In Relationship but still Curious about sucking

Hey, so I am currently in a good relationship, everything is going well, except in the bedroom, we dont have Sex and she is not really willing to try something else like oral. Additionaly I have this new interest about sucking a cock. Its just that, I am not interested in kissing, cuddling or something else, really just jerking off, sucking a cock and maybe penetration as bottom. I am not interested in any romantic things just the sexual part. I have the urge to try it and also already had the opportunity to do it but I could never encourage myself to really go through with it. Not that i wouldnt be into it, its just the fact that I have a girlfriend. At the same time, everything else in the relationship is going well, but i know she would never be willing to share, experiment whatsoever. I dont know what to do because the urge is getting stronger and yet i dont even know if i will really like it. Need advice here

 

A lot of guys on this site same thing, in a relationship but no sex. Myself included I have a good marriage but it’s been 2 1/2 years since we had sex. It’s more of a physical thing for her. I’ve given up so I went the bi root cause like you always interested. I found it help fill in for lack of sec. It’s fun and I’ve found I’m pretty kinky. So I say if you want to try go for it, it will help and you won’t resent it he angry at her

 

And a lot of guys don't want the kissing, hugging, and romantic stuff - they just wanna have the sex...

 

I think you won't really know whether you like it until you've tried it 3 times or more, with the same guy. My DMs are open if you want/need a private chat about it.

Bazz

 

Once doesn't always 'prove' that you like it. You should always do it again to make sure that the first time wasn't a fluke. Then as Bazz says, do it a third time with the same guy and in different settings.

 

Many of us here have been in the same boat so I suggest you locate a partner to experiment with and just jump into the pool. You'll never know until you try it out. Yes, three times is a charm as I was completely comfortable and let go of and doubts, I may have had as the enjoyment level far exceeded any expectations I had. I've said to myself a number of times that I thought I was born to suck cock.

 

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When wife sugested I do it with a close friend, I scoffed at the idea. He was safe and willing to help me satisfy my carnal needs. It wasn't until my third time , that I realized it was more fun then I imagined. Each time I became more into it and tried to show that I was good at it too. I was able to deep throat him, which surprised my wife when she watched.

 

I've been with a handful of first timers. All of them liked it. One guy took a few days to process it, but he was back for more and quite eager and it completely flipped him to men. He hasn't been with a woman since.

The big danger with it is getting cock lust. Once you try it, wanting it again can become a distraction.

I've also been with a lot of married men, and I don't think any of them viewed is as cheating.

 

Cock lust. I like this and I'm going to steal it. It's a real danger for some guys and I've had to pull guys back down because they went batshit crazy trying to suck every dick they could lay their eyes on. One guy asked, "Why didn't you tell me it could be like this?" and I replied, "I did tell you and I even told you that I was cock crazy for a lot of years before I got a grip on myself. So, now, let's talk about how to make you a little less eager to suck dick..."

And that's just simply being reminded that while sucking dick is da shit (who knew, right?), you still have other responsibilities to take care of and even more so when you have a wife or girlfriend who is expecting you to dick her down when she wants it.

 

Cock lust is real as I experienced it heavily over a 10-year period.

 

My journey in this area is well documented in this forum. And it’s been just that, a journey. In my experience once you get comfortable with the idea of giving into having sex with a man it’s enjoyable and once experienced it’s tough to ignore. I’m also available to chat via dm.

 

I haven't gone batshit crazy, but close a lot of times. I do get to the point that no amount of jerking off will fix desires, and I do some rather unadvisable things. Visiting cruising spots and glory holes is my weakness in this regard and no amount of anything other than cock will fix desires. I was on the receiving end of a guy driven batshit insane with cock lust, and the blowjob and orgasm was supernatural. Too bad I only got to hook up with him twice.

But then again my natural state of horniness is probably on the level of blind cock lust for guys with regular sexual appetites. If I allowed myself to be completely promiscuous, then it would be a cinch to have partners in the numbers approaching 1000+. Maybe one of these days I will break down and become a sperm bank.

 

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I think that cock lust is "part of things;" I know that guys I introduced to cocksucking all said that they couldn't get enough of it, couldn't do it enough, did I know other guys who liked doing this? I know that I lost my fucking mind once I found that sucking dick and swallowing cum was so highly exciting; the guys who learned this before I did were just as cock crazy. Now, being promiscuous was - and probably still is - consider to be very bad but I was confused: If I wanted to have sex, didn't I have to do things in order to have it? I was promiscuous as all-get-out; anyone, anywhere, any time and, in retrospect, yeah, that was insane, but any sense of 'wrongness' became moot because the only thing that happened was that I was having sex... like it was illegal.

What kept me kinda in check was knowing what happened with my male friends in these things and, yes, their promiscuity led to them having bad things happen to them and I learned that you not only learn from your own mistakes, you also learn from the mistakes made by those around you. In those wild, cock lusting days, it was no harm, no foul, who else wants to do it to and with me? There weren't really that many days when I didn't have sex with a guy, from sucking dick to fucking and while I was starting to learn how they said that this behavior was abnormal, well, shoot - it all felt very normal to me.

I've felt that "after a while," the cock lust... subsides. You still want dick but you eventually learn to pick and choose your victims - um, partners - and then go about the bizness of slacking your cock lust upon them and when you've left them panting and drained, you're already thinking about who you can do this to next...