As married man, having a bi/gay life is not easy …on top of that being in gay relationship and openly showing and expressing the gay love … Yesterday I met up with my gay lover, as we have our weekly gay dates and overnight… I waited in the front of his apartment…as I had the car parked on the side ….as he came down ….he came big smile cuddled me and began making out, he held me hard and kissing to the point …I couldn’t resist but at the same time feeling uncomfortable being noticed ….i tried push, but at the same time I was liking it ……when we were making out ..there wasn’t anyone …thought of someone could have seen us …gives me the creeps.., he did this few times in our past dates …as much as i appreciate his love for me …
I would say, even though part of you might be enjoying it, as your tongues are doing their dance in public, if overall you're not feeling comfortable with it, especially if others see you, then why not talk about it with him. Be honest, and let him know of your boundaries. If he's any kind of friend he will respect them. I'm single and so in a very different situation, though I am in the closet. But I have been more comfortable showing signs of affection with other guys in public, as I'm feeling more and more comfortable with the strong gay side of myself. I had been crushing on this guy for months in the large gay social group meetups every week, and one night 1-2 years ago, he invited me to go to a dance club with him. Now, there aren't any gay bars or clubs where I live, so this was of course a regular straight place. But I had no problem dancing with him to the house music, fully in public, surrounded by straight people. It felt kind of freeing. Another time, this year, I went on a dinner date with a gay friend, also from this meetup group, and we held hands over the tabletop in a romantic way, fully public, and then he leaned over and kissed me. I've never done that before, that's for sure. But again, I was totally ok with it, and it felt, again, so freeing. I kind of like living my truth, mostly not caring who sees it (though still a bit afraid). But I don't have anywhere near as much to lose as you might. So I'd recommend open communication with your friend, and express your wishes.
I have several gay and bi male friends who hug and kiss me every time we see each other in public, but it's not like making out. This is the same with my female friends. It just seems like that's more respectful of others. "Making out" is something my lovers and I reserve for more private locations.
You enjoy it; I'd suggest kissing him back. Hug, cuddle, hold hands; normalize public displays of human affection, regardless of gender. Like all humans your body and spirit crave it...as does his. You can lean in to love, or lean in to fear. Your choice
I have had similar experiences as a married bisexual man. I’ve been in public a few times with either a gay or bi friend and had them spontaneously kiss me. I’ve always had to keep it short and say I can’t take the risk of being seen by someone I know. It’s just part of how I have to manage my sexuality with half of it kept out of view.
