Infidelity cheating depression

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by bitandbobslikenobs, Oct 24, 2025.

  1. bitandbobslikenobs

    bitandbobslikenobs Newbie

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    Looking for opinion. Things got complicated 8 years ago when my wife was offered £1000 by this rich, influential guy to sleep with him. I begged her not to, but she went ahead anyway, and then did it three more times after that, including once right in our house. It broke me, we separated for a bit, and during that time she started working as an escort. Her sister stayed in the house, and one night while my wife was gone, the sister and I ended up having sex. It just happened.

    Eventually, my wife came back, apologized profusely, and we've patched things up—our marriage is solid now, and we have sex at least once a week. I don't neglect her at all. But here's the issue: I've kept sleeping with her sister on the side for the last 5 years. It's not constant, but whenever I can—quickies mostly, since she's always available and loves them. She doesn't want a boyfriend, so she likes this no-strings arrangement. I tried to stop when my wife moved back in, but the sister got me drunk one day and tempted me, and I'm weak like that—I can't resist when it's right there in front of me, naked and willing. My sex drive is super high, which doesn't help.

    On top of that, I'm sometimes suspicious my wife is still sleeping with other men. No hard proof, but she comes home smelling different occasionally, and I've seen suspicious stains on her underwear a couple times. It nags at me.

    The main problem is I'm starting to feel guilty about the thing with the sister, even though I love it and the thrill. Part of me wants to stop, but I don't know how—I've tried, but temptation wins every time. Any advice on how to handle this? Should I come clean to my wife, or find a way to end it with the sister without drama? Or is this just something I should embrace since everything else is working? Thanks for any thoughts.
     
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  2. 6Sailor9

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    I would be honest with wife and possibly she would’nt mind you continuing with sister and maybe a threesome. Might turn out a foursome with your suspicious wife mate. But open up to her!!
     
  3. Longzi

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    I think you have to determine what you want more, your wife, or her sister.
    If you want to truly commit to your wife you need to sit down with her and both of you put all your cards on the table and figure it out.
    Otherwise you both are wasting each others time.
     
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