Curious

Hey all, I'm new here and super new to even speaking about this side of myself. I'm 40/m and been straight all my life. Lately I had my first guy come onto me experience, and altho I turned it down, it's like ever since all I can do is fantasize about the what ifs and it's like it's woken up a whole side of myself I didn't know was even there. Anyone want to help me explore this side of myself?

 

Go slow.
If he asks again, talk to him about it.
The conversation needs to start sometime and he opened the door.
You do not need to throw yourself out there like a piece of meat. Have standards.
You should still enjoy this after the initial thrill fades.

 

The older I got I have become more bi curious. I don’t know if it’s an age thing but from what I have read on here it’s fairly common. Think about it. Then if you find the the right person act on it. Worst case scenario is that it’s not for you. On the other hand it could open up new adventures

 

Yeah it def seems to be an age thing for me too, I went over to his house and and I've always known he was bi. when I got there he was sitting on the couch with his pants unbuttoned and didn't make an effort to button them, a couple minutes later he said right before I got there he was watching porn and wanted to know if I wanted him to put it back on? It caught me so off guard I said no but ever since I keep wondering if that was his way of saying he wanted to at very least jerk off together? I have to say I find the thoughts of showing myself to another guy extremely exciting, wondering if they'd like it as much as girls do, or more....I'd be willing to explore this fantasy of mine if anyone wants to chat n swap some pics with me?

 

I definitely like looking at nice dicks, I think most guys do if for nothing else just to compare. I don’t think there is nothing wrong with jacking off together. It would be fun, and could make things more comfortable with moving on past that

 

Want to help me explore this fantasy of mine? I'm really curious what another guy would think of me

 

I am ok talking about it

 

Do you think that was his way of inviting me? I mean I dont know how else I could of taken it. I keep thinking about jerking off in front of another guy, watching him n it's really turning me on

 

Go for it. Ask him if he jacks off to porn, what kind and say you would like to watch with him. Then go with the flow if your comfortable with it.

 

I would pursue more time alone with this guy if I were you. Watch some porn together and tell him you are OK with him jerking off with you present, if you like what you see then by all means get yours out and join him. If it leads to mutual oral sex, all the better.

 

Do you think that was his way of inviting me? I just keep fantasizing about what could of happened, n find myself getting really turned on at the thoughts of showing it to another guy

 

I definitely think this is his way of seducing you.

 

It sounds like an opportunity to me. You may want to revisit it with him.

 

Watching porn together is a very common way to get moving down the biway.

 

Yes, he was inviting you. If you are fantasizing about things, then you need to get together with him again and take the next step and experience whatever takes place.

 

I've had a very different journey down the bi path than the vast majority of guys on this website. Often I wish things would've evolved more organically, with a friend, like you have a possibility with. Instead, most all I've ever done is hook up with guys at gay sex venues like porn theaters, arcades and bathhouses, or hooking up through gay dating sites and apps. I just dove into the deep end, driven by my overwhelming and uncontrollable fantasies, desires and mind blowing orgasms watching gay porn. I wish I could have just naturally played with friends.

 

I'd say that, sadly, not all guys were able to start out with friends and when young. A lot of guys 'broke out' the way you did and as an adult and... I did my best to contribute to the growing number of men who learned that having sex with another guy is just a lot of good, pleasurable fun. Your path is your path. Don't look back with any regret because things happen when they're supposed to. Hooking up is just the way it's always been done; you've done it; I've done it; I probably know a hundred or more men who have done it by hooking up. Not unusual for guys "late to the party" to play catch-up to make up for lost time.

The main thing is... you're here now.

 

Good advice. I’m curious as well.

 

Absolutely.

 

Lets see. Someone invites you to his house, greets you with his pants open, and you cant decide if he wants you to grab his cock?