Hi — I’m (24F), Arab, femme, and queer. I’ve known I’m into women since I was a teenager, and have had a few relationships with girls back in school, but I’ve spent the last few years avoiding that part of myself. I grew up in a religious Muslim household where marriage — specifically to a man — is considered the ultimate goal. I stuck to that expectation for a long time, trying not to disappoint my parents, trying to convince myself I could stay in that box. But I’m done. I don’t want to lie to myself anymore. I don’t want to choose relationships that drain me just because they’re "acceptable." I haven’t been with a woman in a long time, and I’ve been scared to try again. I’ve seen horror stories, and I don’t want to hurt anyone if I’m still figuring things out. I also feel a little confused about how to be with women again. I used to present more masc, but I’ve grown into a very femme identity, and now I find myself drawn to masc women — especially ones who are emotionally grounded, soft domme vibes i guess? So I’m here asking: If you’re a femme who got back into dating women after a long time — how did it go? If you’re a masc woman, what do you look for in femmes who may be exploring again? Is it okay that I’m not 100% sure what role I want to play in a relationship yet? Any general advice for someone coming into this space again — more honest, but still a little nervous? I’m not new to being queer — but I’m finally being open about it, and I’d love any insight from others who’ve been there. Thanks so much
My thoughts, just be who you are, honest about your feelings and open to others, I'm sure you'll find those who will find you interesting. Good luck!
@Samaisscared - I was born in a Muslim household all my life too, so I know how it can be. I have always been attracted to a certain type of man way outside the Muslim norm. I converted to a different religion and left it all behind to follow my dreams of being with the one I love. My advice is just follow your heart and do what makes you happy. Embrace your femineity, exude confidence and you will attract who is for you. Good luck!
