So what am I?

I’m in the Love and Sex community most of the time…focusing on the word sex and I often hear the use of Bi and I’ve also seen percentages used.

If you follow me, you know I do lots of gangbangs, train bangs, etc. Generally my goal is to get as many cocks in me as I can and there is nothing in my vocabulary that links my sexual activity to love or romance. During these events there are other girls who will clean me out and then deposit into my hungry mouth…there is kissing, but no other reciprocity to the girls…does what I describe in this scenario make me Bi?

The next scenario is rather opposite in that it is a girls weekend (only a few times a year at best). Usually I end up getting gangbanged by a bunch of girls with strap ons whilst I have my face in their crotches. Most of the girls in this group claim to be 100% lesbian and a couple Bi…I have a good time, but I don’t crave it like I do real cocks. So how does this factor in to what I am…there are no guys in this scenario?

I have also a couple one on ones with other females, but never with one man and two females.

So how does one actually classify…is it based on actual practice? So some have told me I’m 90% straight and 10% Lesbian…but then does that basically just mean I’m Bi?

 

Hi
Welcome yep bi. I love sucking cock and getting fucked by guys but I love women too. If I had to chose I go girl first then guy. But sex with both men and women is fun and hot just enjoy yourself and who your with guy or girl and why worry about labels

 

I don’t think the percentage is important really. If you are enjoying yourself do you need to quantify your percentage of enjoyment with men vs women? Honestly it is likely to change over time. Our sexuality is a continuum, ever changing with our experience and age. It’s all part of the journey.

 

You are my dream!

 

The moment you try to quantify your sexuality or sexual activity, you're making a mistake. It's not about 90% hetero, 10% lesbian - it's about how Jenna enjoys sex and not many things are off-limits. It's crazy that people are prone to trying to put numbers to their sexual activities...

 

Jenna, you would most likely be a Kinsey 1, and either the terms bisexual or heteroflexible in English, and aromantic, since you have no romantic interest in ether sex?
The Kinsey scale is 0 for exclusively heterosexual and 6 for exclusively homosexual.
Everything in between is some version of bisexual.

 

I think everyone is different, Jenna. Some people, like myself, struggle with the labels. Others, as you can see in this thread, see labels are unimportant. But I do agree with everyone that sexuality is not only on the Kinsey scale (a very real thing), but is fluid, i.e. constantly moving.

First I considered myself straight (despite having a "boyfriend"--though we never called each other that--and had a lot of sex with him from 8-13). But girls and women always rejected me, and I only lost my virginity at 27, with a woman who broke up with me 3 times in our 3-year relationship. After that third break up, gay desires and fantasies flooded my mind, and I started having sex with guys. Despite powerful gay desires and fantasies about doing everything with a guy, I only ended up doing oral, hundreds of times in different gay sex venues like bathhouses, including group scenes there, and also a monthly gay orgy in a hotel suite for a year. But every time I lost all gay desire when naked with other guys in real life, but still had oral sex with them. There were only 5 exceptions over these 21 years where I didn't lose my desire for the guys I was with, which kept me going back looking for that real life desire and enjoyment. So for 21 years I called myself bi-confused.

It was only when I actually kept not only my gay but also my anal desires when with a real guy, and fucked my first guy at that 21 year mark, and really enjoyed our sex together, that I called myself bisexual. After that I hooked up with guys in each other's homes, and enjoyed sex with every one of them. I was bisexual. Then it was after girlfriend #2, and another very rocky relationship, with her breaking up with me many times, and my finally breaking up with her, and having no desire left to ever have sex let alone romance with another woman, that I labelled myself gay. I've been living as a gay man ever since, for 5 years now.

But who knows what the future holds. I wish I didn't have to struggle with labels, but I do, despite so many guys here saying it's not necessary: "Just enjoy sex with whomever you have it with." But that doesn't seem to be me. So, whether I've been straight, then bi-confused, then bi, and then gay, or I've been gay all along and just denying it, I'm stuck with whatever desires I have in every moment. So I give this advice to both you and me: just enjoy or not enjoy sex with whomever you have it with, but mostly try to have as much sex as you can with those you enjoy it with now.

 

I wouldn’t worry about all that. Just be you..

 

Exactly.

 

That’s right, I would hate to not experience something, just because it isn’t on the label!

 

So I’ll just tell people I’m Bi…or maybe there is something like Tri…a joke maybe?

 

Lol

 

In my mid 70's and as horny as a high school senior, I/we have tried almost every trick in the book. It didn't mean anything other than having a great sexual experience and orgasm. Wife and I both tried same sex partners and neither of us feels gay/bi or anything else , other than experienced and not afraid to have satisfying and harmless fun. How else can you judge something, unless you Know?

 

You could just say "I am me" or that you're 'polysexual', if you really need to put yourself into a specific box.
I like that you are who you are and you do what you (choose) to do. x

 

If you have to tell them something, you can tell them that you're "bi with the right person" - and let them figure out what that really means.

 

…Hey, I was wondering, does KDaddy mean Kool Daddy?

 

Actually, um, it's short for "Khaan Daddy," and a m.oniker a young male lover gave me and... it stuck. "Khaan" is a nickname I got in high school (one of many I had back then). Am I cool? I like to think so!

 

I’ve never really liked the term “bisexual” for people that only have sex with both genders but are romantically connected to one gender. I think there are people that enjoy sex with the same gender but not romantic with them and calling them bisexual dilutes someone that likes (sexually and romantically) both genders. I enjoy sex with guys but it’s just sex. Some say I’m in denial when I say I’m not bisexual but I don’t care. I don’t really like labels anyway.

 

So, who says you have to be romantically connected to both sexes? I'm fairly certain that if I'm romantically connected to one sex, that doesn't invalidate the fact that I'm bisexual and I'm not diluting anyone who is sexually and romantically connected. Almost all bisexual men I know are into guys for the sex and into women for the sex and everything else. Most of those guys believe that it's impossible for them to get romantically connected to a guy because, yeah, they believe it's a very gay thing to do. I used to be one of those guys until I was romantically connected to a guy as well as sexually. Changed everything I thought I knew about being bisexual but what I also learned to understand is that we're bisexual in our own way and for our own unique reasons.

I very much recall being told that I couldn't be bisexual because I don't like to kiss other guys. I laughed until I hurt my sides and when I could stop laughing, I let them know that no one but me gets to define my bisexuality...

 

I’m not romantic with either, but I definitely prefer cocks…real ones!