Intensified bi/gay feelings after coming out

Discussion in 'Bisexual' started by FugitiveGreen, Jul 17, 2025 at 4:20 PM.

  1. FugitiveGreen

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    Hello, so I (M) came out to my partner/ fiancé recently, it went down pretty well as she's also bi and she didn't seem all that surprised lol. I've felt pretty good and relieved since I told her and I've found we've actually become closer through it.

    I have found since telling her that I think about being with other men a lot! Like I've opened the bi flood gates. I've suppressed my feelings towards the same sex for years! Now I think about a lot of sexual stuff like sucking cock and the urge to try being bottom with another man, I always thought of myself as being top but I'd love to try it. I find myself openly checking out other men and not really caring. I love my partner very much and I still find women attractive.

    My question is has anyone else found this after coming out?
     
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  2. KDaddy23

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    It's been my experience that people who come out successfully to a partner can feel like a great weight has been lifted off their shoulders and now they're free to express themselves openly. Bisexuality, all by itself, is one hell of an eye-opening experience but, yeah, you betcha, when you can come out and not get kicked in the balls?

    Priceless.
     
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  3. Joshualooking2

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    It was the same for me after I came out to my wife it’s like internal barriers I set up for my self fell away and allowed myself to think about men more freely
     
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    Way to go in opening up and having clear communication with you partner…once I opened up to my wife …I found our marriage was stronger …we started an open relationship…now it’s been soo much relief that I can make love to my wife and be openly share how much I adore and crave men. I had many threesome with wife …she has watched me in many mm action as well. I have serviced her lovers …now i have an active bi/gay life …recently I got in to gay love relationship….wife is the one who encouraged me….
    Being able enjoy sex any way you see fit and you can share with your wife is priceless and having the support even better …

    good luck !! Don’t be afraid to explore …men are easier …no drama …amazing times!!
     
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  5. FugitiveGreen

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    It's really great to hear that this seems to be a thing. A weight definitely feels lifted.
     
  6. FugitiveGreen

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    We've talked about opening up our relationship, it's actually how I ended up coming out to her. We're just going to take things slow though.
     

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