When left with the choice of Bi or Nothing, what do you choose

In this situation, I'm rarely surprised that a guy would change his mind in these things. I understand remaining faithful; I understand the reticence and hesitancy regarding the potential to fail with a woman but there comes that moment when beating your meat isn't good enough and only serves to frustrate so now your choices are to continue with essentially nothing or... find out what millions of guys who aren't gay have found out about the "simple" pleasure of being sucked off by a guy. Or the joy in sucking cock or, if you're down like that, anal sex as either a top, bottom, or it doesn't make a difference as long as you get to get laid.

I do understand why someone would choose nothing and it's one of those things that makes sense... and it doesn't.

 

I like that. My wife had never had any interest in women, in spite of my encouragement there. I would love to have a FWB with another man, a running, workout buddy on the side. Unfortunately that isn't going to happen.

 

"Either you suck dick or you don't."
This is the simplistic phrase I heard in the past to disprove bisexuality (in men). But I think it kind of applies here. If you're straight as an arrow, horny and not getting any, you're probably not gonna turn to the same sex just because you're horny. Because the point of sex is the other person and true (as opposed to diluted not fake) heterosexuals need that other person to be of the opposite sex by definition. It's a necessary, nonnegotiable condition.
The thing is, is there such a person as a true heterosexual, even virtually true?

 

You never underestimate the power of what a lack of sex will make someone do. Sex is supposed to be boy/girl only except we know that it's not the only way to have sex - that's just the preferred way. Is it non-negotiable? Hell, no, it isn't because if it was, there would be no homo- or bisexuals and, besides, heterosexuality is a social construct and while we can make the argument that homo- and bisexuality are also social constructs, the preference and insistence to be heterosexual has never, ever stopped anyone from not being heterosexual.

I'm not lying or trying to blow smoke up someone's ass when I say that I've had sex with men because they were horny and the chances of them getting some pussy were nil - and that included those men who, by social contract, should have been able to go home and have sex with their wife or girlfriend. Many of them didn't want to because they believed in total heterosexuality... but needs must and it's one of those things that society doesn't want to talk about regarding men and our hard-wired drive to have sex and if it's with another guy, that just works. Fuck morality and social norms - blue balls hurts like a motherfucker.

A lot of guys, when faced with a lack of pussy, will gladly engage in sex with other guys... until the flow of pussy returns and he's back to being "straight..." until the pussy dries up again or he's in a situation where he needs to have sex and there's no pussy available but that guy at the bar just dropped a hint that, ahem, if they were to go somewhere for a nice blowjob session, that wouldn't necessarily be a bad thing.

There are men who, left with the choice of becoming bisexual or having nothing will choose nothing over committing a sin, breaking a taboo, or cheating on a woman who isn't having sex with him. The facts of life are that not all men would do this and I've bedded "more than my fair share" of them or they've bedded me because, as one guy said, "This is better than nothing..."

Then buried 9" of hard dick in my ass and busted a nut in me. Our beliefs say that he should have done this to a woman; the reality is that he didn't and he's not the only guy who has busted a nut in another man's backside because, again and as he had said, it's better than nothing.

The rules say that he should settle for nothing. So many men say, "Fuck the rules..."

 

I suppose everyone has their price, or almost everyone.
And yes, some will desperately not switch sides because it's oh so wrong (lol).
But I truly believe some percentage of guys truly couldn't care less about dick or anything else about the same sex no matter how horny they get. Somewhat obviously I won't argue the percentage is nearly as high as it seems. And sure, it would take exceptional circumstances for a good percentage of guys to consider checking things out, which would mean a big percentage of us is technically on that bi spectrum, I guess. But short of putting a gun to the head there must be some, even a few, that wouldn't consider it at all.
I don't know. Maybe this isn't worth arguing at all. Guys (and gals, and everyone else) should just go for whatever and whomever they want no matter their gender and stop making such a big fucking fuss about it, meaning both making laws about it and maybe even analyzing it.

 

I knew guys who wouldn't consider it with two guns to their heads. They'd tell the gunmen to go ahead and pull the triggers. The thing is that you respect a man's right to choose and if he chooses nothing in this situation, then it is what it is. Now, I've also heard these guys run down the exact exceptional circumstances that would have to happen for them to have sex with a guy and I've found myself laughing because they think that they've come up with every exception known to man that would keep them from having sex with another man and not even considering that... shit happens and when you least expect it to... or want it to.

I did ask one of those guys, "What happens if the exceptions are met? Then what?"

He kinda laughed and said, "I guess I'll be sucking dick, huh? But how likely is that to happen?"

I declined to answer except to say, "Never say never."

