasn't something they'd do all of the time, they love women, yada, yada but the next time he couldn't get laid, he's looking for me. He's now gone from K0 to K1; maybe he stays there, maybe he "graduates" to another level, or maybe he slides back down to K0 because his "guilty conscious" won't let him enjoy watching me sucking his dick and holding onto him while he gives up his cum.