For bi men whose wife is still "in the dark".......

KD23:

That last statement (the last line of your excellent response) indeed truly and honestly speaks volumes, for sure......."society" at large is far, far too often too narrow-minded, opinionated, and bigoted.

Again, that last sentence really hit the nail on the head, my friend........

 

We know that society is fucked up. But if guys are sitting around waiting for the world to change, they're going to be waiting for a damned long time. So many men have decided that, shit, fuck that, I'm not waiting for society to get their fucking shit together! They need to do something about this right the fuck now. While taking action with another woman "makes sense," many guys recognize that, sure, they can take up with another woman who's going to fuck their brains out but, at some point, that well is going to run dry, too, and they'll be right back where they started from.

The problem here is that they really don't want to do this with another woman... but getting with a guy? It's still cheating but this is really boys being boys and, whew, some tough choices have to be made, and many men go with the "lesser of the two evils." Maybe they've been here before marriage so they know how good it can be; maybe they've been watching porn and all those big cocks violating mouths, pussies, and assholes and they... wonder what it's like to be him or her and at the mercy of the big cock; maybe that mysterious "voice" in our head says, "Today is a good day to suck cock!"

Maybe getting with a guy is the only "logical" choice. I've had so many married men give me their cum and taking mine and, like I said, I wanted to know why they chose this over pussy (not that I was complaining). For so many of them, it was this or nothing. If I learned nothing else, it's that men will do whatever they have to do to be able to have sex.

Rules? Fuck the rules...

 

KD23:

"Fuck the rules"........once again, your last comment REALY gets to the VERY CORE of it all.....make your OWN rules!!!!!!!!!!!

Go with your OWN flow, and DO NOT allow "society" (or anyone else for that matter) dictate to you HOW you should live YOUR life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We all live our OWN lives, and we DO NOT have to "ask permission" from ANYONE as to HOW we live OUR life...................

 

You have to give yourself permission to make a move like this; it would be so very nice if she would give her permission but, eh, what are the chances of that happening? Again, the problem is that if you're married, you have to answer to some people like your wife and, perish the thought, lawyers and a judge if your light is discovered and she ain't feeling what you did - or why you did it.

 

And that my friend is why I approach it the way that I do. It’s not that I live a lie, I dont. I’m honest with my self on what my realities are and how I choose to respond to them. And not all of that is anyone else’s business. I don’t talk to my children about my bisexuality and more than I have about what position they were conceived in. It’s just not relevant to them.
It is the same with my wife. She has chosen the no sex dynamic in our marriage. I get it that a big portion of that biology and for the sake of this discussion won’t get into all of that. So in effect she also has made this portion of my life not relevant to her. And I’m fine with that.
Just yesterday I went to a friend’s house while she was out and about and had a good time having sex. I came home satisfied. She came home happy also. I didn’t treat her with resentment or have to tell her what I did out of spite. Nope! I kissed her and asked her if she had a good time.
Is that a lie? No. I love her and treat her like I do. It just would not serve any purpose to tell her just hours ago I was getting fucked in the ass and getting my dick sucked. Everyone is happy.

 

Hey, Windman! Can I ask - and would you tell me - why she came home happy as well? I know of a lot of guys who went on the DL, their lady found out but instead of the shit hitting the fan, it introduced them to a very different way to be married...

 

"....the family that 'PLAYS' together, STAYS together....."

 

Yeah, kinda/sorta. Maybe.

 

KDaddy I don't mind at all. She came home happy not knowing I had sex with someone else. I have said here before she has said she doesn’t want to know how I solve “my” no sex at home dilemma. So we don’t talk about it anymore. That said, I m under the impression she thinks I get relief from a rub and tug massage. I don’t. I get a legitimate massage. I’ve been married to this woman for 45 years and know her quite well, she would not like me having sex with a man. So in our case it is not possible that introducing her to my bisexuality would be a success.
Happy is her default disposition. She is typically a happy person. So if she comes home from a day of being out with friends she’s happy. I didn’t pester her for sex that I know she doesn’t get any enjoyment from. I feel better not pestering her for it knowing that if she caves into it she did so out of duty and not desire.

 

Thank you. I've known a couple of wives who told their husbands, "I don't care what you do but whatever it is, I don't want to hear about it." And, yeah, they're happy because he's not begging them for sex or pitching a bitch at them because they ain't trying to have sex.

A win/win I'd say.