 

Maybe off topic, but the thing is there are times in my bi-cycle when I honestly do not want anything to do with homosexuality in my sex life, (adding to be relevant to the post) even though I'm not getting any attention from any ladies and desperately need some. In those times guys are just not a solution at all.
Then like a light switch all of a sudden in my mind I'm the one with the gun walking into a locker room of a football team forgetting about girls for awhile and demanding the guys gangbang me.
These are my emotional responses. Theoretically my answer is it's a sexual experience worth exploring and I'm open to the right opportunities. And yes, also theoretically switching genders is worth considering for me when ladies aren't available for any reason.

 

This is a thought-provoking topic….. at least for me.
Way back in my youth, me and my neighbor buddy were frequent suck buddies. it was fun for a couple of horny teenagers, a much needed release with no girls interested in us two. But that was almost a quarter century ago.
Early on in my relationship with my current wife (it will be my last wife) I confessed to her, my useful indiscretions. At first, she was shocked, but eventually, the idea grew on her, to the point that she got off on bi porn and pegging. we had a few “straight” MFMs which she loved…. so did I…. and it was her that suggested finding a suitable bi guy that we could both have fun with. it never worked out…. too many fakes out there.
Our once exploding sex life has imploded in a big way. Age and attitude! We have not been intimate in years. Would she consent to me having a “buddy”? no way in hell! I do not want a romantic relationship with a guy. Just a couple of sexless safe married dudes, helping each other out. That is my ultimate fantasy. Let’s go play some golf or tennis, Hit the 19th hole, And get down to business. I will see you next week. Let’s go shooting…..pun intended! A manly man.
There is no way on God’s green earth that she would give me her blessing for something like that. She won’t give it up, so that means I don’t get any. SMH!

 

I think the answer is D: All of the Above! Nothing wrong with just having a buddy where maybe it's all just about getting each other off. Nothing wrong with wanting to have a relationship with another guy. And nothing wrong with being in a committed relationship and exploring outside of it. So long as all are consenting in each situation.

So D. Final answer!

 

"It's not something I'd do all of the time..." is a sentiment I've heard from goo-gobs of men over the years, and it makes me laugh because, presumably, only gay dudes do it "all of the time" or, more likely, it's their one and only source for sex. Bi guys have, at least in theory, two sources but even then, having sex with guys isn't something that's done "all of the time" because like soulpoker said, there are times when I don't want anything to do with another guy. When I first experienced this, I thought there was something wrong but, nah, it's just that sexual ebb and flow thing that had let me know how fluid my sexual desires could be. Today, I'm trying to splooge all the pussy I can get my dick into and...

...then I'm the one with the gun and walking into the locker room and bending over the football team so they can suck me off and I can fuck each and every one of them and... I no longer pay any attention to these moments. The wheel in my head that's always spinning will stop on "Dick" or "Pussy" and, sometimes, get stuck between the two which could mean both... or nothing at all.

 

This is me 100 percent. Sexless in my marriage going on close to a decade, and I’d never get the pass to get it on with a guy or a girl. In that period I’ve busted in several guys’ mouths, and had a couple of cocks in mine. The wife only heard about the HJ I got from a male masseur (which I told her about precisely to see whether she’d be cool with it. Not really, just mystified).

I keep looking for the same kind of FWB deal, the perfect guy or set of guys I can easily explain hours out of the house with “gone fishing/cycling/golfing/camping”. This summer I even used the camping excuse to go to a clothing optional campground in WV and while it was liberating to walk around in my birthday suit and I did indeed spot a couple of cute guys who set off my gaydar, the only thing happening at night in my tent was me and my personal joystick.

<sigh>

 

As frustrating as it is at the time at least you'll always have two things (left & right hand) available that will always be willing to help you out during your sexual frustration.

 

As much as I’ve tried, never been successful with my non-dominant hand. Life goals?! lol

I’m also hoping that when I end up in a retirement community I’ll find the guys who in their 80s like to gum cock. We know there’s lots of sex going on there and the odds of there being many cocksuckers is pretty high.

 

i’m pretty much the same way. I can only use my right dominant hand. I’ve tried my left just a couple of times (none lately) and it did nothing for me. Actually, it was kind of awkward. so I will stick with my trusty right hand.
And I do not even wanna think about a retirement home. if I get to the point that I cannot rely on my wife (if she is still living) or take care of myself, I would just as soon hire someone to come in to my home and take care of me, or-be dead.

 

It does kinda beg the question of what a guy is to do when beating the bishop... ain't getting the job done all that much.

A funny story. Kind of. I'm right-handed and I'd always masturbated right-handed until in March of 2006, I had a stroke that affected my right side. I no longer had the motor control to spank the monkey right-handed so it left me trying to do it left-handed and it took me over a year to be able to get myself off with my left hand. Nineteen years later and... I still can't jerk off right-handed. I regained a modicum of the finer motor control needed to do it but it's like I've totally forgotten how to do it with my dominant hand.

If I weren't already bisexual, this would make me insane and would have, likely, driven me to having sex with men.